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How do you trust a sitter from a website?

twirlyjack73twirlyjack73 member
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Even if you do a background check & they've worked for you for awhile how do you know they're not just waiting in the wings to kidnap your child the first time you leave them alone?  How do you trust them??  I've always had friends daughters but now I have a stranger & don't know how to get comfortable leaving the house.  TIA
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Re: How do you trust a sitter from a website?

  • jldittberjldittber

    It is tough, no doubt.  I'm all for putting a GPS on kids!  LOL

    What I have done in the past is do trial days.  Meaning I'd set up a sitter for a few hours, tell them I'd be home at X, but stop at home 3 or 4 times in that span just doing local errrands.  After a few times, how my son reacted a sitter would be how I picked my "regulars".

    We had 3 when we lived in the Netherlands, 2 of them he loved, one of the others he could take her or leave her. The one we used the most I just created a personal relationship to her, she came on a few trips with us and stuff. 

     As far as kid napping, anyone could be plotting that.. so you can never truely plan, profile or what ever we want to call it.  Its a fear that's built into us.

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  • smerkasmerka member

    I had the lady helping me when I was recovering from a csection so I was home most of the time until I felt comfortable enough to leave her alone with the boys.  You could try a trial run where you are home but not around (upstairs cleaning, etc) and listen to see how things are going.  But at a certain point you just have to have faith in people and trust your gut. 

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  • Stephanie2167Stephanie2167 member

    You have to go with your gut. We found our babysitter from a friend who found her on care.com. She works at a daycare during the week. She watched DD a handful of times and once she watched her all day on a Saturday so that DH and I could go snowboarding (we don't live near any family).

    I've never once thought about what you mentioned above. Thanks for putting it in my head. haha


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  • countrymice06countrymice06 member

    We have had two nannies from Care.com- one a "cool" right out of college girl, and one 65 year old woman.  We had the young girl first and although on the outside she seemed so fun and outgoing, etc, I never felt like we clicked.  It wasn't like I thought she would kidnap my LO, I just didn't love the arrangement.

    The older woman was just a better fit.  She just SEEMS more stable.  She hasbeen doing it for years in the same community, had tons of references, and reminded me of my own Grandma.  She is less "educational" than some, but she was just a better fit for us.  I guess what I am saying is that you never really know.  Things go wrong at daycares too, or schools for that matter.  

    You just have to check references, find someone who clicks with your family, 

     

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