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February 2013 Moms
somebuddiesgettingmarried
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Vent: Hormonal and being moody with DH- opinions please
somebuddiesgettingmarried
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Morning gang! Last night, DH and I were chatting about what he was planning for revealing the baby's gender to our families once s/he is here (we're team green). He said "I'm gonna tell them- it's a girl or boy." That's it! Nothing clever or cute at all.
In the grand scheme of things, I know this is no big deal but I got really pissy about it. For one thing, I'm a little jealous that he gets to do the reveal while I hang out in the delivery room (but I guess I get to hold onto baby so that's a win!). But I was disappointed that he didn't want to do anything fun or playful. Maybe it's a male thing. (He wasn't actually planning on telling anyone in his family that baby was coming until s/he was born!) I said what about wearing a pink/blue t-shirt into the waiting room but no... he's got nothing planned.
So, what do you guys think? hormones are making me pissy, right?! Need to get over this, yes?!
Anyone have an idea I can share with him for a clever reveal anyway?!
(sorry- just venting!)
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Re: Vent: Hormonal and being moody with DH- opinions please
Do you have a Party City or party store close by? We bought chocolate cigars that say "It's a Girl" to pass out when we revealed the sex.
You could buy a pack of boy cigars or hershey kisses and a pack of girl cigars or hershey kisses and let DH hand out the appropriate ones to the family in the waiting room.
https://www.partycity.com/product/it's+a+girl+lollipops+baby+shower+favor+5ct.do?sortby=ourPicks&size=all&from=Search&navSet=its+a+girl
These would be cute for DH to pass out (and would make for some great photos of family members holding them once they heard the news)
Cutesy "reveal" stuff is for a party, when you need to artificially create suspense to make it fun. That won't be necessary here: the excitement and suspense are built into the whole team-green situation.
Think of it this way: your husband believes the moment is so special that there is no way to make it better, but you're seeing that as his not "caring" enough to try to improve it. I think he's right, though. Some things just can't be improved upon.
You might want to arrange someone to tape it, though, if you're sad to miss it. It doesn't have to be a big production - just get one of your smart-phone-toting family members to be prepared with enough battery and memory for a two-minute video. They can show it to you that same day, email it to you, whatever.
(Fyi, I have the same kind of unproductive grouchiness - seems to be par for the course at this point.)
this!! I'm also an irrational grouch lately, poor DH is taking the full brunt of it.
Thanks all! I know I'm being silly about this and, you're all right, a healthy baby is really it's own celebration- no fanfare needed. It just rubbed me the wrong way!
The cigars are a cute idea- thanks!
I think you are being a little bit of a control freak. I totally get it, I'm the same way, but hey you are going to be doing all the work and you are probably having most everything the way you want so let your husband have a say on this one, he will probably be so excited that he will just come out and shout: IT'S A >>>!
And at the end of the day, you'll be so overwhelmed and happy with LO that I don't think you will care for how the family found out the gender....
Just go with it and let him have his moment! Yours is going to be even bigger!