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morgannkris · January 2013

Hi guys, I have a situation I'm young, I'm 21 and going to be having first child my mother and I haven't gotten along since my teenage years. she doesn't want me pregnant right now so you can only imagine how my life is right now. About me, I'm a junior in college nursing program, and boyfriend of 3 years. So I was wondering what your takes were on my situation, my mom doesnt want me to live with my boyfriend she doesn't think he needs to be there she said the baby won't remember I'm not listening to her but I can't think of what to argue besides the fact that he just needs to be there. My and my boyfriend are very happy together and I don't think that I should deprive him of being in his daughters life from day one just because my mom thinks our relationship might fail. Nothing in life is guaranteed and I don't think my mom is being realistic we bump heads on my moving out all the time and each time she tries to bash my bf, he hasn't done anything wrong in her eyes so her animosity is only coming from the fact she doesn't like that someone impregnanted her daughter. Also him living me with me is not an option.

Beachy730 · January 2013

morgannkris:
Hi guys, I have a situation I'm young, I'm 21 and going to be having first child my mother and I haven't gotten along since my teenage years. she doesn't want me pregnant right now so you can only imagine how my life is right now. About me, I'm a junior in college nursing program, and boyfriend of 3 years. So I was wondering what your takes were on my situation, my mom doesnt want me to live with my boyfriend she doesn't think he needs to be there she said the baby won't remember I'm not listening to her but I can't think of what to argue besides the fact that he just needs to be there. My and my boyfriend are very happy together and I don't think that I should deprive him of being in his daughters life from day one just because my mom thinks our relationship might fail. Nothing in life is guaranteed and I don't think my mom is being realistic we bump heads on my moving out all the time and each time she tries to bash my bf, he hasn't done anything wrong in her eyes so her animosity is only coming from the fact she doesn't like that someone impregnanted her daughter. Also him living me with me is not an option.

You're 21. If you want to move out with your BF to raise your child, then you're an adult and can do that.

jesselayne8 · January 2013

Unless your mother is supporting you financially, then its solely your decision to make.

CNJ4EVA · January 2013

If you and your boyfriend are happy together, then your mother's input should not have any effect on the relationship.

DaisyTortilla · January 2013

Had the same situation with my mom when I got pregnant. But I'm 24 and already graduated from college. Lol. It was a little ridiculous, she hung up on me and didn't talk to me for weeks when I told her about my pregnancy. I finally just flat out told her, I was starting my own life and family with him and she could join us if she wanted to, whenever she felt ready. She got over it pretty quick after that. Sometimes they are blinded by overprotection that they oversee good outcomes. Hope things get better soon!

adrianktheo · January 2013

He needs to be there, your mom is ridiculous to think that he doesn't. You've been together for 3 years, it wasn't a one-time fling, you're an adult and you just need to do what you feel is best.

jerseygirl81 · January 2013

Yeah, if you're going to be an adult and have sex and a baby then you should act like one and start your own life. It doesn't matter what your mom thinks, it's his baby, too, and he should be there.

Ehoughton12 · January 2013

I think if he wants to be there and you want him there and you are financially independent, go for it.

morgannkris · January 2013

Shantxtell:
Do you live with your Mom?

Yeah I do, but I basically pay rent and I work and go to school so I'm hardly home.

morgannkris · January 2013

Thanks ladies, sometimes I feel like I need my moms approval for everything and it holds me back. It's just reassuring to know I'm not insane for making the decisions I have made.

Lolalipsy · February 2013

You're an adult and you can make your own decisions. I think keeping your partner from the birth is a mistake in my opinion. This is his child as well.

quiggels219 · February 2013

You're a grown up and are having a child so I don't think what your mom feels about it matters much. Tell her you're moving out and starting your family and you hope she can support you and be a part of her grandchilds life.

katester42 · February 2013

jerseygirl81:
Yeah, if you're going to be an adult and have sex and a baby then you should act like one and start your own life. It doesn't matter what your mom thinks, it's his baby, too, and he should be there.

You took the words right out of my mouth!

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