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how do you address tattling?

groovygrlgroovygrl member
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My twins are 3 1/2. DD has started tattling constantly on her brother for everything (he took my toy, he dropped this or that, he threw a car in the playroom, etc etc) and also started somewhat tattling on kids at school to us (philip took a truck away from DS today, etc). I am trying to address it with her by saying that it is important that she tells us if someone is going to or has done something dangerous or that will hurt them or someone else but that she does not need to tell on her brother or other kids for every little thing...that if it is about toys/playing, she needs to talk to them about not liking how they're playing or that is not the rules, or to not play with them if they're not playing nice...

just not sure what the best/most effective way to go about this is...any good ideas?

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Re: how do you address tattling?

  • J+MSJ+MS member
    I like the way my BIL and SIl handle their two older boys (5&7). If the boys are obviously tattling, they will ask them "are you tattling?" And the boys know to just stop talking. It's funny to watch, really. 
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  • artmamasaysartmamasays member
    I ask "Is this this a kid problem that you can work out yourselves?" The subrtext being that they may not like the adult solution... 
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  • pitterpatter129pitterpatter129 member

    Your kiddos are still a little young, but I just found this the other day and plan on using it in my first grade classroom, where I spend half my time listening to someone tattle about something! I know I would definitely use it in a PreK room too. It could be adjusted for age/home.  When kids at school or nieces tattle (obviously my own kid is still too little for this), I always say, "Oh are they bleeding?  Oh they're throwing up?  Oh, you are hurt?"  When they say no, I say well, I think you'll all live then and walk away. :)

      https://thesilverlininginteaching.blogspot.com/2012/09/tattle-poster-freebie.html

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  • Bonnesetter27Bonnesetter27 member
    As a teacher I get tattling all the time. I usually get so and so did this to me. And I respond with well what can you do to let him/her know you don't like that? Really just trying to get them to stand up for themselves without violence. Also if it is a case of hurting my feelings I tell the victim to ask the other child to apologize and then if they won't apologize then they can come and get me.

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