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KathrynMD
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Your kid says mean stuff to you too, right?
KathrynMD
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I got at least 3 or 4 insults this morning - "Mama, you're a stinky butt" "Mama I don't like you" "Mama, I don't like you most of the time now" x3 for each of them.
All over dumb stuff - I fed the cat while DD was putting on her shoes - and apparently DD wanted to do it. (Didn't notice her running to clean the litter box though!) and I made her change her clothes, etc.
I let most of it roll off my back and either ignore it or make a joke, and occassionally point out that when you don't speak nicely, people will think you aren't a nice person and won't want to be your friend, etc.
This will eventually stop or at least ease off a bit. I'm not going to have an 8 yo who constantly insults me over putting on her shoes.
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Re: Your kid says mean stuff to you too, right?
I hear "I don't like you" or "I'm not your friend anymore" at least once per day. And he takes it easy on me. You should hear what he says to DH!
ETA: forgot to add how we address it. I tell him "you DO NOT speak to your mommy (or daddy) that way" and if he does it a second time, he gets something taken away. He's getting it now, and he is only doing it lately when he is very tired.
DD doesn't really say mean stuff to me. Sometimes she'll tell DH he isn't her friend and that she just wants Mama but even that's seldom.
Now ask me about DS and I'll have a different answer unfortunately.
oh, yikes, huh. ...IDK. ... maybe that's the root of my question. I'm not happy she does it now, but I chalk it mostly up to age and assume it will taper off. I don't think its "not" a big deal now and I'm sure I'll hear a few "I don't like yous" over various things for the rest of her life.
yeah. .. I probably need to react more to this behavior and discipline it. Its just always when we are getting ready to go somewhere so its already crunch time.
My kids do not talk like that to me and they know if they did they would be in serious trouble.
I would correct them every time they do it. Make it clear to them that this is not acceptable and let them know what the consequences will be if they talk to you without respect. Stick to it!! If you let it roll off of you, they will think it is okay or at least not bad enough to get into trouble. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to correct it
Clearly I'm not a parent yet, so take what I'm saying with a grain of salt.
One of my acquaintances has a 4 year old daughter. Mom had DD during her late 30s, so this will be their only child. DD speaks horribly to both parents. Tells them she "won't be seen with them if they dress like that" or "you need to change your hairstyle because it's ugly." DD has said other mean things as well, but you get the point. Neither mom nor dad have disciplined DD for her words so she keeps it up and gets worse with age. I can only imagine what she will be like as a teenager if this continues.
(I add the fact that she's an only child into the mix because I was an only child for 7 years and I know how bratty I was about everything. Once my brother was introduced into the picture, I soon realized the world did not revolve around me. My parents stopped putting up with my crap and began disciplining me more often.)