What if?

quidditchcapn1120 · January 2013

What if you had never met your SO/DH/Father (or mother) of your children?

Obviously you wouldn't be married to them or have the children you have now, but what else?

Would you live somewhere else in the country? Would you be currently married to someone else? Would you be in a different career? Would you be a cat lady/guy?

Obviously, we can't know for sure but I'm just wondering if you can pick out some significant ways that just meeting your SO changed your life.

NotSharknado · January 2013

I honestly believe if I hadn't met Dh and had kids I'd be sitting on a bar stool as we speak. And not in a good way.

quidditchcapn1120 · January 2013

If I had never met my DH, I am fairly certain I would still be in the same career.

However, I think I would have applied for/interviewed for more places for residency, so I probably would have matched somewhere other than Chicago.

I also think I would still be single. I haven't met anyone else who complements me in the same way as my husband.

aforst · January 2013

I would probably have spent the last 12 years dating men that treat me like shiit and wondering why I'm not married. I'd also be incredibly depressed that I was almost 32 with no husband and no kids. (I do not mean that to bash anyone. I just know myself).

Before I met DH, I didn't realize that if a man really cared about you, you would know it, all day every day. I didn't realize that a man could be so caring and loving.

MrsWindyCity · January 2013

Unless I managed to get an amazing job here (doubtful), I wouldn't be living here. There's pretty much zero chance I'd be able to afford living in the city on my own, and I have no family here. Plus most of my college friends have since moved away. So, I'd be back in MI. Beyond that, I really have no idea. I'm sure my family would constantly be trying to set me up with a Greek dude. :P

ginamcp · January 2013

To be brutally honest I'm not sure that I would even be here on this planet posting. I was in a very bad off and on again relationship with someone that was not very nice to me and I was in a dark and self destructive place. I actually met my H online and getting an email from him every day gave me something to look forward to. Meeting him in person and slowly falling in love with him and seeing how a relationship should actually work helped me (along with pharmaceuticals) to climb out of a very deep hole.

Mamapoo · January 2013

I'd be a hot, skinny party animal! ;

NastyAnnie · January 2013

I would have joined the Peace Corps.

Fianschneid · January 2013

There were one or two guys I met while I was dating DH that probably would have been long term material. So I'm guessing I would be with one of them or single, now, but I'm not sure either of them were father material. I might not have kids.

I love my city and would be here without without DH. In fact, I met him on a trip to interview and move here.

LadyXaverian · January 2013

I would most likely be living in Canada. I doubt I'd have any pets (we have 3 dogs) as I never had any growing up.

Beyond that, I have no idea what else might be different. Hard tellin', not knowin'.

catycate · January 2013

My life would have gone 2 ways- I would have stayed in Atl, at a comfortable but crappy paying job or I would have moved out West alone.

quidditchcapn1120 · January 2013

LexiLupin:
...can't I be married and a cat lady...? nbsp;

Sure.

But would you have still been a cat lady if you weren't married?

ThePolishHammer · January 2013

I would still be in the military. I also would still be skinny and going out way too much.

NerdyMama2 · January 2013

I'd have multiple cats.

vflipo · January 2013

I probably would have gone to med school. I'd be half way through, actually.

nyki06 · January 2013

I lived in South Africa for the second 5 months of our relationship. If we wouldn't have been together I would probably still be living there. I loved South Africa but I love my husband more. I'm hoping we can move back some day.

snowybride08 · January 2013

I would never live where I did now. Our moving here was entirely my husband's idea. I probably would have stayed where I went to college, or maybe moved to another country to teach.

LoveBeingAWife33008 · January 2013

I would be out at nightclubs whoring around. I would also have a SH!T ton of money. When I met my DH he had lost his job and I had to use all my savings to help him out. Now I am putting him through college.

Luckie519 · January 2013

quidditchcapn1120:
What if you had never met your SO/DH/Father (or mother) of your children?
Obviously you wouldn't be married to them or have the children you have now, but what else?
Would you live somewhere else in the country? Would you be currently married to someone else? Would you be in a different career? Would you be a cat lady/guy?
Obviously, we can't know for sure but I'm just wondering if you can pick out some significant ways that just meeting your SO changed your life.

I think a few things would probably be different. For one, I probably would have moved. When I met DH, I was at a point in my life, where I was really wanting a fresh start and contemplated on moving.

I am not sure about my career. I think I would probably be doing the same thing. I would probably go back and maybe get some more certificates.

I don't know if I would be married to someone else. I'd say probably so.

quidditchcapn1120 · January 2013

katem3277:
I am not cut out to be a cat lady. I'm much too short.

I JUST read the convo thread and i FINALLY get your comment! LOL!

zeptattoo · January 2013

I don't think my life would change too much except I'd travel more. DH is deathly afraid of flying so there are many places I haven't been that I've wanted to. I'd probably be married to someone else and still have a kid. Same career, live in the same city, etc.

J&A2008 · January 2013

I am a serial monogamist, so I doubt I'd be single. I might still be working, not be a mother, and never experience being a SAHM. I might also never have the house of boys I love, nor be living in the same community as my mother, which has been an amazing blessing.

True story: I met DH on the day I was supposed to marry my college sweetheart.

I called it off 6 weeks before the wedding. My ex-FI did not want me to ever SAH, and he never wanted to live in the same area as my mom.

lindsay.lou · January 2013

I'd live in the city.

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