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DH ready for baby 2

MaebbMaebb member
in November 2012 Moms
Hello! I have been mostly a lurker up until this point. I had an uncomplicated pregnancy, DS was due Dec 5th and born 5 days early on Nov 30th. He is a really good baby, only sleeps about 3 to 5 hours at a time at night, but other than that he's pretty perfect. Sorry for not introducing myself sooner.

Anyway, DS is 8 weeks old, and I go back to work Monday. After my 6 week PP OB appointment, I was talking to DH about birth control options, and he said, "Why do we need bc? Let's have another baby!" I do have to say, he is an awesome dad, and my pregnancy and delivery experience was a good one. However and no offense to anyone who wants to make this choice for their own family, I think having kids a year apart would be kind of crazy for us. Two kids in diapers? Two kids of the age where they can't communicate with words? Having to tell my work that I'm pregnant again shortly after I return from maternity leave? So what do you ladies think? How long are you going to wait for baby 2, or STMs, how long did you wait? Ideally, I think I'd like to wait until this little guy is a year old before trying again. Thank you. :
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  • chpswifechpswife member
    We waited till a month after DD's 1st birthday to TTC Porter. They are 23 months apart. Two in diapers isn't too bad....we are beginning Potty training at this point but it may be awhile before we are completely out of diapers with DD
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  • genmccarleygenmccarley member
    They recommend 18 months before becoming pregnant again. Too close together is really hard on your body and uterus.
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  • pamelamelanie924pamelamelanie924 member
    My SO said the same thing! Except he was thinking maybe around August start trying again. He's insane. I had an awful pregnancy, complete previa, c-section at 36 weeks, & DD was in the NICU for 12 days. NO! Plus one of my friends has 2u2 and it's madness! 
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  • ironmom5ironmom5 member
    Aside from the medical, 2u2 or 2u1 for a working mom is really tough. First, if you have the baby less than a year after you return to work, you give up your legal job protection under FMLA. Second, two babies in daycare can easily cost more than a mortgage payment. I'm not saying it's not doable, it's just inherently easier when you SAH.

    Besides that, two in diapers seems like my personal hell.
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  • 143BabyCakes143BabyCakes member
    I think it's sweet he is excited about babies. But I think if he were to push an orange out of his penis he would want to wait a minute. My sis and I are 2 years apart and we are best friends! It is going to be awhile until K gets a sibling. I want more kids but he was a surprise baby so making baby plans is slightly diff if you are not in family building mode in your life!



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  • weebos8weebos8 member

    My boys are almost 17 months apart.  There are times when it is rough, but honestly I wouldn't change anything ( and DS2 was a surprise).  I pretty much do all "matienence" at once.  Baths are at the same time, as are dressing them and changing diapers.  And about the cost factor, I do not SAH, I work.  

     

    If you are not ready though, don't feel pressured; I think you definitely need to be 100%, or at least close before you TTC 

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  • GHBEAGHBEA member
    When O was 5 months old we planned for another got pregnant right away and had a M/C.  Tried for 4 months got pregnant.  I would rather get the diapers and such out of the way then space them out like I did with my older girls who are 3 yrs apart.  I am a SAHM so I didn't have to worry about talking to my boss.
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  • milescmilesc member
    I got pregnant with DS when DD was 8 months old, but Im a SAHM. I personally enjoy 2u2, I didn't want to put baby items away and save them for years down the road- I'd rather have it all out for an extra year or two then have it all gone for good. And diapers? Two in diapers isn't bad at all (IMO). You change one- you change another no big deal. I'd hate to have one out of diapers, just to start all over again. Sure it may be a tad crazy for a year or two- but overall I think its worth it
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