- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Maryland Babies
There's obviously no turning back now...
but holy hell - I don't know that I'm cut out for this mom of multiple kids thing. I just spent the last 45 minutes rocking a sleeping M while crying my eyes out. He's been such a trooper with all of the changes lately and obviously the biggest is yet to come. I am one guilt wracked only child.
ETA: To be clear, I obviously don't actually want to turn back. 
I'm just sort of a hormonal mess right now.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: There's obviously no turning back now...
Awwww I promise it will all be ok. That's how I was when I had my last because A was just a little over two. I was the one crying worrying that I wasn't giving her enough attention and she was completely fine.
And WOW, you are close Mama!
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w
BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w
BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d
BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
My Blog: Decorate This
It does get easier, maybe not the first few weeks, but it will. I promise. And M will be so great with his little brother, just you wait and see.
Hang in there L! Your almost there.
you are stronger than you know!
big hugs Mama!
(also - brownies and liquor will be back on the menu soon!)
God bless you - this is exactly what I needed to hear! (Well, that and K's point about liquor and chocolate.)
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
Baby Girl #2 is on her way!
Hugs Mama!
Evie had a major regression when I was about 8 months. Suddenly she wanted to be carried all the time and she wanted to "be a baby." The guilt I felt was enormous. Seeing her now with her "liddull brudder" melts my heart and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Thanks, all. These are just the sorts of things that I needed to hear. I know in my head that it will be alright. Maddox is a seriously affectionate kid and LOVES babies. There will be an adjustment period - but I really do think he's going to go nuts for his little brother. It's just hard thinking of a life that's not just us - especially since work has been so chill this month (no one is willing to staff me on a deal this close to my DD) and I've been so spoiled with 1 on 1 time with him.
At the doctor yesterday, they told me that I was 4+ cm and 80% - and that if I'd been sitting there at 37 weeks instead of 36 weeks 6 days they would have sent me from there to L&D to have my water broken and move things along. Just hearing that made the whole "it could be any minute" thing that much more real and I think I'm just in cherish every second mode with MC.
Also, on a lighter note, these sorts of lines always remind me of the Sister Wives husband's intro, when he says "Love should be multiplied, not divided!" And then I giggle.
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
Aww you're going to do great! I'm an only as well so I understand where you're coming from. It really is special to witness the bond between two children vicariously. I'm excited for you.
Speaking of any-time-now, right before DS was born we had just moved DD into her new room and the three of us were spending time in there reading, playing, etc. I remember thinking, this could be one of our last moments as a family of three and I felt very serene and calm. Sure enough, I went into labor at 3am the next morning. Maybe holding M was your moment and we'll hear some news from you soon?
Aww, hugs mama!! I will be in your shoes very shortly (and have even had those weepy moments already). Since I'm an only child, too, I can totally understand your guilt but M will love his little brother to pieces and I'm sure you won't ever be able to imagine your life without the both of them.
Thanks for all the advice and words of comfort/wisdom...I definitely need to hear them on days when I wonder how having 2 children will be possible!
Someone's getting a little brother!
I cried a lot towards the end of my pregnancy with C. B could have cared less about his sister, of course
It's a big change but still a great one. The heart can't get bigger but you can make room in there for one more and M will an awesome big brother.
I'm jealous. I had high BP and was 3cm and over 38 weeks and they were hemming and hawing about inducing me. They just wanted to double check numbers 2 days in a row.
I think you're going to have a January baby instead a February baby
Having two is truly magical, Lisa. You can't imagine how insane, scary and absolutely amazing it will be.
I can't wait to hear your big news! 4 cm and 80%?!?! Holy crap!
I'm giving our board a huge virtual hug right now. Thank you ladies so much. This thread has been a huge help.
In other updates, M had a huge regressive breakdown today. He refused to be called a big boy or sit on the potty and wet himself over and over again after several days of almost perfect potty usage. No idea if it would have happened otherwise - but with the impending arrival the whole regression thing seemed like something we couldn't just ignore. So we've decided to let him be comfortable in a pull up tonight (which he INSISTED on calling a "diaper") and will take his lead for the next few weeks on training. I think this was all just too much for him - don't see the need to make anything more traumatic or rushed than it needs to be.
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
Awww you will be okay!! I think its hard bc you love your child so much, and its hard to imagine having even MORE of that love (at least that is how I feel when I think abotu having a second child...like, "do I have any more love to give?") But of course you do!!
H said to me the other day that the thought of a second made him sad bc he wouldn't be able to hold DS all the time, he'd have to hold the new baby too. I was like, well, there will come a day when you can't hold DS all the time anyway lol.
Yep, I did this about 3 weeks before Clair was born everynight for a week. I would sit there in the dark with his head on my chest and tears just streaming down my face because we were about to rock his world, and I felt so guilty. BUT he absolutley adores his sister, first thing he asks in the morning is to see her ( well sometimes it's the second after saying "I have to go potty") and he loves to run in and kiss her and sing to her, and he gets a total kick out helping changer he diaper and his face lights up when she smiles at him.
He also LOVES it when we hold both of them. The first time I had both of them I said "I'm holding both of my babies" so now when he wants us to hold them he will say "mommy/daddy hold me both of your babies," and he snuggles his face into hers and coos at her like we do. I will say that in the hospital he wanted nothing to do with her, but that was because he got really scared seeing me in the bed and I wasn't able to get up, but as soon as we brought her home he's been in love.
holy moses - I think my heart just exploded - that is absolutely the sweetest thing I've ever heard.
Gets me every time..especially with those big dark brown eyes of his.
Serious heart clench. Love it.
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d