Pissed

Nena015 · January 2013

So I'm 10 weeks and 1 day. And my cousin just posted a sonogram pic of their baby at 4 weeks on FB. Obvs. It's ridiculous to come out that early but now I'm questioning my own precautions. Maybe I'm just hormonal. But I still don't feel good about myself.

EmeraldSea · January 2013

Nena015:
So I'm 10 weeks and 1 day. And my cousin just posted a sonogram pic of their baby at 4 weeks on FB. Obvs. It's ridiculous to come out that early but now I'm questioning my own precautions. Maybe I'm just hormonal. But I still don't feel good about myself.

Well, I'm not a fan of posting sonogram pics on FB at all at any rate (personal preference) but 4 weeks?! That seems really early.

Don't question your precautions. Wait until you are ready.

Cristine · January 2013

I'm 13 weeks and I'm still not ready to come out on facebook. My cousin (who's a doctor!!) put it on facebook at 6 weeks and I was stunned. I worried the whole time that she'd have to untell. I wouldn't over think it. Announce when you're comfortable.

cajunrunner · January 2013

Nena015:
So I'm 10 weeks and 1 day. And my cousin just posted a sonogram pic of their baby at 4 weeks on FB. Obvs. It's ridiculous to come out that early but now I'm questioning my own precautions. Maybe I'm just hormonal. But I still don't feel good about myself.

I'm not sure why this makes you pissed? The decision is up to each person. She was comfortable with announcing early, you can too if that's what you're comfortable with doing. There is nothing wrong with either choice.

MommyAmes2 · January 2013

So your "pissed," because someone else posted a facebook announcement, for their own pregnancy? Or am I misunderstanding?

When to announce is a personal preference. I announced at 8 weeks, that is when I felt comfortable. Some ladies here are waiting until much later, which is perfectly fine also.

dinomama13 · January 2013

Is there even anything to see in the ultrasound? Everyone may just think she's as ridiculous as you are thinking lol I posted at 7 weeks but because my mom found out and she told my grandparents and I knew it would get out so after my appointment I posted the pics of baby and tagged every family member on it like an announcement. I was planning on waiting until 12 weeks but I guess mothers just know? No one can tell you when you should announce. It's all up to you and when you feel comfortable announcing. I gotta admit though, I think I would also be a little peeved cause its like stealing your thunder.youre closer to the second tri than she is and she's getting the attention.totally understandable!

cinderin · January 2013

Meh. She posted. It is her news to share.

Is it what I (you) would do? Nope.

But doesn't have anything to do with you. It is her news to post when she feels like posting.

cajunrunner · January 2013

leahaziele91:
Is there even anything to see in the ultrasound? Everyone may just think she's as ridiculous as you are thinking lol I posted at 7 weeks but because my mom found out and she told my grandparents and I knew it would get out so after my appointment I posted the pics of baby and tagged every family member on it like an announcement. I was planning on waiting until 12 weeks but I guess mothers just know? No one can tell you when you should announce. It's all up to you and when you feel comfortable announcing. I gotta admit though, I think I would also be a little peeved cause its like stealing your thunder.youre closer to the second tri than she is and she's getting the attention.totally understandable!

Stealing her thunder?? I'm pretty sure that wasn't her intention, she may not even know. Just because she's pregnant as well that doesn't mean the OP's pregnancy is any less special. I'm sure she'll get just as much attention when she decides to announce.

WashingtonQueen · January 2013

As someone who announced pregnancy at 4 and a half weeks the first time around, I don't find it ridiculous. To each there own.

BTW, if she already had an ultrasound at 4 weeks there is is probably more to the story of her pregnancy than you realize. The only people I know with ultrasounds that early had some kind of problem TTC or problems with past pregnancies.

WashingtonQueen · January 2013

Also, if you are pissed about it, you need to check yourself. Seriously, chill out.

cinderin · January 2013

leahaziele91:
Is there even anything to see in the ultrasound? Everyone may just think she's as ridiculous as you are thinking lol I posted at 7 weeks but because my mom found out and she told my grandparents and I knew it would get out so after my appointment I posted the pics of baby and tagged every family member on it like an announcement. I was planning on waiting until 12 weeks but I guess mothers just know? No one can tell you when you should announce. It's all up to you and when you feel comfortable announcing. I gotta admit though, I think I would also be a little peeved cause its like stealing your thunder.youre closer to the second tri than she is and she's getting the attention.totally understandable!

OMG. Facebook-baby-announcement-thunder-stealing? Seriously?

It is not like she posted about *your* PG.

She posted about her own. She is allowed to be excited and announce on Facebook for gods sake.

WashingtonQueen · January 2013

leahaziele91:
I gotta admit though, I think I would also be a little peeved cause its like stealing your thunder.youre closer to the second tri than she is and she's getting the attention.totally understandable!

OMG, really? Grow up.

cajunrunner · January 2013

cinderin:
leahaziele91:
Is there even anything to see in the ultrasound? Everyone may just think she's as ridiculous as you are thinking lol I posted at 7 weeks but because my mom found out and she told my grandparents and I knew it would get out so after my appointment I posted the pics of baby and tagged every family member on it like an announcement. I was planning on waiting until 12 weeks but I guess mothers just know? No one can tell you when you should announce. It's all up to you and when you feel comfortable announcing. I gotta admit though, I think I would also be a little peeved cause its like stealing your thunder.youre closer to the second tri than she is and she's getting the attention.totally understandable!
OMG. Facebook-baby-announcement-thunder-stealing? Seriously?
It is not like she posted about *your* PG.
She posted about her own. She is allowed to be excited and announce on Facebook for gods sake.

This.

ScarletOflaherty · January 2013

Why is that 'ridiculously early'? The only thing ridiculous is the judgement about how early is 'ok' to tell people.

It's none of your damn business if someone has to 'untell' or not, that's their deal. Some people would prefer to have the support of their friends and family if something did go wrong rather than going through that alone like they somehow did something wrong and it's some deep dark secret.

magdalina.h · January 2013

What was the picture of at 4w? I didn't think anything could be seen that early.

katharine25 · January 2013

WashingtonQueen:
BTW, if she already had an ultrasound at 4 weeks there is is probably more to the story of her pregnancy than you realize. The only people I know with ultrasounds that early had some kind of problem TTC or problems with past pregnancies.

This, but I don't think there's actually anything to see at 4 weeks. Even at 5 weeks it's only really a gestational sac, maybe a yolk. And at 6 it's a just big oval dot.

I also fail to understand how her announcing makes you not feel good about yourself. Maybe I'm missing something here...

Kay522 · January 2013

EmeraldSea:
Nena015:
So I'm 10 weeks and 1 day. And my cousin just posted a sonogram pic of their baby at 4 weeks on FB. Obvs. It's ridiculous to come out that early but now I'm questioning my own precautions. Maybe I'm just hormonal. But I still don't feel good about myself.
Well, I'm not a fan of posting sonogram pics on FB at all at any rate (personal preference) but 4 weeks?! That seems really early.
Don't question your precautions. Wait until you are ready.

I'm not a fan of posting sonogram pics on FB either. I think everyone is different. If you don't feel ready to tell everyone then it really shouldn't matter that your cousin announced her pregnancy so early.

virginiamama85 · January 2013

eh, my SIL started telling people, on facebook and everywhere else, pretty much the day she found out and while I was scared that they would have to untell if something happened. I certainly wouldn't have told so early, but it wasn't my decision to make!

punkin05 · January 2013

I don't understand being pissed about this. I might momentarily side eye it, but people will be comfortable announcing their news at different times. It's their personal decision to tell at 4 weeks, just like its your decision to wait until you feel ready.

You know what's ridiculous? People worrying about their pregnancy thunder. Everyone has a right to be happy and excited about their news. There isn't a set limit on happiness and congratulations and excitement within a family or group of friends. Being pissed that she announced first is just setting yourself up for years of mommy wars. What if her child rolls over first? Walks first? Says mama while your child just shrieks? Enjoy your pregnancy and little one and stop caring what everyone else is doing because it's only going to get worse.

Soleil3 · January 2013

Whoooop woooop! Facebook police, everyone, lock down your pages!

This is such a weird journal entry. Grow up.

Melanieian · January 2013

Why in the world would this piss you off? It makes you seem self-centered. She is happy and ready to spread her joy there is nothing wrong with that it has nothing to do with you! You choose not to announce so she should have waited until she got the okay from you? I am sorry but this really rubbed me the wrong way. Some people really need to realize everything is not about them!

EmeraldSea · January 2013

Melanieian:
Why in the world would this piss you off? It makes you seem self-centered. She is happy and ready to spread her joy there is nothing wrong with that it has nothing to do with you! You choose not to announce so she should have waited until she got the okay from you? I am sorry but this really rubbed me the wrong way. Some people really need to realize everything is not about them!

Umm.. am I the only one who read the original post in a completely different way?

I read it as she is pissed because of the way she is FEELING. She is pissed because it is making her second guess herself. I don't think she meant anything about being pissed about thunder being stolen or that she didn't announce first. I could be wrong. But I understand how easy it is to get angry with yourself for questioning your own emotions.

Where did all the super spastic posts come from?

punkin05 · January 2013

EmeraldSea:
Melanieian:
Why in the world would this piss you off? It makes you seem self-centered. She is happy and ready to spread her joy there is nothing wrong with that it has nothing to do with you! You choose not to announce so she should have waited until she got the okay from you? I am sorry but this really rubbed me the wrong way. Some people really need to realize everything is not about them!
 
Umm.. am I the only one who read the original post in a completely different way?
I read it as she is pissed because of the way she is FEELING. She is pissed because it is making her second guess herself. I don't think she meant anything about being pissed about thunder being stolen or that she didn't announce first. I could be wrong. But I understand how easy it is to get angry with yourself for questioning your own emotions.
Where did all the super spastic posts come from?

The thunder stealing posts aren't directed at the OP. There was a reply that said they could understand being pissed because OP is closer to 2nd tri and her thunder is being stolen by someone who is only 4 weeks along.

nawlinsgrl · January 2013

BreanneL24:
I don't understand why this warrants you to be pissed. Her baby, her body, and she can decide what she wants to do. Is there even anything to see at 4 weeks? Even at 5 weeks, there is just a sac.

THIS!

EmeraldSea · January 2013

punkin05:
EmeraldSea:
Melanieian:
Why in the world would this piss you off? It makes you seem self-centered. She is happy and ready to spread her joy there is nothing wrong with that it has nothing to do with you! You choose not to announce so she should have waited until she got the okay from you? I am sorry but this really rubbed me the wrong way. Some people really need to realize everything is not about them!

Umm.. am I the only one who read the original post in a completely different way?
I read it as she is pissed because of the way she is FEELING. She is pissed because it is making her second guess herself. I don't think she meant anything about being pissed about thunder being stolen or that she didn't announce first. I could be wrong. But I understand how easy it is to get angry with yourself for questioning your own emotions.
Where did all the super spastic posts come from?
The thunder stealing posts aren't directed at the OP. There was a reply that said they could understand being pissed because OP is closer to 2nd tri and her thunder is being stolen by someone who is only 4 weeks along.

There were a few posts before the reply about "thunder stealing" as well. Oh well.

Melanieian · January 2013

EmeraldSea:

Melanieian:
Why in the world would this piss you off? It makes you seem self-centered. She is happy and ready to spread her joy there is nothing wrong with that it has nothing to do with you! You choose not to announce so she should have waited until she got the okay from you? I am sorry but this really rubbed me the wrong way. Some people really need to realize everything is not about them!

Umm.. am I the only one who read the original post in a completely different way?

I read it as she is pissed because of the way she is FEELING. She is pissed because it is making her second guess herself. I don't think she meant anything about being pissed about thunder being stolen or that she didn't announce first. I could be wrong. But I understand how easy it is to get angry with yourself for questioning your own emotions.

Where did all the super spastic posts come from?

From others, She is pissed because her cousin posted on fb before she did, plan and simple that is childish. It is also childish to say it is obvs ridiculous to announce at 4 weeks. What right does she have to make that judgement. It is a personal preference to announce when you want to announce.

CaliforniaDream87 · January 2013

leahaziele91:
Is there even anything to see in the ultrasound? Everyone may just think she's as ridiculous as you are thinking lol I posted at 7 weeks but because my mom found out and she told my grandparents and I knew it would get out so after my appointment I posted the pics of baby and tagged every family member on it like an announcement. I was planning on waiting until 12 weeks but I guess mothers just know? No one can tell you when you should announce. It's all up to you and when you feel comfortable announcing. I gotta admit though, I think I would also be a little peeved cause its like stealing your thunder.youre closer to the second tri than she is and she's getting the attention.totally understandable!

I'm sorry but you sound like a 13 year old. Stealing her thunder? Come on seriously?

Her cousin can post about her pregnancy whenever she chooses. Who cares who is closer to second tri? One persons "pregnancy news" doesn't down play some one else's.

yodasmistress · January 2013

I am a little lost. You care what your cousin does why?

livleen3 · January 2013

I kind of see a trend not in just this post but across the board on other posts ppl make also. Im not any kind of expert or claim to be this Mother Theresa Nonjudging person but People lay off!!! If someone feels a certain way, its ok! There is some reason they feel that way and we (total outsiders) dont need to attack the person or what they are saying. Which its very possible we are not understanding what the person is saying to begin with!

We are all in sensitive places and come on here for support so If you cant be sympathetic (regardless of the post) just be quiet. I think our society is going to *** , with reality TV etc. its making people negative and caty. And some poeople are born Mean but this negative behavior/comments doesnt make the world a better place.

You never know what a person is going through we need to be extra senstive towards everyone! Watch the news look at how people are cracking and doing crazy things. You never know. Just stay quiet if you have nothing good to say.

BlueJewelM · January 2013

Nena015:
So I'm 10 weeks and 1 day. And my cousin just posted a sonogram pic of their baby at 4 weeks on FB. Obvs. It's ridiculous to come out that early but now I'm questioning my own precautions. Maybe I'm just hormonal. But I still don't feel good about myself.

Some people are really into posting things on fb. Like...everything. NMS but people do. I am announcing to family and friends at 14 weeks, but won't post on fb until 20 weeks when we know what the sex of the baby is.

Everyone does what they are comfortable with. You took the precautions to wait a while and that's fine. I read this as you are wondering if you are being overly careful by waiting so long. Is that what you meant?

CaliforniaDream87 · January 2013

livleen3:
I kind of seenbsp;a trend not in just this post but across the board on other posts ppl make also. Im not any kind of expert or claim to be this Mother Theresa Nonjudging person but People lay off!!! If someone feels a certain way, its ok! There is some reason they feel that way and we total outsiders dont need to attack the person or what they are saying. Which its very possible we are not understanding what the person is saying to begin with!
We are all in sensitive places and come on here for support so If you cant be sympathetic regardless of the post just be quiet.nbsp;nbsp;I think our society is going to *** , withnbsp;reality TVnbsp;etc. itsnbsp;making people negative and caty. And some poeople are born Meannbsp;butnbsp;this negative behavior/comments doesnt make the world a better place.
You never know what a person is going through we need to be extra senstive towards everyone! Watch the news look at how people are cracking and doing crazy things. You never know. Just stay quiet if you have nothing good to say.

Who are you the bump police?

You CANNOT tell people how to respond on a public message forum, period!

PrettyAccountant · January 2013

I think that is bull no one gets a sonogram at 4 weeks! There is nothing to see! I did IVF and had a loss and got my first at 6 weeks. At 4 weeks your hcg levels are still under 1,000 which means there is no show going on yet.

esp05 · January 2013

I read it that she was upset at herself for feeling ambivalent about when to post, NOT that she was jealous or angry at her cousin.

Perhaps the "Pissed" title wasn't very descriptive.

Nena015 · January 2013

Thank you for the kind words.

kahlan82 · January 2013

OP are you mad at your cousin for posting or are you mad at yourself for not posting sooner? If you tell us maybe the fight about the reason for your pissiness wouldn't go on for 2 pages.

dinomama13 · January 2013

CaliforniaDream87:
leahaziele91:
Is there even anything to see in the ultrasound? Everyone may just think she's as ridiculous as you are thinking lol I posted at 7 weeks but because my mom found out and she told my grandparents and I knew it would get out so after my appointment I posted the pics of baby and tagged every family member on it like an announcement. I was planning on waiting until 12 weeks but I guess mothers just know? No one can tell you when you should announce. It's all up to you and when you feel comfortable announcing. I gotta admit though, I think I would also be a little peeved cause its like stealing your thunder.youre closer to the second tri than she is and she's getting the attention.totally understandable!

I'm sorry but you sound like a 13 year old. Stealing her thunder? Come on seriously?
Her cousin can post about her pregnancy whenever she chooses. Who cares who is closer to second tri? One persons "pregnancy news" doesn't down play some one else's.

Oh please...you're the "REALISTIC" one here! My bad, wrong words by saying "thunder stealing". What if she was jealous that her cousin announced first? Don't act like that never happens. I myself know what that feels like cause i have a cousin going on baby 3 no one cared about me when i announced so yeah, thunder stolen. All of you say that we are all entitled to our own opinions and emotions so to talk sh!t for TWO DAMN PAGES about something I said is pretty effin stupid. Not everyone feels the same. Everyones family is different and it sucks that mine is one of those that makes you feel that way. Excuse me.

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