DE timing?

ebdubbed · February 2013

Amazingly, this process seem to be moving forward for us but it definitely feels like it's happening at a snail's pace. For those of you who have done DE, how long was it from the time you matched with a donor to your transfer date? For those of you who are somewhere in the process, what have you been told about timing? Also, did you go through an agency or your clinic's data base?

We officially matched through an agency two weeks ago and our clinic approved last week. Our donor still has to go to our clinic for a full work up and the earliest appointment they have is mid-March. At this point, we're looking at a transfer in April or May. We are considering traveling to the clinic where our donor cycled last time but it depends on how much time we can shave off the entire process. I know two months doesn't seem like a lot but I feel like we've been at this for a lifetime. TIA!

BeckyP005 · February 2013

I hear you on the moving like a "snail's pace". At my clinic I am on a 6 month waiting list. 3 months down but just got told I'm number 11 on the list..whatever that means. Started this process last March (another RE before this) and I'm running out of patience!

I"m on a "shared" cycle so who knows how long I will get matched after I'm off the waiting list. Hopefully the other couple and I will like the first donor we are shown. This is the bad part because it takes longer. Good luck to you. Waiting is always hard. I guess I really can't answer your question!

MrsT4 · February 2013

I admit that now looking back, my DE process moved rather quickly about 2.5 months from the very start of reviewing profiles to retrieval, using a donor from the agency I ultimately chose. However, I can totally relate to how slow it feels when you're going through the process....and there are often unforeseen delays (like when my donor tested positive for MTHFR, we decide to also test my husband for it).

I was fortunate, because my twice proven donor had recently cycled, so some of her initial tests were already completed. However, I did have to wait for her to be "medically cleared" from her last donor cycle.

Also, I did not go with the first agency I looked into. I had done quite a bit of research (frozen vs. fresh) and once I decided to go with fresh, I looked at profiles from a few agencies. I quickly figured out I had to relax some of my criteria, in order to find a decent match. In the end, I actually wound up with what I felt was a "perfect" donor for me.

Wishing you the best of luck, as you continue on this journey.

(Edited to add: I'm so very sorry for your late loss....big HUGS to you!)

2MamazInSeattle · February 2013

From my first RE appt to ET was 6 months - we never tried with my own eggs. We got matched with our donor on October 20th or so, ET was December 11th. I started my protocol by the end of October. Ours was a proven donor who'd had all the tests out there already, and she started her protocol the Sunday after Thanksgiving. It does feel like forever! April will be here in a flash, but I totally sympathize with the waiting. Hang in there, just focus on yourself, do some fun stuff and it'll be here before you know it. If the clinic she used before cuts time off, I'd go for it. I just felt age-wise, I had no time to waste. Good luck, and also hugs for your late loss.

chicagobride_07 · February 2013

For us, it was very quick. We selected our donor and she started into cycle as soon as her period came. There was a bit of time to synchronize her and I- I think the whole process took about 6 weeks to 2 months. We used an agency and our clinic had worked with the donor before.

JM1977 · February 2013

Welcome to the group! I also am so sorry for your late loss. I'm so happy that DE is bringing you some well-deserved hope!

We went through Shady Grove fertility which has a big donor egg program and an in-house donor pool. We had our phone consult with them in April of 2010 and cycled that August, so I guess it was 4 months. We were in a 1:2 split cycle program, but the matching process still went quickly because the donors seems to get selected pretty fast after they are added to the database.

I wish you all the best moving forward!

ebdubbed · February 2013

So it looks like our timing isn't crazy long - maybe just a bit long. Our first appointment with the RE about DE was in November, we matched end of January and we'll probably cycle in May. Six months from start to finish (or beginning, so to speak). We looked intro traveling closer to our donor but it doesn't look like it would save us much more than a month. Now we sit and wait which, of course, we're used it. Thank you all!

And thank you all for your thoughts and hugs for our late loss.

lynn0926 · February 2013

I did a mock cycle in March last year, chose my in house donor at the same time, and transfer was complete at the end of June. So, about 3 months. GL! So exciting!

ETA: I made my first inquiry with the clinic, SDFC, in Feb, so it was about 4 months from start to finish.

happywifemomofone · February 2013

We chose our donor and our donor was approved by RE in December 2012. Legal contracts were signed in early January. Donor was mid cycle, I was started on BCP at the start of my last cycle. Donor expecting AF next week, when she will go in for CD3 labs and u/s. Then she goes on BCP for one month. We expect retrieval will be in March, but won't have a calendar until AF shows for donor next week. Our donor cycled in November, so most of her testing is current and we are hoping for no bumps in the road and smooth sailing (it that's possible!)

amethystgrrl · February 2013

Decided on clinic and matched with donor in March, ET late June.

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