NBR: My sister...LONG.

karkissy09 · February 2013

My sister is 4 years older than me...she'll be 26 in March. When me and DH were 18 we decided to move in together as soon as I graduated. At the time she didn't even have a boyfriend. She started dating this guy a few months after we moved in together.

A year later me and DH got engaged. At the time they had only been dating for about 6 months but were talking about getting married and my parents said they needed to get to know each other better. After we got engaged they got married without telling anyone then faked an engagement. My sister fessed up a few months later, then bumped their wedding up in front of ours.

Her husband is a total jerk. Didn't congratulate us on our engagement nor when we announced my pregnancy. My mom believes he's stealing from her. They 're currently living with my parents bevause he refuses to work and instead draws disability. My sister works full time and does ALL the cooking and cleaning while he sits on is a all day.

Tonight my sister told me they're getting a divorce. My heart breaks for her...and as much as I hate BIL, I feel bad for him as well. He's from Virginia...we're in Kansas. He has no job, no family here in KS, no friends here, and now not even a wife. However, I'm glad my sister is making this decision because we've all known it was in her best interest simce the start.

I guess I just needed a little vent. I hate that I feel bad for this jerk, but I really do. I'll be praying for that ahole tonight even after all the crap he's put my family through. Thank you to anyone who actually read all that!

rachael_c26 · February 2013

That sucks. I think divorce always sucks. I'd probably feel bad for him too, but just don't. He made his decisions to be disrespectful and not contribute to the household and to the life that they promised to eachother.

Be there for your sister. Hopefully soon you'll see a side of her that you haven't seen in a long time. A good one that you missed because he was cramping her style.

karkissy09 · February 2013

rachael_c26:
That sucks. I think divorce always sucks. I'd probably feel bad for him too, but just don't. He made his decisions to be disrespectful and not contribute to the household and to the life that they promised to eachother.

Be there for your sister. Hopefully soon you'll see a side of her that you haven't seen in a long time. A good one that you missed because he was cramping her style.

It's funny you said this. I was telling her that I've finally seen her acting like her again recently. Thank goodness...I missed my sister!

iggywan · February 2013

T and Ps for your sister! It is a complicated situation, I am sure. Divorce is messy, but it is great she is acting like her old self again!

Don't you hate it when someone you love gets married and you just know it isnt the right fit? There isnt anything you can really do.... just support them in the fallout.....

katigox · February 2013

divorce sucks - no way around it. But it sounds like it's the best option not only for her, but for the relationships she has with you (and the rest of the family). T&P that it's as smooth as a transition as possible.

kieannb · February 2013

My thoughts are with your sister, but it sounds like this is the best decision for her. Don't feel bad for him, he made the choices he did that got him to where he is. Maybe if he wasn't such a lazy jerk things would have turned out differently.

StephRN23 · February 2013

I'm sorry she's going through that. I'm glad she has you to help her!

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