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Met one of my H's ex girlfriends

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Sometimes I just have to say WTF?  This past weekend was my BIL's birthday, and they had a party at my MIL & FIL's house.  We got there a little early to bring over some stuff, and I was sitting down talking to someone and my H leans over and says "BIL wanted me to tell you that one of my ex-girlfriends is coming and he wanted me to tell you so it won't be awkward"... Ummm ok.

A few of you might remember from a long time ago, I posted about how I read some emails my H sent to one of his ex's when we very first started dating.  She had asked him about me, and he said something stupid like since he couldn't have her, his first choice he was going out with me.  That isn't exactly how he worded it, but basically she was his first choice but she didn't want him...

So it was her that went to the party.  I think my H was more worried that I would be pissed off, but I am not like that at all.  She was beautiful, and we actually talked for a while (not about my H) and she was so nice and down to earth.  i swear I wish she was one of my H's kids BM's... She is engaged and had a ring the size of my head on her hand.  

It was awkward at first, because it was sprung on me, and I had no idea that my BIL was that good of friends with her.  But..eh, it was interesting.  My FIL even took a picture of us!  My H thought that was weird, at that point I had a few drinks and didn't really think twice about it.

 

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  • 2chatter2chatter member

    Glad it went well!  The only time I have had an awkward time of it in a similar situation is one of DH's best friends went to lunch with us when we were engaged.  They never dated, but she was recently seperated, and was sending him texts like "we should escape and go on a vacation together, to the beach, just to the two of us".  She brought...... a framed picture of them waking up on a couch together on a vacation when they were in college - specifically to show to me.  It was one of the weirdest moments of my life.  Years later she still is single and texts him to ask him to take her to lunch; needless to say he declines.

    I did not expect to have an awkward time at all - but then she busted out the pic, and then DH told me about the texts when she stepped away....SO weird!

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  • lily_721lily_721 member

    When DH and I first started dating, I spent several girls-only family events with his cousin.  She was very nice to me and always sought me out.  She wasn't his cousin.  She was his ex-girlfriend and still friends with DH's cousin. 

    Awkward.  Nice enough person but she gets all weird when DH is around.  Like she is trying to prove how wonderful her life is.

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  • NineoceansNineoceans member
    So funny. I've seen all the pictures of Dh with his exes and they are all super model gorgeous. Like you would stop and turn your head gorgeous. He dated 2 girls for at least three years a piece and was on a break from one when SS was conceived.

    Anyways these striking amazing beauties then you have Bm who looks like a sad mouse. She has a huge nose, big ears and really bad skin from where she was attacked by a dog and had acne as a kid and she's super skinny and tall but in a strung out way not a model way.

    If Bm was beautiful I think I would definitely feel a little more threatened so I'm thankful she's not but yeah it's funny to see the exes versus the Bms
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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
    Ive met all the ex girlfriends. The one he dated through all of middle school and high school and the one he dated two years after high school. Neither are overly pretty...the one he dated the longest is still in touch every now and then and shes nice. The other one is a compulsive liar and I make fun of him for dating her. I knew both girls in high school too. Just the same hes met my only ex BF and he hates him with a passion. He also makes fun of my poor desicion making.

    We havent had really any weird moments, well not between me and his exs hes had awkward moments with my ex but because how he treats me.
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  • FutureMrsWittigFutureMrsWittig member
    I used to find that the best revenge to get on an ex was to be super friendly with his new girlfriend.  lol. It sounds mean, but they always know who I am going in, and I try to be genuinely nice.  Some of them are nice girls.  And I'm a nice girl.  Why shouldn't we be friends?  And if it makes him a little uncomfortable in the process.... good.
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  • PhantomgirlPhantomgirl member

    My first thougth -its the biotch he was emailing.

    Huh.  interesting situation.  No point in getting mad when you have already forgiven him I guess.

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  • happywife2bhappywife2b member
    Wow, kudos to you! Just this morning I saw SO's exGF at our park while I was having my morning coffee at the coffee shop in my neighborhood. She lives really far away and doesn't have any friends here, but insists on stalking us on a pretty regular basis. Couple days ago it was at SO's favorite sushi joint, and before that at a formal event to which she wasn't even invited! And on and on... I really want to punch her in the face, and I am not a particularly violent person. It is just so sad and desperate on her part.
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  • bebe11bebe11 member

    imagehappywife2b:
    Wow, kudos to you! Just this morning I saw SO's exGF at our park while I was having my morning coffee at the coffee shop in my neighborhood. She lives really far away and doesn't have any friends here, but insists on stalking us on a pretty regular basis. Couple days ago it was at SO's favorite sushi joint, and before that at a formal event to which she wasn't even invited! And on and on... I really want to punch her in the face, and I am not a particularly violent person. It is just so sad and desperate on her part.

    Yikes... and he doesn't have a kid with her?  So weird how people are like that.

     

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