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co-sleeping questions? (STM)

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I'm starting to worry a bit about how this is going to work.  With DD we started her off in her crib but quickly moved her to co-sleeping in our bed since I was EBF and exhausted-it just worked better.  She is now 3.5 and sleeps in her "big girl bed" but occasionally still comes to bed with us in the middle of the night/early morning, especially when she has a bad dream. (She comes and climbs in between DH and I so I don't worry about her rolling off the sides of the bed.)    

The problem is that co-sleeping worked really well last time and DH and I were planning on doing it again this time (in fact when I was bugging him to set up the crib he asked me "why? she's just going to sleep with us anyway!" lol).  However I'm starting to worry about how this will work.  We only have a queen bed, and while the 3 of us fit OK there is NO way we can safely add an infant into this mix.  DD is usually pretty groggy when she does come to us, so I'm sure she wont' remember and I'm afraid she's going to climb up and flop herself onto the baby if I'm not on top of things fast enough.  

What options do I have to make this work?  I was looking at an arm's reach co-sleeper but dang those are expensive, and money is tight right now already.  What else am I not thinking of?  Any tips would be appreciated!   

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  • tokenhosertokenhoser member
    Sidecar the crib to your side of the bed. Or look on CL for an Arm's Reach; I got mine for $50.
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  • mistresscoxmistresscox member
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    What is STM?

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  • Merried_2008Merried_2008 member
    What about getting a bed rail. You know like for when a toddler moves into a big kid bed and put it on one side for new baby?
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  • BelhurstBrideBelhurstBride member

    imageMerried_2008:
    What about getting a bed rail. You know like for when a toddler moves into a big kid bed and put it on one side for new baby?

    Some versions can pose a suffocation risk for newborns.  

    I agree with either side caring the crib or looking for a used Arm's Reach.  

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  • Jenny952Jenny952 member
    Do you want to let DD1 into your bed at night/mornings?  If you want to transition her out of that, you could put a mattress and special blanket on the floor next to your side where she can come if she's sad or scared or lonely.  I would start that routine now before DD2 comes along so she doesn't feel like you're kicking her out b/c of the baby.  Figure out what sleeping arrangements you want now with the new baby and help DD1 understand that new baby will sleep <insert here> and she can sleep <insert here> if she needs comfort.  Good luck!
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  • jasieandryjasieandry member
    I would side car the crib to your bed. We had it set up that way for awhile and I would put lo to sleep in the crib but she would always end up migrating into the bed again so we finally took the crib out because it was taking up a lot of room in our small bedroom. We're ttc and were just talking about what we were going to do about sleeping arrangements if we do conceive and I think we'll either side car the crib or invest in a king sized bed.
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  • loveydovey1010loveydovey1010 member

    My 2 almost 3 year old does the same! I'm currently TTC, & I plan on either getting one of the Arms Reach co-sleepers, or setting up the crib, not putting the front on it, & have it pushed up next to my side of the bed.

     

    Hope that helps! 

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  • Merried_2008Merried_2008 member
    imageBelhurstBride:

    imageMerried_2008:
    What about getting a bed rail. You know like for when a toddler moves into a big kid bed and put it on one side for new baby?

    Some versions can pose a suffocation risk for newborns. &nbsp;

    I agree with either side caring the crib or looking for a used Arm's Reach. &nbsp;


    Yep, didn't think of that.
    "When the first baby laughed for the first time, the laugh broke into a thousand pieces and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies." Sir James Barrie in Peter Pan

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  • Squirrel29Squirrel29 member
    I'm just lurking but we have been / are going through this issue with our 3 yo and 8 mo.  We ended up getting a full size mattress for DS1 so that we have the option for each of us to sleep in a bed with one kid if need be.  I like this arrangement because it gives us lots of options.  We also started letting DS1 sleep on a mat on our floor if necessary - like if DS2 is already in our bed and DS1 comes into our room.  It's a bit of mish mash in our house right now but we're all getting sleep most nights so it works for us!
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