Tell me I'm not a bad person! (NTTCALR)

LunaBug924 · January 2013

Ok, I'm having a freak out moment and need some perspective. I was just clearing out some spam mail from an account I don't really use anymore, and I see an email from my ex. I haven't seen or spoken to him since before DH and I were going steady. (about 4 years) He basically told me he didn't want to see me happy with someone else, because he thought we would've gotten back together, and said he didn't want to talk to me again. This was after a 5 year relationship.

About 6 months ago, I was going through some boxes I had stored at my parents house and came across some photos of him as a kid. I have no idea why I had them, figured that I would never talk to him again, and tossed them. Well....his email was asking me if I still had them and if I could mail them to him. Crap!

Somehow, I feel like a jerk. I know those were the original prints and can never be replaced. It just sucks because the reality is that he was the jerk back then. If he wanted those pictures, why wait 4 years to ask for them? DH is at work and none of my friends are picking up their phones, so I needed to vent to someone. The big question is, do I just ignore the email, or fess up? I know I'm over thinking this, it just threw me for a loop. Thanks for listening. Here's a yummy looking drink...I know I could use one right about now.

gscoville · January 2013

I wouldn't answer the email. Don't even acknlowledge his existence, otherwise you're just setting yourself up for more questions, having to defend why you don't still have the photos, etc. Delete and move on.

lolee465 · January 2013

I would just ignore the email, you don't owe him an explanation. I don't see why he would even think you'd keep those pics after all this time!

DCWJes · January 2013

Ignore it. I had an ex of mine call me while I was with someone else, it was before DH. He asked if I had his birth certificate. I looked and I didn't see it. Well, DH and I started dating and he moved into my apartment. When we moved into a bigger place, guess what? I found it. I still sometimes feel guilty that I had it and didn't know, but it's also been 4 years since he asked me for it. Just a note: he was very abusive and I ended up having a restraining order on him. There is just no way I could contact him anymore. It's just not safe.

Crunkal · January 2013

Just ignore the email, pretend it never happened. That is ancient history. He doesn't deserve a response, and you should not feel guilty for throwing those pictures away.

mayonegg · January 2013

gscoville:
I wouldn't answer the email. Don't even acknlowledge his existence, otherwise you're just setting yourself up for more questions, having to defend why you don't still have the photos, etc. Delete and move on.

Agreed Yes I feel like saying anything to him just opens up the can of worms. Why bother going there?

OttersBite · February 2013

Don't sweat it Luna, just delete it and move on like PP suggested. No good will come from contacting this guy and you certainly didn't do anything wrong by throwing out his leftover crap after four freaking years.

Thanks for the yummy looking drink. Wink

ellajune2012 · February 2013

gscoville:
I wouldn't answer the email. Don't even acknlowledge his existence, otherwise you're just setting yourself up for more questions, having to defend why you don't still have the photos, etc. Delete and move on.

This. He's the one who said he never wanted to talk to you again.

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