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June 2013 Moms
nikel13
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Crib
nikel13
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So, DH wants to make a crib for the baby. He has taken pictures of different crib styles we like, and wants to put the parts we like into the crib he is making. He is wanting to do this with his dad. This is great and all, but I just keep thinking it won't get done in time. I want DD's room done at least a month before she is due to arrive. I just don't know how long this crib thing will take, and it seems like he has only done the most basic of work. I know we have some time, but time goes fast. I almost want to have some kind of idea of a crib to purchase should things not go as planned. Is this wrong of me? Should I just let DH enjoy the things he wants to do in daddy mode? 
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Re: Crib
That would make me nervous too! But are you planning on having the baby sleep in the crib directly upon coming home from the hospital? That doesn't take away the desire to have the nursery done early (I pretty much want mine done NOW), but at least it give you a little wiggle.
Also, does your DH know that you want everything done a month prior? I know my DH apparently believe that this baby can ONLY arrive on June 3 (my DD) so the concept of the baby coming early is completely lost on him.
I considered, for about three seconds, having my stepfather build a crib (he's fabulous at building furniture) but realized that I'd be too nervous about the "safety factor". If anything happens to my child because of the way the crib was built, there would be some serious emotional fall out on all sides. Additionally, the nice part of a mass produced crib is that the manufacturer can recall it based on the complaints and input of thousands or tens of thousands of other people.
Long story short, I'd be more worried about safety than the crib being finished in time. I'm definitely not saying your husband isn't capable of building an awesome crib, I'm just not certain I'd ever be able to trust any individual to hand build a crib that meets all the safety standards out there, which at the moment, I am still blissfully unaware of since I'm pregnant with my first.
I am taking a very not planned ahead, stress free, approach to everything right now. We are slowly cleaning out the the room that will be the nursery, but don't plan on buying much before LO is born except for the basic necessities. If baby comes home and there is no crib, not a big deal, there are still lots of other options. Maybe a bassinet (might be able to borrow from a friend since they have a short useful period), a PNP, or even the car seat are all viable sleep options. A lot of people I know didn't have the crib up ready to go the day their first was born.
If you want to let DH do this crib thing, I don't thing you should let yourself stress. Obviously hopes its all done on time, and let him know what your expectation is, but if it isn't ready there are other options.
I know my laid back approach isn't for everyone, but i just wanted to give my two cents.
Anyway. I would not let my DH or anyone make a crib for me. There are way too many safety regulations out there. I'm leaving that up to he professionals.
BFP #1: 6.26.12 EDD: 2.11.13 missed m/c: 7.31.12 @ 12 weeks
BFP #2: 10.1.12 EDD: 6.11.13 Born 6.13.13
IMO, the crib is definitely something that shouldn't be sacrificed in terms of safety. Having a homemade anything sounds great and all, but too many things can go wrong with a crib. This puts you in a tough spot because its really cute that your hubby really wants to put the effort into this. Maybe have him read some things on crib safety and hopefully he'll agree with you to just purchase a crib. Maybe they can make something else for the baby's room like a toy chest or book shelf?