Is it just me?

Saraevh · February 2013

Anyone else kinda feel like a sub par Mom sometimes?

I was having trouble sleeping last night so I got up and paroozed some food and kid craft blogs.

As I was bookmarking all of these great ideas, I couldn't help but wonder how the heck these women have time for all of this stuff? Like, how does a Mom with 3 kids have time to make their own soap and baby wipes, make the most amazing sounding purees for their infant, crush and melt different colored pink and red crayons to make molded hearts to be put on homemade Valentine's AND whip up an amazing home cooked meal that follows the Paleo Diet to a friggen' T all in the same day?

Some days I'm lucky if I even squeeze a shower in before 10pm at night. I mean, I try to do a lot with my kids and I think I do an okay job, but man. I feel like I do NOTHING with them compared to some of these cyber moms!

Maybe I just manage my time poorly (thebump would have nothing to do with that Anyway, what gives?!

IBackBevo · February 2013

Amphetamines?

Seriously, though, I don't know. I have a hard time just with one and work.

Saraevh · February 2013

Right?! Or they are just LYING!

amandaleigh1 · February 2013

They must have a lot of support with the kids-- full time nanny? I feel like a failure these days because I can't even seem to find the time to introduce DS to solid foods. There aren't enough hours in the day.

RoseHQ12 · February 2013

I wish I had the answer! I ask myself that question every day. There aren't enough hours in the day to do what I do right now. I just have to believe that I am doing the best that I can do & that my children go to bed each night knowing that they are loved, secure & happy

& while they are happy in bed, I am feeling guilty for not being super mom, go figure!

TJ1979 · February 2013

Saraevh:
Right?! nbsp; nbsp;Or they are just LYING! nbsp;;

This! They are lying liars out to make us normal moms feel bad!

ELF4321 · February 2013

And you know how much of that effort their kids actually notice? Not much, if any. If you have enough money to buy baby wipes, wth would you bother making your own instead of spending that time with your child(ren)? Ditto on the other stuff.

Now, when the kids are older and the craft projects are things they can work on with you, then it can become a bonding experience. But otherwise, it's just a pointless effort to try to make themselves feel superior to other moms, probably based on some deep-seeded insecurities of their own.

laura1 · February 2013

Yeah, seriously. I consider it a success if we leave the house with me showered. Sometimes we do a craft in the afternoon or bake something (especially since it is winter and if it is cold we don't leave the house) just to keep the big kids busy, and I may get a load of laundry done. But when I have too much to do, it stresses me out and then I just lose patience with the kids and start yelling. I would rather be calm and get nothing don then be yelling all the time (that is just what happens to me, I am sure other people can do these things without getting thoroughly stressed out)!

Saraevh · February 2013

Sometimes Pinterest makes me feel bad about myself too.

LOL.

Pnut30 · February 2013

TJ1979:
Saraevh:
Right?! nbsp; nbsp;Or they are just LYING! nbsp;;
This! They are lying liars out to make us normal moms feel bad!

All this....

BIL's wife is like this. They have 4 kids and we are always getting pictures of them all decked out in scenes for every freaking holiday. Their house looks like pinterest exploded. Of course she is always full face of make up and decked out for everything. I know for a fact that she gets ALOT of help....MIL pays for most of their crap and even paid for a nanny to come stay with them for awhile...somehow those facts are never posted about on FB. It seems like my other SIL competes with her, especially when it comes to the elaborate birthday parties they throw for their babies.

Sometimes it is hard to not feel sub-par compared to them but I know how "fake" it all is.

Dragonfly1226 · February 2013

Those people are cyborgs! Seriously though, they may have lots of extra help. Many well off mothers stay at home and also have nannies. I know it sounds crazy, but it happens all the time.

oooCarrieB · February 2013

I think people spend time on what is important to them. I think some of those crazy blogging moms either don't sleep, have a nanny even though they stay home or have a rediculous about of money and pay someone else to help them craft. And who would ever want to make their own soap or baby wipes anyway? That is crazy. Plus to make soap, you need to have lye which is super dangerous. And I don't even know how you would make a baby wipe. If you couldn't afford to buy them, you could probably just use a damp wash cloth. I will admit that I made some pretty amazing baby food purees though! The carrot, mango apple one was incredible. That really didn't take very much time though since I just did it while I was cooking other stuff.

labbylover03 · February 2013

Omg...I seriously have this convo with my DH at least twice a week! He's probably tired of hearing me say I can't keep up with all these other moms! I just have to accept that I'm a working mom and do the best I can...but it is a constant struggle for me.

itsmevkb · February 2013

If Pinterest is making you feel bad about yourself then start watching Hoarders and you'll start feeling better about yourself quite quickly!

Honestly, I think most of those moms are faking it a bit, or not telling the whole truth. Like someone said, they may be getting a ton of help and that never gets mentioned. Or, they made baby wipes once but the implication is they make every single one they use (although I would never understand why anyone would do this).

I do very little of that kind of stuff with my kids or around my house and I don't really feel sub-par about it. I do, however, feel sub-par when I realize that maybe I'm typing out this response while only half listening to my son talking about writing out his Vday cards. That's when I realize that I need to stop trying to do multiple things at a time and instead focus on one thing. If that means I don't make crayons for my kids then so be it!

lovebug33 · February 2013

I look at things differently because I work with parents who are truly not good. I don't know if I posted this here or on the fb site, but one day one of my girls shows up to school with her five day old baby sister. She handed me the baby and said, "Mommy went to the bar last night and never came back. I got the rest of the kids to school but didn't know what to do with Rainbow." Whenever I feel like a sh!tty parent because I'm never going to do all that baking and arts and crafts and stuff like that, I think back to that moment and think how fabulous I am because I have never left my child to go to a bar!

imoverit · February 2013

I know Im not supermom but I no one can love my son more than his mama. Lol

amandaleigh1 · February 2013

lovebug33:
I look at things differently because I work with parents who are truly not good. I don't know if I posted this here or on the fb site, but one day one of my girls shows up to school with her five day old baby sister. She handed me the baby and said, "Mommy went to the bar last night and never came back. I got the rest of the kids to school but didn't know what to do with Rainbow." Whenever I feel like a sh!tty parent because I'm never going to do all that baking and arts and crafts and stuff like that, I think back to that moment and think how fabulous I am because I have never left my child to go to a bar!

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Omg!that is tragic! What an f'ed up world this happens in.

Saraevh · February 2013

Lovebug - my first two years of teaching before fleeing to the burbs were spent in the HOOD so I definitely have my fair share of horrible parent stories as well (although at least a quarter of my kids were in Foster Care - another quarter living with someone in the family other than mom or dad). I think I called CPS on pretty much a weekly basis when I was working in the inner city. So sad. Compared to those crappy parents (they don't even deserve that title) we are all pretty dang awesome. Store bought baby wipes and all

queenbone · February 2013

I like to do stuff like that too, but my house is not clean. I can only do so much! I'm sure there are areas of neglect if they are posting about all their wonderfulness. Either the house work is neglected, or their husband, or their friends.

And as my DH once said, he doesn't mind that I resurrect obscure Catholic holidays and have people over because it means the house will be cleaned and he'll have a nice meal.

patchen30 · February 2013

I sometimes read Nikininnine's (remember her?) and feel like this.

I think all of the above - often they have a lot of help from nanny's, or they're lying, or they're masochists, or they have no social life b/c they're doing this stuff all day long and don't ever interact with other humans!

Anyway I feel like I'm super organized if I leave the apt clean, DS and I are dressed and put together, and I feed him 3 meals and he takes a nap. That's enough for me. God knows how people do it with more than one LO!!

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