Rememberance Names

LadyDelilah · January 2013

How do you feel about remembering a passed loved one with the name of a child? grandparent, father, brother? Whats nice and whats weird? What about using a middle name as a first name?

mdesmond2320 · January 2013

I want to do this for my grandfather, but will be using a different form of his name. I am planning on making a post closer to my due date (June) to ask for thoughts. I also am using a family middle name. I think it is a nice thing to use a rememberance name if it means something to you.

GWUAlum · January 2013

I don't think it's weird, but I'm not a fan of it. Many people are. I don't think there's anything wrong w/ it. It's just not my style. I picked my names because I like them. Plus I don't have to worry about offending anyone, and within our families someone's feelings would get hurt.

Enigma11 · January 2013

I did this with both our children. My son's middle names are my dad's first and middle names. For our daughter we used my grandmother and great grandmother's first names. My grandmother is still alive, but I still wanted to honour her

ChristyML · January 2013

LadyDelilah:
What about using a middle name as a first name?

Exactly what I did. My dad passed away when I was 15. His middle name was Joseph (it is also my brother's middle name). Luckily, I also LOVE the name Joseph. I wasn't pressured at all to use the name Joseph, and it was my own idea.

alphalyrae · January 2013

All of our middle name options have family significance. I don't have a problem with it at all. There are a lot of cultural connections. But I also think it's incredibly rude of family members to push the issue if the mother/father are not interested.

blu-eyedwife · January 2013

Idani:
I'm generally a fan. I personally usually prefer to use the middle spot and give the child their own first name.

This is how I feel also.

MrsAery-to-be · January 2013

I like the idea of honoring family members by using their names. I don't like just picking a name that is used in the family unless it is someone you are close to. DS's MN is after my favorite grandpa. I also prefer to use the actual name, either first, middle, or last, but am not a fan of using a name that starts with the same letter and saying it is after someone.

jburdet1 · January 2013

I think remembrance names are special. DD's mn is a name passed along my maternal side of the family and serves as a remembrance to me of the women that all share the same name. If we have a son both names will be family names. His mn will not serve as a remembrance, but to honor my living father and the fn will be my husband's and his grandfather's mn, so I feel using a family mn as a fn is a great way to honor the passed and living.

LadyXaverian · January 2013

We like it. DD's formal first name is after DH's grandmother.

If we ever have a 2nd DD, her first name would likely be a variation of my Nana's name.

frome · January 2013

Idani:
I'm generally a fan. I personally usually prefer to use the middle spot and give the child their own first name.

This is what I will be doing. My own first name is a variation of my grandmother's first name, and I absolutely love having that connection to her. If you're going to pass along the name in the first name spot, I think a variation of the name is better than the same name.

BabyBowers2013 · January 2013

I just posted on another board! I lost both of my cousins Mark & Jenny in 1999... I absolutely adored Jenny & since the accident I always said I wanted to use Jennifer as a MN if I ever have a daughter. It doesn't flow well with much, but I could care less. I miss them both still every single day & I think it would mean a great deal to my aunt & uncle.

ShoeFanatic614 · January 2013

Definitely not weird. I think most posters here are on board with passing down family names. It is very important to us that our children all have at least one family name. We gave DD the mn Jane after my grandmother. Our boy middle name is either going to be Edward (my H's grandfather's name) or James (my FIL's middle name). Our girl middle name (or first; we can't decide) is Alice, H's grandmother's first name. She died a few months ago. They all mean a great deal to us.

kriskelly88 · January 2013

I dont think its weird at all. personally i think every kid should have their own identity, so i want them to have a first name that is just for them. my son will have 2 middle names. one is a family name on both sides- Michael, and the other is Henry in memory of my great grandpa Hank.