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20thirteen20thirteen member
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Hey everyone I'm new to all of this. My ex left when he found out I was pregnant so I am doing this on my own, which is actually preferable. Anyone else a first timer or currently a single parent?
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Re: First timer

  • livleen3livleen3 member

    Hey.. Im new to being pregnant & Im doing it alone. Im 10weeks ; )

    I was dating a guy since last march and I guess I didnt understand this entire time that I was just a casual girl he was sexing. In Dec when I found out I was pregnant and told him he was nice and supportive because he wanted to make sure I would get an abortion but when I told him I was 100% sure I was keeping it he was verbally horrible to me and said mean things. So I totally feel alone and have no clue how I will make this work. Ive been so caught up on $ and saving enough for maternity leave that my friend asked me how I would even deal with putting a 3month baby in day care and i started crying. It wasnt even something I thought about. I mean i know I have to go back to work but I was so caught up in plannign for other things I didnt even consider it. So things will come up that make you want to scream and hate life but take a deep breathe and take it Day byday.. We have no choice. And remember our baby feels everything we feel so stay positive!

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  • Monkeybird84Monkeybird84 member
    I'm a single new FTM. I haven't heard from BD since the day DS was born, and that's fine by me (BD is, for all intents and purposes, useless). I just went back to work last week, and because I can't afford to pay a daycare center, my parents are keeping him while I work. I also had to move back in with my parents for the same reasons ($8.75 an hour for 20-30 hours a week doesn't go very far). I couldn't do this without my family and friends. If at all possible, you should lean on your family and friends for help and support with this pregnancy.
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  • blueyedsweety28blueyedsweety28 member
    well all the people in this thread should be single parents .. haha .. :) my ex and I were together until our son was 6 weeks old .. we're still trying to get it together and do what's best for our baby while not being together .. certainly isn't easy .. 
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    Luckily for me, my family and his family are supporting me and willing to help me out as much as they can. His family has completely disowned him. I kind of feel bad about that but he did that to himself, I didn't do that to him. I'm starting to put money aside for daycare, my friends who have extra baby stuff or no longer need their baby stuff are giving things to me so that I have less to worry about. I'm just scared about the day that LO will ask where his/her daddy is.
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  • mandi195mandi195 member

    I was a single parent to my son for the first 5.5 years of his life... from when I was about 1 month pregnant I was on my own. Now, I've met a great guy who also has a son from a previous marriage, and we are a happy little family and set to get married next year.

    You can do this! It was scary for me at first knowing I was on my own, but like you I knew it was better than my ex being involved (sadly, I chose a not-so-great guy back then). Just keep yourself healthy, be the best momma you can be, and everything will be ok. Yes, sometimes there are struggles, but as long as you keep your priorities straight you'll be just fine. Best of luck to you, momma!

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