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3rd Trimester
I'm so frustrated and angry!
Does everyone in the world think that its ok to ask a pregnant woman whether she's getting an epidural and whether she's going to breastfeed or formula feed then tell her how horrible her decision is. I swear that no matter how I answer I get a negative comment back! And everybody but me is an expert! I'm apparently stupid.
And my in-laws are driving me crazy and the baby isn't here yet. My MIL insists on tell me how I'm going do everything with MY baby... this is how you'll dress her, you have to arrange the nursery this way, she's not allowed to wear a dress or skirt because they're not conservative, you can't have her baptised, I'm taking her on mondays and tuesdays to my house (which is 20 miles out of town and I have to go get her after work, AND she thinks that its perfectly ok for my daughter to be around her unvaccinated dogs that go and run around in the country where there's wild animals that can carry rabies). She's telling me how to do everything and when I tell that my husband and I will decide then she tells me "you'll do it my way, you'll see" and goes and tells my DH that I'm being mean and unreasonable. And whats worse is she told me that this coming summer she's going to take my 5 month old baby, put her in her car seat, strap it to a 4-wheeler and take her for a ride in the mountains!!!
The rest of my in-laws sit there when I'm around and will ask me something like "when are you going on maternity leave? And I'm going at 37 weeks so then they sit there and debate it in front of me. "I worked til the day I delivered" "I went into labor at work" "this is her first.. maybe with her second she'll have a little bit of sense" "Maybe she's not as strong as the rest of us" "She has a stupid doctor if he thinks thats a good idea, didn't you try and talk her into going to a decent doctor?"
Sorry, its long but somehow I've got to get this out of my system and as great and lovable as my husband is, he's not one to vent to about his family.
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Re: I'm so frustrated and angry!
There is this two letter word you and yh need to learn..
NO!
It will also come in handy during the toddler yrs.
::butting in from 1st tri::
Ditto. You realize you can tell MIL that if she isn't going to follow your rules she will not be left alone with your child right? I mean, obviously you should be as diplomatic as possible, but she needs to be put in her place.
2 phrases I learned early on with my IL's that have been saviors:
"DH and I have decided xxxx. It is not open for discussion."
"Thank you for your input. We will let you know when we decide what works best for us."
I agree with the No comment, but I do sympathize. It can all get to be a lot when everyone, seemingly, comes out of the woodwork all at once. Sorry about that.
FWIW I got stuck on bed rest and although that's like the worst thing I can think of it's also probably the best thing for me. I wouldn't take a break otherwise - and it will be good to actually be quiet for a minute and spend some time with myself before baby. I don't think you are crazy at all to stop working at 37 weeks. Although I just stopped yesterday and I might not have stopped before now unless I was forced.