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SERIOUSLY!! ANOTHER DD?

BallSoxBallSox member
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Sorry you assumed your super wealthy MIL would offer to chip in and she didn't, but own the fact that you're feeling pretty entitled. 

Idk why, but DD's are really pissing me off today.  We've all done/said douchey things, own them and move on. 
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Re: SERIOUSLY!! ANOTHER DD?

  • cinderincinderin member

    that post was pretty wild. 

    Just because one person in a family is wealthy doesn't mean they "owe" it to others in the family to pay for things. 

    Do what you can afford.

    OP - I said in your post:

    Have the shower your mom can afford. Find a cheap or free location. Have the shower at a non-meal time and serve cake and punch. Do minimal (inexpensive) decorations. 


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  • dalziendalzien member
    I've never really gone out of my way to post about a DD but that post was so infuriating. I don't really know what she was expecting to hear, that her MIL should pitch in because she had money, or because she helped with BIL's shower and therefore should be obligated to help with hers? Give me a break and grow up.
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    I told her she better stock up on scoresheets if she was expecting to keep track of how much was spent at each life event on each grandchild.  I also recommended that she get ahold of MIL's accountant so that she could have accurate information in order to calculate her income-adjusted shares of any future event they would have to host.
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    Darn, I went to the gym and missed what else was said! 
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    Her expecting her MIL to pitch in is wrong, but the other aspect is that her mother doesn't have to throw a huge shower that includes MIL's side if she can't afford it.  That's the other aspect of this - a part of throwing "what she can afford" also includes deciding how many guests are invited.  She CAN say "sorry- can't invite your side" and then it's on the MIL to either help or throw her own shower.
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    Damn, sounds like I missed something good.
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  • ordinary1ordinary1 member
    Did she seriously expect to hear that her MIL should help pay. Her mom offered so she should pay for all of it end of story. Her h is just as bad since he agreed with her. The entitlement some feel will never cease to shock me.
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    imageLiz4444:
    Damn, sounds like I missed something good.

    Same here.  I wish I knew how it is so easy for these people to DD an original post.  I've tried before when I posted something stupid and it is there like cement for all time.  I can never get rid of it.

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