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Feeling guilty

Dolls2011Dolls2011
in March 2013 Moms
Does anyone else feel guilty about being lazy sometimes? I've always felt that way and have been pretty active up until this week. There are things that need to be done around the house, the dog needs a walk, and errands need to be run. But I am 33 weeks as of yesterday and I'm tired, achey, and have no desire to do anything and I feel guilty for it.
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  • AnneleaAnnelea member
    It is sooo easy to feel guilty, i have always been able to keep up on work and the house and i know i take care of a lot of stuff that DH could be doing but i have always just done it. Since getting pregnant i have had to learn to just let things go. usually if i take a few days and rest and take care of myself i wil have really good days when i can tackle my list and i have gave in and let DH take care of a lot of stuff. (even thou its not my way! lol! and sometimes i find dish cloths folded with the washcloths in the bathroom cabnient, but hey at least they are folded!)    The most important thing is to take care of yourself!
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  • wittyschaffywittyschaffy member
    lol - no.  It makes me mad to be lazy!  :)  I'm the type A planner of in my relationship with DH so when I am having a bout of laziness, I get kinda angry with myself.  I'm having to learn that it is OK for me to slow down and that the world won't end if I don't finish the "to do" list over the weekend.  
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  • honeydew01honeydew01 member

    Me! I am also a type A personality and like things done a certain way but I am instructed by the doctor to take it very easy (almost passed out at the store the other day) and I feel so guilty to be sitting at home knowing there are groceries that need to be bought and things that need to be cleaned around the house.

    It also makes me feel guilty that DH gets up at the crack of down, goes to work for 8 hours, then comes home, most often than not cooks dinner and helps with the nursery set up/other house related clean up...These days I am feeling like a non productive member of the society, I mean our household.

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  • Dolls2011Dolls2011
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    It also makes me feel guilty that DH gets up at the crack of down, goes to work for 8 hours, then comes home, most often than not cooks dinner and helps with the nursery set up/other house related clean up...These days I am feeling like a non productive member of the society, I mean our household.


    This. I feel bad that mine works all day and I can't even be bothered to pick up the vacuum or do the dishes some days. Last night he came home after a 12 hour day and finished cooking dinner because I just felt like total crap. I hate this feeling of being tired all the time. It's so frustrating.
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  • astarisbornastarisborn

    I can relate and am feeling it too.  I am 36 weeks tomorrow and if I am on my feet too long or too active, my ankles and feet swell up and I feel sick.  This is the time that there is so much to do and I feel horrible that I can't do much.  I try and then my husband yells at me to sit on my butt because he doesn't want anything to happen to me (sweet, but frustrating!). 

    I am used to being so active and busy - it is killing me!!

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  • stephrodgers07stephrodgers07 member
    I'm with you on this! I'm not the lazy type at all, especially when it comes to cleaning my house, but as of this week 33 week mark my hurting hips and vagina are preventing me from my norm! I have had tons of energy and no pain up until now. While my husband says it's fine i definitely still feel bad.

    I am starting to realize that resting IS important though, maybe more important than a spotless house?
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  • horsevaulterhorsevaulter member
    Yes!! I feel so guilty that I start feeling depressed sometimes! I feel so bad that my DH works so hard all the time, and I can barely get a load of laundry and dishes done.. Ugh it is soooo frustrating!!!
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  • tashadee75tashadee75

    Sometimes I do feel lazy because I am no longer working and I don't have the energy to cook and clean. I'm not even nesting yet. I think the nesting bug has missed me. My DH gets up every morning for work and comes home and cooks most nights. Pre-pregnancy I worked 10 hours a day, spent two hours at the gym and still had time for a a social life. Now, 10 minutes of activity makes me winded. I have to take breaks between household chores. 

    But...all that being said, I have to remind myself that I will be the main caretaker of the baby when he arrives. I will be the one waking up and feeding him in the middle of the night.  And I have to remind myself that out of 17 years of togetherness, I've never been this tired or exhausted. He's never seen me this lazy and he knows it's temporary. He even told me..."you have a little person growing inside of you...that's serious business". 

    Bottom line...I think for most of us this laziness is temporary and pregnancy is one reason to take a break from a lifetime of "busy-ness" 

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  • KonaAppletonKonaAppleton member
    I hear you. I feel guilty because my husband and I both work long days. Even when he gets off work before me, he comes to my flower shop and helps me clean up before we both head home. He then cooks me dinner and does house work while I put my feet up and go to bed early because I can't sleep through the night. He says he doesn't mind but I would hate for one day for him to resent me for it.
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  • makeenemakeene member
    By reading this I realized I haven't vacuumed in almost a month! Lmao being lazy is refreshing...soon we won't have any time so lets enjoy it!
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