An old comment still stinging

khauke · January 2013

Back when we first found out baby 2 was on way, before we had told any one... my sister was talking to our aunt. Our aunt had expressed they curiosity of whether we might be considering another child. My sister laughed and said "Have you seen her son? I don't think they are having another any time soon. " This story my sister actually told me like it was a funny anecdote. It stung. Of course, she did not know at the time.

I know my son is big and loud and energetic ...but he is so funny and bright.

This is the age range we wanted betwren our kids too 2 to 3yrs. Now I just feel embarrassed at times and wonder if others are thinking the same thing when we share our wonderful news.

Is this silly?

khauke · January 2013

CarolynL8:
O please! How rude!
Dont let those comments get to you.

Im sure your son is great and the new baby will be too.

Does your sis have kids??

She has a son. 5 months younger than ours. He was not walking yet when she said this.

khauke · January 2013

CarolynL8:
I hope your nephew gives your sister a good rude awakening! Lol

Definitely dont let her comments get you down. My nieces and nephews are fulllll of energy! Theyre kids. Thats how they are. Energetic and curious. Its great!

Hee hee ... It would not hurt. Thanks. You have the right idea.

khauke · January 2013

MeghanKG:
Does your sister have kids? She was probably just trying to be funny, like "oh she has her hands so full with her son, I don't think they'll have another one anytime soon". I wouldn't take it personally. Some people just don't filter their thoughts before they become words.

Probably true. Thank you.

CoffeeBeanFiend91 · January 2013

I adore my nieces and nephews, I can't ever imagine making a comment like that. Maybe she thought she was being funny but she sounded that a twat

flerlgirl · January 2013

Sounds like your sis is the kind of person who thinks that parents can "make" their kids stop throwing a tantrum in the store. If your DS is 2 or 3 I'm sure he's energetic but all toddlers are! Ignore her.

Jtaxson · January 2013

Our son is crazy energetic, his last preschool teacher told us that he had ADHD. We did wait a while before we started talking about a second because of the type of parents we are, not the type o kid he is! We are selfish and knew life would be easier for us spacing them out further. This was a hard decision because we had to forfeit our kids having a sibling close in age. In any case, she was just making an off handed comment on your sons temperament, I would try to let it go. Now my son is 4, and much easier to be around!

jaymiegerard · January 2013

We have a spirited first child as well, and though the comments weren't quite as blunt, I did get something along the lines of, 'how are you going to do it?" which felt pretty undercutting.

Our kids are who they are. We love them for who they are. And we are their parents, no matter who they are. When we want to grow our family and give our first child a sibling, it's up to us and only us.

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks or says. I don't think it's silly to be upset or wonder if others are thinking that, but chances are they aren't and they are happy for you. :-)

WifeofaComposer · January 2013

flerlgirl:
Sounds like your sis is the kind of person who thinks that parents can "make" their kids stop throwing a tantrum in the store. If your DS is 2 or 3 I'm sure he's energetic but all toddlers are! Ignore her.

The bolded is what I was going to say. Your sister just doesn't get it.

I Love my Dave · January 2013

what a bi*chy comment, don't let it bother you, I want my kids close together too, I told my husband when baby is 1 we are trying again.

singahappysong · January 2013

WifeofaComposer:
flerlgirl:
Sounds like your sis is the kind of person who thinks that parents can "make" their kids stop throwing a tantrum in the store. If your DS is 2 or 3 I'm sure he's energetic but all toddlers are! Ignore her.
The bolded is what I was going to say. Your sister just doesn't get it.

This! My best friend has 4 boys. They are very energetic but when they are having "good days" (75% of the time) they are amazing. They obey, but they are still energetic. A bunch of gals from our church (grrr) confronted my BF and tried to offer her advice on how to parent. Like a good sit down fashion talking. Ever since then she's always worried about what others think and if they think she is a bad mother.

So basically: Your sister doesn't get it! And just because she doesn't, doesn't mean that others wont.

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