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Parenting after a Loss
jertie
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Sad stories - kids and babies in the news
jertie
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Hi ladies ~
It's been forever since I posted (like maybe October) - but something has seriously been bugging me lately and I've got to know if I'm normal or not. I've been reading the news fairly regularly and I've noticed all of these awful stories about horrible things happening to children and babies (abuse, murder, neglect, etc.) I can't get these stories out of my head and every time I read something, it's like my heart is being ripped out. I feel sick to my stomach and all I can do is just sit at my desk and cry for all of these poor babies. I am also enraged that people harm these poor, defenseless babes who are too small to protect themselves - they look to us for safety and security and the adults are the ones preying on them. I used to be able to compartmentalize these stories, but now that I have a child, it just rips at me that I can't rescue them all. Do you ladies have the same sort of feelings? How to you get past them?
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Re: Sad stories - kids and babies in the news
I think about this all of time. More than is healthy, I am sure. It is really hard to take in all the cruelty and evil that is out in the world. There have been a couple of occasions where I have help my LO tight and cried - I just can't imagine what would make a person do something so awful to a helpless child. It has become more of an issue for me since Harrison was born, for sure. I think about how hard we tried for this baby and there are some who are doing awful things to them. I just can't fathom it.
If you struggle with this a lot, I seriously suggest you talk to someone. I have thought of going to see someone myself (his birth was pretty traumatic for me on top of my other issues) because I feel like I need to say some of these things out loud to calm my soul. I think what you are feeling is normal, but you have to do everything in your power to not let it overtake you. I obviously don't have any coping techniques for you since I am in the same boat.
(((Hugs))) to you - I am so sorry you hurt and that these things happen at all.
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I think you are very, very wise 4legsRbst! I'm pretty sure I could never talk to anyone about it - but it has crossed my mind a time or two. I feel better knowing that I'm not the only one out there - it's just so sad and I feel so helpless. I find myself holding Pip tight at night hoping that all the babies and children out there could be loved as much - but my heart breaks knowing that's not the case. Thank you so much for your kind response - I really, really appreciate it!
Also, the picture of your baby in your siggy is ADORABLE!!!!
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Same. I couldn't stop thinking about Sandy Hook and finally I realized that I just have to step away. Our media sensationalizes things like crazy, and you rarely hear stories of what a good and generous place our world can be.