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3rd Trimester
Birth trauma is real.
And unless you have been there you really need to STFU. Because you have NO CLUE and when you discount it you end up looking like an ass.
For a good example of a traumatic birth I have my birth story posted on the Birth Story page here on the nest. Don't you dare tell me I don't have the right to complain about my birth. Just because my baby is here and is healthy doesn't negate the fact that I was treated like a piece of meat and not the human being I am.
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/5837365.aspx
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Re: Birth trauma is real.
i didn't save my birth story to a document, but damn i wish i did. i posted it on 3rd tri in the old format, and it got lost in the abyss.
if any one of you thinks i have no right to be complaining you need to pull your head out your ass and go somewhere else. i feel so special getting diagnosed by all of you internet doctors though. thank you!!!
Aren't you a peach. Can't wait until you all have your babies. I hope things go just the way you plan.
i am 100% sure it IS REAL.
and this is why if i have it I WILL BE SEEKING THERAPY
it doesn't take "someone who's been there" to see that hating on someone else's birth experience in a public forum because yours was shiity as totally uncalled for.
its kind of like.... do we have to make our birth stories sound kinda shiity so someone else doesn't get their efeelings hurt?????
i don't recall anyone saying your births weren't traumatic. i think it was just a question of if you would feel like it would be traumatic to have a c-section if it wasn't planned.
Do we really need to keep posting about it?
Its horrible that it happened to you guys and I pray it doesnt happen to myself but by dragging it out isn't doing anyone any good.
FFS
I dont expect anything to go any certain way and I would never EVER wish anything on someone elses pregnancy.
Agreed. And Kristin I love your freaking siggy pic. I hate you. B!tch. LOL.
Attempting to move on here. But since you brought it up.
Bad labors SUCK. You have the right to be upset, angry, whatever. But, NO ONE has is the right to take it out on those who did not experience a bad labor.
And I personally love the whole defense thing you guys have going over there. Support her and eachother. But dont dwell in a shitty situation. Deal with it, learn from it and move on from it!
Oh, FWIW, ive had 2 kids so, uh, id appreciate if we keep the "have your baby then give your opinion" to a minium. Thanks!
i think the poster that mod was originally flaming is getting treatment, fyi. don't make assumptions. there is nothing wrong with talking about how you feel on a message board. i think a lot of third tri people are in for a rude awakening, especially because some of you have pissedoff 0-6 so much they aren't going to be nice to you lol.
hippy, i remember reading that. it is appalling that the staff tied your arms, wouldn't untie you, etc. fwiw, i appreciate reading the tough labor stories so i can try to be prepared for the tough situations that could occur.
Here's my birth story:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/6791148.aspx
they tied your arms down and this sent you into a tailspin? who has a C-SECTION birth plan anyway?? it's surgery!!!!
this is why i am not having a birth plan of any kind tia nft
FVCK OFF, how's that for peachy. Seriously. Anyone who continually wishes sh!tty labor on others needs to STFU.
The OP stated that she was having a hard time, that she felt bad about what she felt and that she knew it was her issue and not the person who's story she had read. MissMod still felt the need to call it out and you all jumped on willingly.
Compassion is a good thing. So is common sense. Both have seriously lacking on this board lately.
here you go again. If you knew more about Hippy's past, you would understand this too.
ditto you cant really plan how you want your labor do go...you can think of a wonderful way you would like it to go but it doesnt always work that way
She is getting treatment. She is a strong woman who is struggling...but she has good support.
no shit. if you ask nicely, they won't strap you down. thank the good Lord mine weren't. my husband held one, and the anesthesiologist held the other.
Oh yeah hippy cause its so compassionate to wish that things "go according your plans". Your hipocrasy is almost amusing, ALMOST!
Exactly! and serioulsy the reason, why I do not have a birthplan- it sets people up for feelings of failure and disapointment. I am a total control freak and am still able to say that I am going into this KNOWING that I do not have control over what will happen.
You need therapy. Your narcissism is out of control.
lol 'narcissism' doesn't even fit here! don't give me your psych 101 diagnosis!!
i didn't have a birth plan either. my plans were healthy mommy, healthy baby, and as you can see... that nearly didn't happen.
Well, I'm so sorry that you had a negative experience, it is terrible - and I am happy to read that you are able to admit it and even get help dealing with the traumatic situation.
I think the way your post was worded to laurenmatt was what threw everyone into a tailspin. I understand that having any traumatic experiences and then seeing others have the opposite experience can be really hard- I've been there, but letting other's experiences "hurt your feelings" is not right.