Anxiety :/

adoxyinherear · February 2013

The past week or so I just feel like something isn't right, like I'm not myself. At first it just felt PMS-y, so I figured, BFing hormones, I'll even out. But I'm not. I feel extremely anxious, I can't focus on anything, and when night falls I'm having some of the same fears I had when we first brought DD home. Like I made a mistake, like I'm not ready to be a mom. I feel like we brought home a perfect person, and every day I'm doing something to ruin her.

I've had issues with anxiety in the past because I don't handle stress well. But I feel like there isn't anything in my life I can cut out to give me some space to breathe, and I feel like I don't have any right to feel this way. DH is very supportive and a great dad. DD is an "easy" baby.

I suppose I'll talk with my midwife when I go for my annual, but I just feel really alone right now and needed to get this out. Thank you for your support, ladies.

charmedgrl517 · February 2013

Huge hugs I don't know exactly what ur feeling/going through but DH has alot of anxiety and ive had some since DD too so I Can relate a little. I hope you feel better soon and if you ever need to talk, I will listen!!

bmv1980 · February 2013

[[big hugs]] You have every right to feel that way! You're a mom, and human. I totally understand what you said about bringing home a perfect person and ruining them...I feel that way sometimes too, but nobody can do everything right. Being a mom, you get to be a little crazy sometimes! Go look at little mini Rusalka, and you'll see she's still perfect :] And, you're doing an amazing job.

charmedgrl517 · February 2013

bmv1980:
[[big hugs]] You have every right to feel that way! You're a mom, and human. I totally understand what you said about bringing home a perfect person and ruining them...I feel that way sometimes too, but nobody can do everything right. Being a mom, you get to be a little crazy sometimes! Go look at little mini Rusalka, and you'll see she's still perfect :] And, you're doing an amazing job.

All of this !! Smiley face

orangegoggles · February 2013

((Hugs)) I've dealt with anxiety in the past so I know how difficult it is. I keep waiting for it to pop up pp but nothing yet. The biggest thing I used to do/ still do is exercise, even if its just a walk. There is a lot of research that supports its one of the best things you can do to manage anxiety.

Most of my anxiety came at night while laying in bed so I used to write down the things that were bothering me. Once it was on paper they often looked silly and not much there. In your head you feel overwhelmed but when you see it in black and white it sounds doable.

Lastly, breathe and realize that everyday you are doing the best you can. You are raising a beautiful little girl and doing a great job!

mork · February 2013

Big hugs

Scooby2358 · February 2013

pangnl79:
((Hugs)) I've dealt with anxiety in the past so I know how difficult it is. I keep waiting for it to pop up pp but nothing yet. The biggest thing I used to do/ still do is exercise, even if its just a walk. There is a lot of research that supports its one of the best things you can do to manage anxiety.
Most of my anxiety came at night while laying in bed so I used to write down the things that were bothering me. Once it was on paper they often looked silly and not much there. In your head you feel overwhelmed but when you see it in black and white it sounds doable.
Lastly, breathe and realize that everyday you are doing the best you can. You are raising a beautiful little girl and doing a great job!

All of this.

And, this may sound trite, but it wouldn't be so important to you to be a good mom to E if you weren't already a good mom, KWIM? She is clearly thriving.

adoxyinherear · February 2013

pangnl79:
((Hugs)) I've dealt with anxiety in the past so I know how difficult it is. I keep waiting for it to pop up pp but nothing yet. The biggest thing I used to do/ still do is exercise, even if its just a walk. There is a lot of research that supports its one of the best things you can do to manage anxiety.
Most of my anxiety came at night while laying in bed so I used to write down the things that were bothering me. Once it was on paper they often looked silly and not much there. In your head you feel overwhelmed but when you see it in black and white it sounds doable.
Lastly, breathe and realize that everyday you are doing the best you can. You are raising a beautiful little girl and doing a great job!

I have been making an effort to get to the gym (it's too cold here for me to feel comfortable taking DD out for long), so I'm going to try to keep that up. Thank you so much for commiserating and for your kind words.

adoxyinherear · February 2013

charmedgrl517:
Huge hugs I don't know exactly what ur feeling/going through but DH has alot of anxiety and ive had some since DD too so I Can relate a little. I hope you feel better soon and if you ever need to talk, I will listen!!

Thank you so much, dear

bmv1980:[[big hugs]] You have every right to feel that way! You're a mom, and human. I totally understand what you said about bringing home a perfect person and ruining them...I feel that way sometimes too, but nobody can do everything right. Being a mom, you get to be a little crazy sometimes! Go look at little mini Rusalka, and you'll see she's still perfect :] And, you're doing an amazing job.

Indeed we do get to let the crazy out a little. Thank you

adoxyinherear · February 2013

mork:
Big hugs

Thank you! Hugs right back at you.

Scooby2358:
pangnl79:
((Hugs)) I've dealt with anxiety in the past so I know how difficult it is. I keep waiting for it to pop up pp but nothing yet. The biggest thing I used to do/ still do is exercise, even if its just a walk. There is a lot of research that supports its one of the best things you can do to manage anxiety.
Most of my anxiety came at night while laying in bed so I used to write down the things that were bothering me. Once it was on paper they often looked silly and not much there. In your head you feel overwhelmed but when you see it in black and white it sounds doable.
Lastly, breathe and realize that everyday you are doing the best you can. You are raising a beautiful little girl and doing a great job!
All of this.
And, this may sound trite, but it wouldn't be so important to you to be a good mom to E if you weren't already a good mom, KWIM? She is clearly thriving.

Totally not trite. Sometimes it's hard to just settle down and focus on the good stuff. Thank you!

katigox · February 2013

I hope you get some reassurance from your midwife, but also that you take heart in all these replies: we are here for you, and think you're wonderful, and that mini-Rusalka is amazing! Hugs!

And . . . not to make light of the situation, but could you be pregnant? Like, saying how you're feeling like yourself?? JW

adoxyinherear · February 2013

katigox:
I hope you get some reassurance from your midwife, but also that you take heart in all these replies: we are here for you, and think you're wonderful, and that mini-Rusalka is amazing! Hugs!
And . . . not to make light of the situation, but could you be pregnant? Like, saying how you're feeling like yourself?? JW

Yowza, I wouldn't know what to do with myself if I were. I'm on the mini pill and EBFing... but now I feel like I should go POAS! :P

adoxyinherear · February 2013

Bumgellica216:
Hugs I'm sure you are doing an amazing job and you certainly are not ruining your daughter! You are loving her and nurturing her and providing for her needs. Do you think it would help to get out the house for some fresh air when you are feeling anxious? When I am having a lot of anxiety or am irritable I like to go walk in the park. It helps me clear my head and put things in perspective.

I do think getting out of the house more will help. I've been trying to go to the Y, as it's too chilly here right now to take DD with me for walks.

Allycat11 · February 2013

((hugs)) I am so sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I am sure you are doing an awesome job. .

adoxyinherear · February 2013

Allycat11:
((hugs)) I am so sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I am sure you are doing an awesome job. .

Thank you!

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