Good comeback comments..

wither16 · January 2013

I know I saw a post a bit ago about the worst comments you have heard. My question- what do y'all say/do to people?

We have a helmet on DS- and I am SHOCKED by what people are saying/doing/staring etc. I was in no way prepared for this. (Just started the helmet last week)

I even caught a lady sneaking a picture of him with her phone, how tacky is that???

So, I'm new to this, and I haven't quite figured out what to say/do. I wanna here what y'all have done. The good, the bad and the ugly....

I have an Irish temper for miles, so I am worried I might get arrested for assault, LOL.

The question I get most is "what's wrong with him?" If it's a genuine curiosity, I don't mind too much, it's the rude ones that get me.

CaptainSerious · January 2013

Smile brightly back and ask/say, "Why do you ask?" or "I'm sorry, do I know you?" or "What makes you think something's wrong?" or "I'm going to give you a minute to think about whether you want to take back that wildly rude, pretentious, and prying question."

ETA: I find that by giving most people a moment to realize how rude their question is, they back down, flustered right away.

khagan9368 · January 2013

I see this from a different perspective as I was born with one arm and have dealt with the stares, comments and teasing my entire life. When asked about my arm (typically by innocent children who just dont understand) I say I have a baby arm because God thought I was special. When adults stare it is easy for me to ignore because it is out of pure ignorance. When it comes to my DD, I may not handle things as calmly....

goldenleaves · January 2013

We never got that with the helmet and both my kids had them. How rude!!

We get stares because Lauren has Down syndrome so I love when people ask questions, even if they don't say the "right" things.

CaptainSerious · January 2013

-auntie-:
I'm sorry you aren't in a good place. It's hard to deal with an ignorant and ugly public.

I don't typically resort to the snappy comeback, but if you feel compelled- remember- your child is listening. Even if he can't make out the exact words, he'll pick up your anger. In your position, my knee jerk comabck to "what's wrong with him?" would be "not a damned thing, what's wrong with you?"

This is exactly why I smile and ask in a sweet voice. Most the questions we get are because the boys are adopted. The thing is, even if the questions are out of ignorance, they almost always imply a sense of "otherness" or "less than."

I usually do not wish to engage conversations in which I have to education the questioner in front of my children. I have many conversations like that in the right setting, but when someone sees us out and just barrels in with their questions is when I deflect, deflect, deflect.

gimmietimmies · January 2013

-auntie-:
I'm sorry you aren't in a good place. It's hard to deal with an ignorant and ugly public.

I don't typically resort to the snappy comeback, but if you feel compelled- remember- your child is listening. Even if he can't make out the exact words, he'll pick up your anger. In your position, my knee jerk comabck to "what's wrong with him?" would be "not a damned thing, what's wrong with you?"

Lol, that would have been my response too. I have had people come up to ds and call him fat to his face. I usually tell them that you fix fat, but you can't cure stupid.

wither16 · January 2013

Loved all the comments- I am going to keep doing my best to bite my tongue and ignore. I think that's the smart thing.

But so help me, if I see someone else sneaking a picture of him, I will calmly hand my baby to DH and beat the living snot outta them. And then I will post my mug shot. Big Smile

KatLuv926 · January 2013

wither16:
Loved all the comments I am going to keep doing my best to bite my tongue and ignore.nbsp; I think that's the smart thing.But so help me, if I see someone else sneaking a picture of him, I will calmly hand my baby to DH and beat the living snot outta them.nbsp; And then I will post my mug shot. nbsp;

My DD wore a Doc Band helmet for about 6 weeks when she was 6 mos old now 15 mo, and I couldn't believe how many people felt the need to make rude comments or ask inappropriate questions. The pic taking thing is crazy and I don't know what I would've done if that happened to us, but I would just kinda brush people off/ keep my answers short and keep walking. It was funny because some people thought it was just an accessory she was wearing "for fun" or they thought it was a new thing so that baby wouldn't bump her head. In those cases I just laughed it off and walked away. Sometimes I was flat out asked "why is she wearing that?" and I just explained it in one sentence. It was really annoying and frustrating though! I remember one grocery shopping trip in particular where I was stopped 5 times to answer about it. It was all worth it though as we had GREAT results from the helmet just try to focus on that. :

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