Do you yell at your toddler?

cchill01 · January 2013

I had a particularly bad evening with DD. She just wouldn't go to bed. She woke the baby up 3 times (they share a room). Sometimes I feel like the only way I can get through to her is yelling. But, I really hate it and hate myself afterward. ugh

honeybee111 · January 2013

Funny that you mention this, but I yelled at DD yesterday, and I still feel bad about it. Bathtime was just horrible - she threw a tantrum in the bathtub and started throwing water and toys. I just lost it and yelled her name. She froze for a second and then really started bawling. The look on her face broke my heart. I rarely yell, so I think it shocked her, but I still feel terrible about it.

WestCoastMommy · January 2013

I have. DH has. We feel totally shitty about it after. Its not an every day occurrence. Its that time when your on the phone trying to listen and they are yelling at your feet for attention or when you see them purposely try and push their sibling off the couch back wards and you catch them right before they fall or when they stand screaming in their room because, "It's not bed time yet!" I think the majority pf parents have been there at some point. You just need to remember how crappy you felt after and hope you approach it better next time.

rjeller32 · January 2013

I have yelled before, and I hate when I do it. I try to remain calm in most situations, but with a toddler that can be hard sometimes. The best way I found I could get through to my daughter is shortening my sentences to the most basic form and getting down to her level. Yelling now just became a test to see how much of a rise she can get out of me.

MaggieMooMom · January 2013

Depends on the situation. I usually use a stern voice, give her options and consequences. But I did yell at her pretty bad when she bolted from my hand into t he street. Times like those, she needs to know I mean business.

GirlLeastLikelyTo · January 2013

I would definitely yell more often if it did any good. My son just laughs at me when I yell. He laughs and laughs....

superaunt · January 2013

not on a regular basis but i have.

it sucks, but it happens. after we both calm down i generally make a point to apologize for doing so though and we both kinda hug it out. doesn't make it better that i yelled in the first place, but hopefully it shows that i'm human and i don't ENJOY yelling and am genuinely sorry for doing so...

PunkyBooster · January 2013

I have yelled at him. I hate myself afterwards too!

I am a yeller by nature, not always at people, I'm just loud. I grew up in a yelling household and it's something I want to be better about.

But this morning I was yelling, "COME.ON!!!" because DS was taking FOREVER to choose a train to take in the car and I needed to get his shoes on and get out the door. I don't consider that yelling "at him" but it's still yelling and I hate myself for it!

PunkyBooster · January 2013

fredalina:
Every parent I know with a kid over 2 or 3 has yelled at some point, and I know a couple of supermoms :. I just read a great book called "Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline". Honestly it's much more about mom's behavior than LO's, and how to control our emotions in tense parenting moments. It also addresses being able to strike a balance.

Thank you!!!

cchill01 · January 2013

fredalina:
Every parent I know with a kid over 2 or 3 has yelled at some point, and I know a couple of supermoms :. I just read a great book called "Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline". Honestly it's much more about mom's behavior than LO's, and how to control our emotions in tense parenting moments. It also addresses being able to strike a balance.

I need to check out that book. I am a yeller by nature and have worked really hard over the past decade to control and change my reactions to DH. But, I think I need some more practice with DD.

eb1113 · January 2013

This has been me today. I had to yell at her this morning and while I was trying to get her to go down for a nap. I absolutely hate myself for yelling at her so much that I was crying afterwards. It's the same with us though, sometimes that is the only way to get her to listen to us.

AimeeL85 · January 2013

Yes, and often feel guilty afterward, but I posted a similar question a couple days ago on the SAHM board and the responses made me feel better:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/71497710.aspx

mrsseguin · January 2013

We have, I think everyone has at some point. I honestly used to do it more often, but it wasn't getting me the results I wanted. So we have different approaches with our kids now. I still yell every once in a while, but it takes a lot to get me to that point. I'm just more laid back now and don't seem to get as frustrated easily.

PunkyBooster · January 2013

I also know when I feel like all I do is yell, it's time for us to head outside and do something together. It seems to work miracles for us.

mamainseptember · January 2013

I yell when DS does something dangerous or absolutely ridiculous. His new thing is taking off his poopy diaper and playing with the poop and not telling me he's gone. This warrants yelling. Or when he opens the sliding glass down and walks outside without me. I don't yell a lot and it has to be something big to get me worked up. I don't think you should feel bad for yelling, its WAY better than spanking, that I could never do.

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