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i don't know if the bd being in prison makes me single or not
my parents pressed charges on him a few weeks before I turned 18 and now he is in prison. I don't even know if he knows I'm pregnant yet because we have a court ordered no contact document. I told his lawyer and asked her to tell him but I don't know if she has or not. he had outstanding warrents for theft that i didn't know about so he's gonna be in there for a long time. it makes me sad, and I miss him. he's a good guy, i'm sad my parents never gave him a chance
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Re: i don't know if the bd being in prison makes me single or not
As a parent, I would press charges against anyone who had an intimate relationship with my minor child. Your parents had your best interest at heart I am sure. I don't think it is about giving him a chance, or him being a good guy. He has criminal charges and he impregnated you; so, not a good combo for a good relationship with your parents. Good Luck with raising your child, and yes, you are a single parent if he is going to be in prison for a long time.
I would say him being in jail VERY MUCH makes you a single parent. If he is in jail this quickly I assume he is there because of the many other charges against him (seems too quick for statutory rape to be the reason) Plus if you were already 17 yrs old...I assume people do not go to jail for sleeping with a 17 yr old girl. So again, I assume he is in jail for a list of other reasons. Your parents pressing charges may have just been the reason he was finally 'caught' for all the other stuff he did. Keeping that in mind....he is not in jail because of your parents, he IS in jail because of all the other bad decisions he has made previously.
Don't push your parents away right now....you need them.
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I would say it makes you single. Just keep continuing to talk to the lawyer. At this point it seems that is all you can do. Maybe even try talking to another legal option if your truly worried.
But for what it is...your only thinking of your emotions and not what the true long term effects are. And that is not fair to the baby. As a parent myself I would have done the same thing as your mom. Outstanding warrants and theft...I mean maybe emotionally he is a nice guy but his morals are hardly in check. You gotta wonder what kind of effect that would have on the baby if he grew up around that.
Sometimes you gotta sit back and actually think and think about the future instead of just focusing on emotions.
You know what your parents are doing? They are giving you and your baby a chance.
I'm sure this is not easy for anyone. But trust your parents that they are concerned with your best interests.
well i told them today and my mom said she wants me to move back home and keep the baby and my dad first said I should get an abortion and when I told him it's too late he said I should give the baby up for adoption. they almost never have different opinions and I feel kinda stuck between them like if I choose one option over the other I aleinate the other parent... I'm kinda regretting telling them now