BM has a bf

Phantomgirl · February 2013

For the first time in 11 years!

She told SS last week but he will not meet him for a couple of months.

SS said they text all the time and BM is constantly smiling and showing her sister the texts lol.

He also said 'its about time' and 'it will do her good' lol.

Ironically I am kinda thrown by it. I'm nervous about her bringing a man around SS. She is a good mom and will do everything by the book and would never put him in danger BUT you just never know.

I have a new found understanding for how it must have felt when I came on the scene.

DH is kinda thrown also but more from a point of 'will he get to be cool and I'll have to be the rule setter' point of view.

So yea. O and she bleached her hair blond and got braces on her teeth so she must REALLY like him!

J&A2008 · February 2013

Hallelujah! Hopefully she calms down a bit and things are smoother.

CFjo2010 · February 2013

I'm going to be optimistic on this one. Maybe the BF will bring BM some happiness which will in turn spill over onto SS. This is always my hope when BM in my situation gets a BF/job/hobby/etc.

xmaryrickx · February 2013

I am going to be optimistic on two fronts. Hopefully this will get BM to a better place and hopefully it will make your H step up and be more involved with SS if he sees another man doing just that.

Phantomgirl · February 2013

xmaryrickx:
I am going to be optimistic on two fronts. Hopefully this will get BM to a better place and hopefully it will make your H step up and be more involved with SS if he sees another man doing just that.

Mary you took the words right out of my mouth. Bf is a soccer fan (which was the first Q SS asked BM about him!) so will be interesting if he starts going to SS games seeing as DH has no interest.

I really just hope he is a good trustworthy guy.

kali55 · February 2013

I hope this has positive effects on your BF.

Happy ex-wife, happy life and all that Wink

FutureMrsWittig · February 2013

kali55:

I hope this has positive effects on your BF.

Happy ex-wife, happy life and all that

Yes

fellesferie · February 2013

Wow, first bf in 11 years!

I think SS's reaction shows both maturity and that he cares for his mom. That's sweet.

The fact that she's waiting to introduce them I think points to her keeping her head on her shoulders.

Really interested to see where/how this goes!

Dixon813 · February 2013

When BM started dating, she calmed down about so much and wasn't a complete witch like she was when we got married... but I also understand the unsure feeling of someone new.

Hope all goes well!

Littlejen22 · February 2013

tifanico:
11 years?! wow haha.
Hopefully he is a good guy and a good person to SS. However, I don't know if I would tell my kid I'm dating someone unless I'm ready to introduce the guy to her. At least she is not moving in with the guy right away like Karatechrissy (most likely spelled it wrong) BM.

I think I get why she would tell him, he sees his Mom is happier and he is old enough to understand boyfriends. I think at his age it is better to tell him that she is dating and if it lasts long enough and see feels more certain then she will let him meet her son. I respect that she is not just introducing them quickly and is taking the time to see if he is worthy of meeting her child.

I hope it all works out, she can use some happiness and I think she will do her best to make sure she does not allow some low-life around SS.

Littlejen22 · February 2013

tifanico:
11 years?! wow haha.
Hopefully he is a good guy and a good person to SS. However, I don't know if I would tell my kid I'm dating someone unless I'm ready to introduce the guy to her. At least she is not moving in with the guy right away like Karatechrissy (most likely spelled it wrong) BM.

I think I get why she would tell him, he sees his Mom is happier and he is old enough to understand boyfriends. I think at his age it is better to tell him that she is dating and if it lasts long enough and see feels more certain then she will let him meet her son. I respect that she is not just introducing them quickly and is taking the time to see if he is worthy of meeting her child.

I hope it all works out, she can use some happiness and I think she will do her best to make sure she does not allow some low-life around SS.

karatechrissy · February 2013

tifanico:
11 years?! wow haha.
Hopefully he is a good guy and a good person to SS. However, I don't know if I would tell my kid I'm dating someone unless I'm ready to introduce the guy to her. At least she is not moving in with the guy right away like Karatechrissy (most likely spelled it wrong) BM.

Seriously! And, you spelled it right ;-)

Totally think this is a good move for BM. I hope it goes well! I wish our bm would be as responsible and WAIT to see if it's going anywhere. I admire that in her.

CFjo2010 · February 2013

Ok now that I'm not nursing and therefore bumping from my phone I can give a better reply to this.

I think BM not having a BF in 11 years speaks volumes. Clearly she is not like so many single moms who hop from relationship to relationship to fill that void. Before I get flamed for saying that let me clarify: I said "so many" not "all". Maybe BM hasn't always been the easiest to deal with, but she's mature enough to know that a man isn't going to fix everything. Bravo to her on that. Also, I'm really glad that she's not bringing him around SS yet. I think it shows that she wants to make sure this guy is worthy of meeting her child, and isn't using this guy just to get a rise out of YH. Again, I know she's been a pain at times, but I think she's showing YH some respect by not bringing the BF around SS just yet.

When/If the BF is introduced to SS and starts spending time with him, I really hope everyone is able to get along for SS. Hopefully BM doesn't start forcing BF down everyone's throats and lets things happen slowly.

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