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Just wrote our letter to the birth parent/s

DAT1205DAT1205
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Tomorrow is our all day adoption class and one of the assignments was to write a letter to the birth parent or parents that will go with your info(in our case we are adopting from Korea).  My thoughts flowed a lot easier than I thought BUT it just made me realize even more than I did just how DIFFICULT it is to be in the position of giving away your child.  Thanks for listening ladies.

Donna

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  • foreverbrideforeverbride

    Hmm I didn't have to do that!  I'm thankful though because that sounds tough.  I can see why it made you realize how difficult of a situation the birthparents are in. 

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  • speak-ezspeak-ez
    We are doing domestic so our 'letter' was part of our profile and I have to say it was one of the hardest things we've done thus far. I cried for our child's birthmom after I wrote it and I don't even know her. On the other hand it's exciting to have it done and be just one step closer. Have fun at your meeting today.
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  • MyColonyNJMyColonyNJ
    that is great!  one step closer
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  • silliestbunnysilliestbunny member

    I started our generic one this weekend.  

    It's so hard....you need to chose your words carefully but there's so much you want to say.  I found that I had to keep rephrasing everything I wrote!

    image Best friends and sisters... 24 months and 16 months
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  • Mrs.JohnsonMrs.Johnson member
    I agree!  That was really difficult for us as well.
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  • Accounting ChickAccounting Chick

    Once there were two women who didn't know each other
    One you do not remember, the other you call mother
    Two different lives, shaped to make yours one
    One became your guiding star, the other became your sun
    The first gave you life, the second taught you to live it
    The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it
    One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name
    One gave you a seed of talent, the other gave you an aim
    One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears
    One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried your tears
    One gave you up, it was all she could do
    The other prayed for a child, and God led her straight to you
    And now you ask me through your tears,
    the age old questions through the years
    Hereditary or environment - which are you the product of?
    Neither, my darling, neither, just two different kinds of love.

    Author Unknown

    found on www.lifetimeadoption.com

    I found this poem not long after I came into contact with my birth mom.  It really touched me. 

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    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker 

    "God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength, but with the testing he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to endure it" 1 Corinthians 10:13
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  • DAT1205DAT1205
    Accounting Chick.....................THAT IS AN AWESOME POEM THANK YOU SO MUCH  I am going to frame this and hang it in the "future nursery"
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  • Accounting ChickAccounting Chick
    You are very welcome.  I sent that to my mom when she was struggling with the fact that I now had my BM in my life.  I still affects me today when I read it. 

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    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker 

    "God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength, but with the testing he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to endure it" 1 Corinthians 10:13
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