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Elsa1984 · February 2013

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Elsa1984 · February 2013

My first confession is that I can't help but look right between that guys legs as soon as I see the picture above.

My second confession is that I already have a huge list of everything I want to do to my IL's house when it becomes ours. I cannot wait to move in there. The crappy part, is that we have to wait until SO's grandpa passes before his parents move and the house is ours.

My third confession is that SO likes me being a SAHM, but I am starting to go stir crazy. A friend mentioned a part time job, and I secretly applied. If I got the job, I would be able to bring Gator with....while making money to stow away for future house projects, build up our savings more, and fun money.

My fourth confession, is that I am starting to really question if I want anymore kids. Our plan was two kids. But I don't know if I want to do the whole infant/toddler part again. I don't want another kid in our small house. And since we don't know when we will move into the bigger house, that could be like 10 years from now.

missyishere · February 2013

I can't sleep. Fuccking sinus infection.

A part time job where you can bring Gator?! Sounds like a win win situation to me.

stardust317 · February 2013

DD1 has been staying home sick and I feel like I'm about to go insane. She feels really bad and has spent most of her days laying on a palate on the floor watching nick jr, except when I'm doing something with DD2. When I'm feeding or soothing DD2, DD1 is standing under my feet screaming and crying to be picked up.

I guess my FFFC is that I'm bummed that DD1 isn't feeling well enough to go back to daycare so DD2 and I can resume our busy schedule of light housework and daytime TV.

Nita2603 · February 2013

I confess that I devoured a whole package of two bite brownies yesterday. Not healthy. But quick and convenient. And I need the calories to make the two litres of milk every day. Right?

I also confess that I keep thinking about weaning from the pump. I don't mind pumping itself so much, but fruck, my tits hurt. Like constantly. My nipples are sore. I get one clogged duct after the other. I am sick of it.
But then I know how much I want to give them breastmilk. How much money we save. How much I dread having sick kids, and so far they have been healthy on breastmilk. And I don't want to admit defeat. So I keep going. But really, the joy is mostly gone.

I also confess that I mostly tolerate when my ILs come to help with bedtime on game days. These days, I'd rather do it alone. Aidan plays strange with anybody but DH and I. And mostly, FiL is slightly in the way. They mean well. But honestly, I am quicker by myself.

And the biggest one, I am thinking about breaking ties with my mother completely. She annoys me so much. Every email is passive aggressive and bugs me for hours. I am not quite there just yet, but I am thinking of it. And it makes me feel guilty.

colliebabe · February 2013

I brought my kid out in her pajamas the other day.

I was meeting up with my sister and didn't know she wanted me to go look at the swatches for her bridesmaid dresses with her. DD was in her feetie pajamas and I didn't have any other clothes for her, so I took her to the bridal salon in her PJs. Hey at least it wasn't me in my PJs, right?

cantalopes24 · February 2013

Woodsie:
Elsa1984:

My second confession is that I already have a huge list of everything I want to do to my IL's house when it becomes ours. I cannot wait to move in there. The crappy part, is that we have to wait until SO's grandpa passes before his parents move and the house is ours.

My fourth confession, is that I am starting to really question if I want anymore kids. Our plan was two kids. But I don't know if I want to do the whole infant/toddler part again. I don't want another kid in our small house. And since we don't know when we will move into the bigger house, that could be like 10 years from now.

Can you buy a different house, sooner? I would have a hard time making family planning decisions around the IL's house in your situation, though I know I don't have the full story.

Yeah she's posted about this before and I don't get it. Also what if your ILs decide not to give you the house? I don't understand putting your life on hold for a decade when based on things you say about your life and YHs job you could buy a house or even just rent something bigger.

Chunstad · February 2013

***CODE BROWN**** C is facinated by me going to the bathroom (#1). He likes to watch as I usually give him a play-by-play so he knows terminology when it comes to his turn. Unfortunately these past couple of days I've had some slight diarrhea. I'd love to be alone during this time, but he screams and pitches a fit so bad that I'm forced to have him join me. It sure is unnerving and humbling to have someone else, even if it is your child watching, smiling, and pointing out the toilet paper as you do your thing.

Shannon526 · February 2013

I have two.

1. (Code Brown) I had my 30 week appt the other day, and obviously had to pee in a cup. I realized that I didn't just have to pee, so I was in there for a little while. I had L with me, so when I came out, I told the nurse it took so long because I had to change L's diaper. Oops.

2. I still haven't officially spoke to my boss about what I'm going to do for maternity leave. I only work 2 days a week, and each day is only for about 5 hours, so I know that if I had to go back to work sooner than later I'd be ok, but I just really want to be able to come back when I feel ready.

When I had L, I wasn't working, so I was able to take my time finding a job. I finally went back to work when she was about 7 months old. I would love to be able to take that long off, but I know that's not feasible for many reasons. I guess my confession is that I wish I could make up my own maternity leave policy haha. Ridiculous? Yes. Oh well.

hunnybunny614 · February 2013

Chunstad:
CODE BROWN

C is facinated by me going to the bathroom 1. He likes to watch as I usually give him a playbyplay so he knows terminology when it comes to his turn. Unfortunately these past couple of days I've had some slight diarrhea. I'd love to be alone during this time, but he screams and pitches a fit so bad that I'm forced to have him join me. It sure is unnerving and humbling to have someone else, even if it is your child watching, smiling, and pointing out the toilet paper as you do your thing.

Sorry you've had issues, but this made me laugh because we do the same thing everyday. DS follows me in the bathroom, plays with the toilet paper and knows how to flush the toilet when I'm done. He even waves bye.

My fffc is there hasn't been a day this week that I haven't blown up at DH. Yesterday we had a piece of siding that blew off the house. We don't have a ladder, so i told him I'd have my dad stop by and fix it. He then proceeds to grab a kitchen chair and bucket. I told him he was crazy, while he told me he was being resourceful. Um no, killing yourself on a makeshift ladder is not resourceful. My dad ended up doing the fix. Everyday there has been something equally ridiculous and I'm sick of it.

btsrc5 · February 2013

I feel horrible even posting this, because it isn't about me. But I am really nervous and anxious about going to the funeral tomorrow for the little girl I posted about yesterday.

I have been so worried about my sister and the little girl's mom, that I haven't really had a chance to "grieve" or process everything. And I just know that I am going to be an emotional wreck tomorrow. I am scared to see my sister and the mother because I am worried I will completely fall apart. I so much want to be there for both of them and be strong for them but I don't know if I can do it. It is really hitting me today that the funeral is tomorrow and not only will I have to say goodbye to a precious, wonderful little girl, but I will have to face my sister and her mom.

stardust317 · February 2013

Spicy15:
my confession centers around mommy guilt. There have been a couple of times when I'm putting Tristen down for a nap and Evalet decides she wants to be awake and then wants picked up and I can't get to her, and she has a period of several minutes where she is in a crying fit. I feel bad because with him I could get to him and there wasn't anything preventing me from getting to him when he needed something. THat is obviously not the case with the second one, I worry that I'm not bonding enough with her, and then my mind just goes rampant with worry. I know that her crying for a little bit isn't going to hurt her, and when it has happened I equate with if I was driving in the car and couldn't get to her she would be crying until we arrived at whatever destination. Still it tears me up inside, even with the reality I cannot be in 2 places at once.

I could have written this!! I completely understand. And I'm exhausted enough that I've found myself getting pretty easily frustrated, and that makes me feel bad.

Shannon526 · February 2013

crystalbaby:
btsrc5:

I feel horrible even posting this, because it isn't about me. But I am really nervous and anxious about going to the funeral tomorrow for the little girl I posted about yesterday.

I have been so worried about my sister and the little girl's mom, that I haven't really had a chance to "grieve" or process everything. And I just know that I am going to be an emotional wreck tomorrow. I am scared to see my sister and the mother because I am worried I will completely fall apart. I so much want to be there for both of them and be strong for them but I don't know if I can do it. It is really hitting me today that the funeral is tomorrow and not only will I have to say goodbye to a precious, wonderful little girl, but I will have to face my sister and her mom.

Allow yourself to grieve. You do not have to hold it together for everyone. They're not expecting you to hold it together for them. Just being there and grieving with them will give them comfort. ((hugs))

I agree with everything Crystal said. Just being there will mean a lot to your sister and the little girl's mom... don't try to hold back tears it is a very tragic thing that happened and it's ok to cry in front of them. I'll be thinking of you and everyone involved.

Gipper0809 · February 2013

stardust317:
Spicy15:
my confession centers around mommy guilt. There have been a couple of times when I'm putting Tristen down for a nap and Evalet decides she wants to be awake and then wants picked up and I can't get to her, and she has a period of several minutes where she is in a crying fit. I feel bad because with him I could get to him and there wasn't anything preventing me from getting to him when he needed something. THat is obviously not the case with the second one, I worry that I'm not bonding enough with her, and then my mind just goes rampant with worry. I know that her crying for a little bit isn't going to hurt her, and when it has happened I equate with if I was driving in the car and couldn't get to her she would be crying until we arrived at whatever destination. Still it tears me up inside, even with the reality I cannot be in 2 places at once.
I could have written this!! I completely understand. And I'm exhausted enough that I've found myself getting pretty easily frustrated, and that makes me feel bad.

I'm right there with you girls. Honestly--I've taken the approach that Jack is going to cry sometimes and there's nothing I can do about it. Like when I'm changing Linc's diaper, getting dinner for the older two, using the bathroom, etc. he's just going to scream. If I know that I'm doing what I can to comfort him when I'm able, then it allows me to not feel bad when I have to set him down and let him cry. It stinks but I'm pretty sure the babies won't remember. And I'm also sure you're bonding during the moments when it's just the two of you. Hang in there, mamas!

mrsgabus · February 2013

1
Im slighty upset that DH is unable to preform in the bedroom as he got poision ivy on his hand which led to it on his junk.

2 Everytime i look at dh all i can think is ivy penis and how bad it must itch. Then i think about how when i had issues it was not a big deal to him, then i laugh at his itchyness.

3 i have been extremely jealous of all the pregnant girls everywhere and for awhile i was really bitter. Now im just happy that new babies are entering the world :

dlast09 · February 2013

Chunstad:
***CODE BROWN**** C is facinated by me going to the bathroom (#1). He likes to watch as I usually give him a play-by-play so he knows terminology when it comes to his turn. Unfortunately these past couple of days I've had some slight diarrhea. I'd love to be alone during this time, but he screams and pitches a fit so bad that I'm forced to have him join me. It sure is unnerving and humbling to have someone else, even if it is your child watching, smiling, and pointing out the toilet paper as you do your thing.

This makes me laugh, because I could have probably written this same post word for word. Samuel attempts to crawl on my lap, or push me aside to look in the potty. Then he helps me say bye bye to whatever is in the potty... He started doing that on his own. My stomach has been acting up lately, so this is frequent in our house, haha.

missyishere · February 2013

crystalbaby:
btsrc5:
I feel horrible even posting this, because it isn't about me. But I am really nervous and anxious about going to the funeral tomorrow for the little girl I posted about yesterday.

I have been so worried about my sister and the little girl's mom, that I haven't really had a chance to "grieve" or process everything. And I just know that I am going to be an emotional wreck tomorrow. I am scared to see my sister and the mother because I am worried I will completely fall apart. I so much want to be there for both of them and be strong for them but I don't know if I can do it. It is really hitting me today that the funeral is tomorrow and not only will I have to say goodbye to a precious, wonderful little girl, but I will have to face my sister and her mom.
Allow yourself to grieve. You do not have to hold it together for everyone. They're not expecting you to hold it together for them. Just being there and grieving with them will give them comfort. ((hugs))

100% what Crystal said. The whole situation is so heartbreaking. My thoughts go to you and your sister's friend. I just can't imagine...

missyishere · February 2013

So, my bff asked to make lunch plans for today a few days ago. I don't get to see her as often as I would like, because it's just too damn cold to go anywhere. I know she invited the obnoxious acquaintance I've told you all about. It makes me not want to go to lunch, because I just want to have a nice conversation with an old friend. The other gal is a total drama llama. She hijacks conversations, and she's a total negative Nancy. Ugh.

Nita2603 · February 2013

stardust317:
Spicy15:
my confession centers around mommy guilt. There have been a couple of times when I'm putting Tristen down for a nap and Evalet decides she wants to be awake and then wants picked up and I can't get to her, and she has a period of several minutes where she is in a crying fit. I feel bad because with him I could get to him and there wasn't anything preventing me from getting to him when he needed something. THat is obviously not the case with the second one, I worry that I'm not bonding enough with her, and then my mind just goes rampant with worry. I know that her crying for a little bit isn't going to hurt her, and when it has happened I equate with if I was driving in the car and couldn't get to her she would be crying until we arrived at whatever destination. Still it tears me up inside, even with the reality I cannot be in 2 places at once.

I could have written this!! I completely understand. And I'm exhausted enough that I've found myself getting pretty easily frustrated, and that makes me feel bad.

Count me in. In fact, I think I founded that club.

Scramblersmom · February 2013

Btsrc...I agree with what the others have said. You will be supportive just by going and being there with them. I couldn't imagine that there would be a single dry eye at the service. I will be keeping everyone in my T&Ps.

My confessions...

1.) I am not sure if daycare is serving fruits and veggies during snacks and meals given what it says on their food calendar. I will be inquiring about this today and if DS isn't getting fruits and veggies too we will be bringing them for him to get while he is there. This has been really bothering me because I always make sure to give him well balanced meals like on Monday when we had pizza for dinner, Tuesday when we had Qdoba's 3 cheese nachos, and Wednesday when he got KFC. Embarrassed

2.) I have really big feet and have been having trouble finding a pair of sneakers that I like, that will fit my feet, and don't cost a fortune. I finally found a pair yesterday that work perfectly...in the men's department. Crying I am wearing them today.

mrsgabus · February 2013

smit5009:
Btsrc...I agree with what the others have said. You will be supportive just by going and being there with them. I couldn't imagine that there would be a single dry eye at the service. I will be keeping everyone in my T&Ps.

My confessions...
1.) I am not sure if daycare is serving fruits and veggies during snacks and meals given what it says on their food calendar. I will be inquiring about this today and if DS isn't getting fruits and veggies too we will be bringing them for him to get while he is there. This has been really bothering me because I always make sure to give him well balanced meals like on Monday when we had pizza for dinner, Tuesday when we had Qdoba's 3 cheese nachos, and Wednesday when he got KFC.
2.) I have really big feet and have been having trouble finding a pair of sneakers that I like, that will fit my feet, and don't cost a fortune. I finally found a pair yesterday that work perfectly...in the men's department. I am wearing them today.

hey atleast you dont have to shop in the Juniors department. In almost every store I have to shop in the kids section. They dont make very flattering clothing in the childrens section and I end up with a lot of pink shoes.

Scramblersmom · February 2013

mrsgabus:
smit5009:
Btsrc...I agree with what the others have said. You will be supportive just by going and being there with them. I couldn't imagine that there would be a single dry eye at the service. I will be keeping everyone in my T&Ps.

My confessions...
1.) I am not sure if daycare is serving fruits and veggies during snacks and meals given what it says on their food calendar. I will be inquiring about this today and if DS isn't getting fruits and veggies too we will be bringing them for him to get while he is there. This has been really bothering me because I always make sure to give him well balanced meals like on Monday when we had pizza for dinner, Tuesday when we had Qdoba's 3 cheese nachos, and Wednesday when he got KFC.
2.) I have really big feet and have been having trouble finding a pair of sneakers that I like, that will fit my feet, and don't cost a fortune. I finally found a pair yesterday that work perfectly...in the men's department. I am wearing them today.
hey atleast you dont have to shop in the Juniors department. In almost every store I have to shop in the kids section. They dont make very flattering clothing in the childrens section and I end up with a lot of pink shoes.

Hahaha! Between us we complete the range of having a crappy time trying to find things to fit us! All of my friends are tiny and cute so I always felt like Godzilla around them. Big Smile

I wanted to say that I read your UO and I can sympathize with you. I have not been through all you have but I have been in a position where I struggled with everyone I knew having babies within one year. In the meantime I was pushing 40 and never thought I would or could ever have a baby. I spent several nights crying after every pregnancy announcement. I was happy for them but very sad for myself. It is a tough position to be in. Anyway, if you ever need a shoulder to cry on just holler!

Elsa1984 · February 2013

Woodsie:
Elsa1984:

My second confession is that I already have a huge list of everything I want to do to my IL's house when it becomes ours. I cannot wait to move in there. The crappy part, is that we have to wait until SO's grandpa passes before his parents move and the house is ours.

My fourth confession, is that I am starting to really question if I want anymore kids. Our plan was two kids. But I don't know if I want to do the whole infant/toddler part again. I don't want another kid in our small house. And since we don't know when we will move into the bigger house, that could be like 10 years from now.

Can you buy a different house, sooner? I would have a hard time making family planning decisions around the IL's house in your situation, though I know I don't have the full story.

We live in SO's great grandma's house. She originally split the property and SO's grandparents built on the additional piece. Then grandparents split the property, and gave SO's parents a chunk, and they built a house. So we all live next to each other. When grandpa passes, his parents want to downsize and will be taking his house. Since they custom built their home and want it to go to one of their kids, they want SO to take it over due to his sister not being financially stable and not living in the area. SO likes this situation with these three houses, so we will be buying it off them....getting 3x the space, and paying them our payments instead of a bank, and our payments would be the same as we paid on our tiny house. We had the same arrangement when we bought his great grandma's house. The our small house will be turned into a rental/investment property for both SO and his parents. We love living next to them and love their house and its location. I am not saying I am rethinking another baby solely on the house situation....my SIL had two kids in this house and it worked out fine. I just like my space and would like to upgrade before adding another child. But right now, I don't want to deal with another infant/toddler stage and having another kid is the last thing on my mind. I don't know if these feelings are just because Gator is so busy and cranky with her teeth coming in, or if I just really don't want another. I guess time will tell!

missyishere · February 2013

I'm off and on researching homes in areas where my family lives in MN. I know my DH wouldn't move unless he would be guaranteed a position similar to his current job, and that a reasonable custody agreement would be in place with SD. I know it probably would never happen, but I become very tired of my area. I love my friends, but friends have become a much smaller priority in my life. I'm not as close with my family here (my mom's side of the family), except for my aunt. She would probably move if we did. My dad's entire side of the family live in MN, and they are amazing people. I am secretly hoping some sort of awesome opportunity comes up in my searches that my DH would have a hard time turning down.

ebp913 · February 2013

1 - Our Christmas lights are still up and they turn on every night because no one has gotten up on the roof to unplug them. I pretend like I care but I really don't.

2 - Baby #2 is IUGR and my husband is force feeding me calories. I haven't gained a pound in a week. WTF. I really really don't want to have to have this baby yet and I'm stressing out just thinking about it. I need 5 more weeks badly!

3 - I made a baby registry to keep track of things I need for #2 and so I can use the discount to order stuff. Instead it's like at least 50-75% I need for Olivia.

4 - Olivia has been acting all crazy and tantrumy this week and DH thought we should take her to the doc on Wednesday night. I told him she was fine and we were probably overreacting. Well we went this morning and she has a double ear infection and sinus infection. BAD MOM.

pennysuedog · February 2013

missyleaferg:
I'm off and on researching homes in areas where my family lives in MN. I know my DH wouldn't move unless he would be guaranteed a position similar to his current job, and that a reasonable custody agreement would be in place with SD. I know it probably would never happen, but I become very tired of my area. I love my friends, but friends have become a much smaller priority in my life. I'm not as close with my family here (my mom's side of the family), except for my aunt. She would probably move if we did. My dad's entire side of the family live in MN, and they are amazing people. I am secretly hoping some sort of awesome opportunity comes up in my searches that my DH would have a hard time turning down.

What does YH do?

missyishere · February 2013

pennysuedog:
missyleaferg:
I'm off and on researching homes in areas where my family lives in MN. I know my DH wouldn't move unless he would be guaranteed a position similar to his current job, and that a reasonable custody agreement would be in place with SD. I know it probably would never happen, but I become very tired of my area. I love my friends, but friends have become a much smaller priority in my life. I'm not as close with my family here (my mom's side of the family), except for my aunt. She would probably move if we did. My dad's entire side of the family live in MN, and they are amazing people. I am secretly hoping some sort of awesome opportunity comes up in my searches that my DH would have a hard time turning down.
What does YH do?

He works as a judicial assistant. I don't know if it has the same title in MN, though.

pennysuedog · February 2013

missyleaferg:
pennysuedog:
missyleaferg:
I'm off and on researching homes in areas where my family lives in MN. I know my DH wouldn't move unless he would be guaranteed a position similar to his current job, and that a reasonable custody agreement would be in place with SD. I know it probably would never happen, but I become very tired of my area. I love my friends, but friends have become a much smaller priority in my life. I'm not as close with my family here (my mom's side of the family), except for my aunt. She would probably move if we did. My dad's entire side of the family live in MN, and they are amazing people. I am secretly hoping some sort of awesome opportunity comes up in my searches that my DH would have a hard time turning down.
What does YH do?
He works as a judicial assistant. I don't know if it has the same title in MN, though.

Hmm can't help you there. It would be great to have another MN bumpie!

stardust317 · February 2013

ebp913:
4 - Olivia has been acting all crazy and tantrumy this week and DH thought we should take her to the doc on Wednesday night. I told him she was fine and we were probably overreacting. Well we went this morning and she has a double ear infection and sinus infection. BAD MOM.

I did this early December. DD was whiny/clingy and kept spiking random fevers, but it was super inconsistent. She ran a fever on Thursday night and then again on Sunday, I thought she was teething. When they called me on a Wednesday to pick her up from daycare because of her fever, I broke down and called the pedi. She had freakin' pneumonia. In addition, while she was on antibiotics for the pneumonia, one of her ear drums ruptured. I felt like a jerk.

stardust317 · February 2013

smit5009:
2.) I have really big feet and have been having trouble finding a pair of sneakers that I like, that will fit my feet, and don't cost a fortune. I finally found a pair yesterday that work perfectly...in the men's department. I am wearing them today.

What size shoe do you wear? I wore an 11 before I had kids and now I really need more like an 11.5 Those are pretty much impossible to find.

Have you checked out barefoottess.com?

Scramblersmom · February 2013

stardust317:
smit5009:
2.) I have really big feet and have been having trouble finding a pair of sneakers that I like, that will fit my feet, and don't cost a fortune. I finally found a pair yesterday that work perfectly...in the men's department. I am wearing them today.
What size shoe do you wear? I wore an 11 before I had kids and now I really need more like an 11.5 Those are pretty much impossible to find.
Have you checked out barefoottess.com?

I have not heard about that website but I am definitely going to check it out! I wear a size 11. My foot measures a normal width but when I try the shoes on they feel too narrow so I usually need to get a wide for them to feel comfortable. I even had my feet re-measured recently. Trying to find an 11W has been almost impossible. Thanks for letting me know about this site!

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