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February 2012 Moms
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working moms
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I thought this article was interesting.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/devon-corneal/what-not-to-say-to-a-working-mom_b_2566952.html
Although my favorite part is the part that's most inclusive of all moms:
"I don't know how you do it. It must be so hard.
It is. It don't know how I do it. But I don't think it's because I work, I think it's because parenting is hard whether you stay at home or go off to the office."
Amen to that!
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Re: working moms
I have personally heard two of these directed my way. I got the 'you look so exhausted' and get it repeated from time to time by my mom. I am tempted to tell her that her hair is overly gray in response.
I also have gotten a version of 'someone else raising your child' from my well-meaning FIL. He has told me that Katherine thinks the daycare workers are her other mothers. I am sure he does not mean to bring me down, but I know he thinks I should stay home with her. Oddly enough I know he also is positive my DH should NOT quit his job to stay home which is something that came up once.
DD has had chronic ear infections for pretty much the entire 1st year. That means lots of sick days for us, lots of nights where I don't sleep. My coworkers tell me all the time that I look exhausted. No sh** Sherlock, I got 3 hours of broken sleep. I'm sure I look real tired. All of my coworkers are women but the few that have had kids didn't start working until after their kids were in school. It sucks! I hate that I can't stay home when I know she didn't sleep well because she doesn't feel well and instead I have to come to a job I hate. But thanks for pointing it all out to me.
Also my boss and I have had all out fights because my boss moved her mom in with her to take care of her kids and she ask me all the time why my mom can't take care of DD. "Because my mom didn't have DD, it's not her responsibility!" Plus my boss is an older mom who had her 1st kid at 42 so her mom was already retired. Mom my is only 8 years older than my boss. She isn't ready to retire yet.