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Sex after miscarriage

scipiorxscipiorx member
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Hello ladies,

I found out I was miscarrying on 1/13 at 11w3d and had a D&E on 1/18.  I was advised to wait 2 weeks to resume sex but dh and I had sex yesterday.  There have been a lot of emotions around this and other issues.  The sex was a very emotional experience and we've only had sex about 3-4 times in the last 2 months or so.  I feel like a 17 year old who couldn't control myself.  Now I'm a little concerned that I put myself at risk for infection by having sex so soon. I have the follow-up appointment on 2/1.  I'm a little nervous and embarrassed. 

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Re: Sex after miscarriage

  • Bayberry12Bayberry12 member

    I am sorry for you loss but this board is intended to be support for those who experienced the loss of a child, whether late pregnancy loss, stillbirth, infant loss, or that of an older child.  

    You will find woman with situations similar to yours on the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board. 

     

     


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  • scipiorxscipiorx member
    Well excuse me. I began to feel the flutters ("quickening") so it felt like a true loss.  I often like to post in related forums to get broader feedback.  I didn't intend to offend anyone.
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  • careyaliscareyalis member

    ****ticker warning****

    I think you read into Bayberry's comment the wrong way. She said she was sorry for your loss, but wanted to let you know that there was another forum that would be able to relate to your experience better.

      No one here thinks that your loss is not real or valid, it is just different from what the ladies on this board have experienced or can relate to. A miiscarraige is a devastating event and we can all appreciate that you are experiencing a lot of pain.I am truly sorry that you are going through this right now.

    Everyone here delivered a fully formed child and held their little lifeless bodies in their arms. We watched our children take their last breaths, some painful-some peaceful, but all final. We planned funerals and picked out caskets. Our breasts leaked milk while we delivered eulogies to our friends and families. We weep over their graves, their ashes, their favorite toys.

    These differences are why there is a board for miscarraige/pregnancy loss and for late loss. They are very different experiences--both tragic, but different. I hope that you are able to find comfort and realize that Bayberry was not trying to hurt your feelings, but only redirect you somewhere that can better understand what you are going through. Hugs and good luck with everything! `




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  • scipiorxscipiorx member

    I understood where she was coming from.  I just don't understand why she couldn't leave it at "sorry for your loss".  As I mentioned, you can get different perspectives from others in similar (not the same) situations.  It's not like I posted a question about baby names.  It just seems that the compartmentalizing is so extreme at times.  I know I cannot relate personally to your losses so I will not post in this forum again.  Blessings to you all.

     

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