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Between a rock and a hard place.

cameronzmomcameronzmom member
in September 2013 Moms

A little back story..

2 prior losses, both around the 9 week mark. 2 complete pregnancies with healthy deliveries.

I'm approx 9 weeks (Wednesday) and being that this is my 5th pregnancy, its' getting harder and harder to hide my belly bump. I've done well so far because I've worn larger hoodies, my thick winter coat, etc. However, it's getting harder to hide at home (older kids are 13 and 7) and last time we told early only to have to untell a week later. My next appt isn't until Feb 18 when I'll be almost 12 weeks.  

I can't tell anyone outside immediate friends/family until we tell the kids but I'm terrified to tell them and then if something goes wrong, to have to untell them once again. What would you do? Would you go ahead and tell? or would you just continue to try and hide it as long as possible? I have nothing that leads me to believe miscarriage is going to happen but at the same time, last pregnancy I had no warning signs either.

Thanks in advance. 

 

Joy

Proud mom to:

Cameron (Jan 11, 2000)
Cassidy (May 5, 2005)
Callen (August 23, 2013)

My heavenly angels
~Caleb~ Jan 21, 1999
~Carys~ April 29, 2011
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  • maiganlynnmaiganlynn member
    If you're really worried I would say wait until the 12 weeks. At least then you're on the edge of the first trimester and chances of miscarriage are much less. If you can hold out your baby bump until then! lol!
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  • stephaniel142002stephaniel142002
    Id try and wait so you have peace of mind about having told everyone. In the meantime I hope you can hide the bump! Maybe in the meantime u can just tell them you've decided to unleash your inner food lover and let yourself go! Lol just an idea or you can use this time to think of a goofy/fun/silly way to unveil the news to your kids in the coming weeks so as to preoccupy your mind, that is if you aren't already super busy with all your kids already. Good luck!
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  • RunningGal900RunningGal900 member
    Is your 13-year-old a boy or a girl? I ask because I doubt a 13-year-old boy is noticing, but a girl might. If you think you can hide it, it sounds like you'll be more comfortable waiting. 
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  • DaisyZHDaisyZH member

    I'm so sorry for your losses, I can completely understand your hesitation.  Personally unless my kids asked me I would wait, only because of the fear of having to untell.  If they asked I would absolutely tell them.

    (( Hugs )) I'm sure everything will be okay I'm sorry you have to worry about this. 


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  • happybride 276happybride 276 member
    I wouldn't tell until you feel comfortable. Can you just wear big sweaters or sweatshirts and scarves to hide your belly?
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  • ravenclaw1ravenclaw1 member

    imageRunningGal900:
    Is your 13-year-old a boy or a girl? I ask because I doubt a 13-year-old boy is noticing, but a girl might. If you think you can hide it, it sounds like you'll be more comfortable waiting. 

    good point

    I'd just try to mask it until you hit 12 weeks. I totally understand your hesitation.  

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  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member
    If you can keep hiding it, I'd do that.  Just complain about being freezing cold and pile on the bulky sweatshirts and sweaters.
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  • taigan1taigan1

    In my town there is a place that offers free ultrasounds (it is church affiliated), but they will do early ultrasounds for people whose insurance won't cover it. I read that once you see the heartbeat the chance of a miscarriage drops to 10-15% (I think).  Maybe you have a place that offers the same service and you can get an ultrasound sooner and feel a little more comfortable revealing your pregnancy to you children.  The place in my town isn't very busy (because it's church affiliated) you can always get an appointment the same day you call...

    Just a thought.

    Good luck! 

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  • diablessediablesse member
    I would call my OB and demand an immediate ultrasound based on your previous pregnancy history.  I know it's no guarantee that something won't happen later on, but as the PP said, it would probably make you a lot more comfortable telling, knowing that as of now, you are indeed carrying a healthy baby. 
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