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Njmommy2be
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Down Syndrome
Njmommy2be
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Hi ladies,
I just had my first DD today and all my prenatal care showed no red flags for Downs. Well the pediatrician came in today and said she is showing some features of it, her hands, eyes slanting, the bridge of her nose and her tounge.
I am in shock and can't stop crying that I did something wrong. I'm only 26 and DH is 30, and I had a very uneventful pregnancy. They are doing a blood test that will show us results in 2 weeks. They said it is a 50/50 shot she will be shown to have Downs.
Any advice? Anyone been through something like this?
I just had my first DD today and all my prenatal care showed no red flags for Downs. Well the pediatrician came in today and said she is showing some features of it, her hands, eyes slanting, the bridge of her nose and her tounge.
I am in shock and can't stop crying that I did something wrong. I'm only 26 and DH is 30, and I had a very uneventful pregnancy. They are doing a blood test that will show us results in 2 weeks. They said it is a 50/50 shot she will be shown to have Downs.
Any advice? Anyone been through something like this?
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Re: Down Syndrome
Congrats on your new baby!
My pregnancy with DS1 was normal. All our ultrasounds were perfect and he was born stiff as a board. We ended up in the NICU etc and went from there. It took us 15 months to get a diagnosis, he has a mutation on his x-chromosome that I am a carrier of.
My pregnancy with DS2 was normal except for a singled umbilical artery. He had a 50/50 chance of having the same mutation. All his measurments were great compared to DS1's, he kicked a lot, I gave birth naturally, etc. He has the same mutation.
I know exactly how you feel, but be assured, you did nothing wrong. It's a hard time, you're already super hormonal and the baby blues don't help. I'm sorry that you're going through this, but you can get some great support from the women on this board. They've helped me so much through my time of grief.
This board is very supportive and very helpful. I've been told that it is okay to be sad and grieve for the child you thought you would have. My little one doesn't have a diagnosis yet, but I just wanted you to know are not alone and there are people here for you.
Their are a couple other moms here, whose children have down syndrome. I knew a 19 year old whose daughter had down syndrome, so the age can be irrelevant. Did they mention mosaic down syndrome? That would be another possibility if she just has slight facial features. Right now, I would just say, congratulations you have a beautiful baby girl! And I'd try to just be happy about what 'isn't' wrong, as in most babies with down syndrome have serious life threatening heart problems. I know the other moms will be able to give you much better advice.
Their is a well followed blog (some people like her, some people don't) in which the writer, doesn't know her daughter has DS until she is born. You may relate to what she felt at that time. https://www.kellehampton.com/2010/01/nella-cordelia-birth-story.html
Hugs.
When Nate was born they suspected he had Trisomy 18. I also had a pretty uneventful pregnancy and even had a CVS to rule out chromosome issues. The CVS was wrong and Nate ended up having three interstitial deletions on one copy of Chromosome 1.
I know exactly how you feel and it totally sucks. I was sooo pissed at all the other mommies in the hospital who got to have a great and uneventful birth experience. That first night in the hospital sucked donkey balls. Nate was in the NICU for breathing issues, so the hospital room was really lonely once DH fell asleep. I just stared at the ceiling light and cried my eyes out.
It's O.K. to feel this way. It sucks that your child's birth, which should be a joyous occasion, ends up being what you consider your worst nightmare. It does not negate the love you feel for your beautiful daughter. Take the time to grieve the child you thought you would have. It will get better.
Congratulations on your little girl!
P.S. You did ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong. I laugh now at all the precautions I took: no caffiene, sushi, lunchmeat, ibuprofen. Nothing can prevent an accident in cell division.
Congratulations!!
Im sure you are in shock and this is all hard to digest right now. I have a DD who has Ds and she is 3.5, we knew before she was born b/c I had an amnio. She looked great on all her ultrasounds except the NT scan, she had a large nuchal fold and no nasal bone was present. After that she looked great, her NF went back to a normal range and she measured great, 1 day behind on her femurs but that was nothing. If it hadn't of been for having the NT scan and then doing an amnio, we would have gotten a diagnosis at birth too.
I would suggest you check out the babycenter.com boards. There are some great families over there and I have been a member since before I had my amnio. There is a Down syndrome board and the ladies/guys there are just awesome!
I hope the next few weeks pass quickly for you. Please try to remember, that your DD is the same baby she was when you were still pregnant. Bond with her and just love her like you would have done if this hadn't of happened. Please keep us up to date!
Our daughter has Down syndrome, she's turning 1 next week and has a party planned for this Saturday. We'll be celebrating with 70 of the people who love her most.
We found out t 18 weeks pregnant, I was 25 and my husband was 28.
My advice is read blogs and join the Down syndrome board on Babycenter.com. Just google "babycenter Down syndrome". It's a wonderful group of ladies.
My number one advice is remember that you have a baby! They aren't sending you home with a 35 year old with special needs. I kept getting way ahead of myself and worrying about 35 years down the road.
Life is totally normal for us now and I honestly wouldn't change a think about Lauren.
Again, congratulations!
Thanks ladies. We are home now, and she is doing great, I love her to pieces. She passed her EKG, and the cardiologist doesn't want to see her until the end of March.
When we were discharged her *** ox in her hands and feet were both 100%. She passed her hearing test in one ear and refered in her other. She is our healthy little girl now, and we just wait on the results.
I asked the doctor today if she still sees the features and she said yes, so we keep waiting.
Congrats on your baby girl! I could have written this exact scenario; great pregnancy, even the nuclear test where they measure LO's neck was normal. When I delivered the docs kept saying she showed some signs but not all of them. We didn't get a straight answer until we saw the geneticist a week later. On top of that DD has a heart defect that 50% of all Down's syndrome babies are born with. The best advice I got was to enjoy her. For now, she is exactly like every other baby. Cuddle, feed, and help LO gain weight. Giggle at the funny movements, celebrate the burps/poopy diapers, and melt at the coos and smiles.
If she does have Down's syndrome, find the Down's syndrome society nearest you and get involved. The families can give you good advice, tips, a shoulder to lean on, and how to get services for your LO from the government services.