Let me start this post by explaining that my husband has moved, due to his work, and lives a little over 2 hours drive from me. I will be staying in our hometown until the baby is born, and then we will be moving to our apartment in the new town, Bean has been moving a lot, and the past 2 1/2 weeks or so, I have been able to feel him move outside my belly, and even see my stomach jump when he kicks really hard. Unfortunately, when I have seen DH on the weekends, Bean hasn't kicked for his daddy. I know that is coming soon.
The problem is a friend of mine at work. I'm not 100% comfortable with people touching my belly, but I am getting better about it now that I am showing. My friend keeps wanting to put her hands on my belly and wait for Bean to kick her. Ihave told her repeatedly over the past couple of months that I don't want anyone to feel Bean kick until his daddy does. This may sound stupid, but I am a FTM and for some reason it's really important to me.
At the hospital where I work, there are 2 other women who will see me, give me a quick hug and a quick belly rub, and it doesn't bother me at all. They are saying hi to Bean, not trying to feel him kick. My other friend has seen them do that twice this week and threw a borderline fit that they were touching my belly and she couldn't. I told her again, I don't want anyone to put their hands on me to feel the baby kick until DH does. I wouldn't care if she gave me the quick tummy pat or rub that the other girls do, but she INSISTS on leaving her hands there and just waiting for movement.
How do I (politely) make her understand that I see a really big difference between a hello pat or rub, and waiting to feel the baby kick or move? I do understand that she is excited and may think I am unreasonable, but I am really set on DH feeling Bean first. TIA!
Re: Bean moving, friends want to feel...(Long)
Petra FTW again. Really couldnt have said it better.
I've heard others say to drink a cold glass of water and then lay on your side. Try that and see if that helps any to get your bean moving.
This. I would explain myself again simply because she's a friend.
This. Lol
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I guess my FFFC is that I lied for weeks after I started feeling him to avood this touching business.
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