Two Questions

katigox · February 2013

Hi ladies,

I've been really bad about being on this board for the past month (month and a half?). I've been finally getting to know fellow mommies on my BMB, and been having a lot of fun being distracted by the shared timelines of all our babies.

But of course, there's nothing quite like the familiar comfort of PAL. The success of finally having a rainbow baby, after a loss, and really being encouraged daily by their mere presence in our lives.

So here's my (first) question: For those of you got pregnant after having your rainbow baby, was it easier the second time around? Or were the nerves as frazzled as before? I don't plan on even TTC for a few years, but this question has been on my mind lately, and I would love to hear from you ladies on it. I mean, I know we are all individuals and every pregnancy is different, but seeing how similar our PGAL's minds were, I was wondering if the experience would be as nerve wracking the second time around ~ or whether the affirmation of having had one take home baby helped calm things down emotionally with the subsequent pregnancy. I guess I'm just trying to prepare myself mentally YEARS in advance lol ;P

And my second question . . . is there no longer one BPF thread? Are we just posting our own pics, of our own LO's all on Fridays? JW for next Friday

Junebug060609 · February 2013

It was easier, but not carefree, for me while the pregnancy lasted.

adoxyinherear · February 2013

Sometimes I think we have one BPF thread, sometimes I think we spam the board. Either way it's cute baby day

luvmyducks · February 2013

I'm not sure why it has been a bunch of threads for BPF. It usually is one thread.

TTCing again made me a little nervous that it would take a long time again or that we would have another loss but I was much more calm about it this time around. Amazingly we got lucky on our first cycle. I've been very Zen this time around. I have been busy with DD so not as much time to dwell. And I also think I feel better bc I know I have her and I'm a mom now. Last time around my fear was of never being a mother. Overall it has been much easier.

damabo80 · February 2013

Easier: yes, tons. I'm sure if I lost him, the grief would be similar, but I wouldn't have that "omg I'll never be a mother" fear.

Also, from 1, I knew what issues I didn't have. I didn't have IC, so I breathed much easier during 16w to 24w, whereas with number 1, I didn't know if I had IC.

Also I was much more busy with number 1 during the day, so I found myself not obsessing over the new pg as much. But when I didn't have a kid at home, I had all the free time in the world to obsess. The pg went much quicker.

katigox · February 2013

Thanks for the replies ladies ~ I really appreciate it, and am looking forward to next time *crosses fingers*

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