Sex and BF

silvie25mar · January 2013

I know there was a similar post on here but there were tons of different answers so I thought I would put my Q out there. So while pregnant I always read women fall under two categories- either always want sex, or never want sex. I was kinda in the didn't really care/didn't really want to category MOST of the time. During pregnancy it was a handful of times and poor DH on our honeymoon didn't get any. Mind you, it was early pregnancy and I was so tired. ANyway- I also read that if you continue to breastfeed, the hormones also steer you away from wanting any intimacy. Does this get better once you stop BF? does your drive come back?

PunkyBooster · January 2013

My sex drive went back to pre-preggo once I stopped BF (it took a few months!)

Spapeggy · January 2013

I didn't have much of a want for sex but still had quickies n such at least twice a week to take care of him too. I would have never had sex if i was to initiate it. But it was important to try for him. I ebf 13 months and also had ppd. My drive came back around 8 months pp and was great till I got pregnant again.

tyke29 · January 2013

While pregnant I was about the same on sex drive until I got really big and then it just was not worth it. LOL. After the baby, my sex drive was low but more from wanting sleep way more than sex. BF did not effect my drive, but I was drier and aid helped alot.

MomlovesEloise · January 2013

I don't want sex at all when I'm pregnant. My drive is so low, I don't even want to be touched. My drive got much better while breastfeeding, but I found that I needed a lot of lube and foreplay to get going. Everything went back to normal when I weaned.

RayRay007 · January 2013

My drive was zilch while I was bf'ing for 14 months. My cycles returned at 5 months, but no drive. Now I noticeably get frisky when I'm fertile.

MrsGoodkat · January 2013

My drive was okay during pregnancy and totally lacking during BFing. We typically use my breasts for foreplay to get me turned on and it just wasn't working when they were full of milk. It's better now and I do get really horny during O time especially.

blowfish11 · January 2013

For the first 20 weeks of pregnancy, I couldn't get enough sex. I was like a 17 year old boy.After that, I didn't want to be touched.

And now, 2 months into breastfeeding, I could take it or leave it. I don't really care that much.

Cbidt's girl · January 2013

Bf lowered my drive. Exhaustion lowered it more. Sex was not a priority for almost a year, we had it but probably once or twice a month. My kids didn't sttn until after a year. I bf ds for 18 months and ds2 for almost 3 years. My drive definitely returned partially before weaning completely. It probably returned fully after weaning. It may be psychological, but until my breasts were just for sex again something was missing. I loved nursing so it was worth it for me.

Jlobebe2012 · January 2013

Every woman responds to their changing hormones differently. For me, during the first trimester of pregnancy, I was a horn dog. During the last trimester I was uncomfortable and self concious, I didn't want to be touched.

Now still BFing (well EPing to be exact) I have no sex drive. I have no desire to have sex at all. AF returned at 10 months, and I was hoping that would help, well it did ont. My H knows how to get me going, but it takes me longer than before and lots of effort on his part. I sure hope it gets better after we have weaned.

catycate · January 2013

I swear to god, I think the pregnant women who want it all the time is a myth that keeps men going. I don't know a single woman who wanted sex while pregnant, including myself.

I only BF for 8 weeks, so I can't attest to that, but I have heard that.

HenHen25 · January 2013

MomlovesEloise:
I don't want sex at all when I'm pregnant. My drive is so low, I don't even want to be touched. My drive got much better while breastfeeding, but I found that I needed a lot of lube and foreplay to get going. Everything went back to normal when I weaned.

This.

LoveBeingAWife33008 · January 2013

I BF and I never want it. Ever.

thetheisens · January 2013

I had a high sex drive while pregnant and nursing, I bf a year. The only time I had a dip in my sex drive was when I weened, my hormones went crazy and I was very depressed for a couple of weeks. Like PP said, hormones affect everyone differently. I think just like marriage in general, your sex life needs attention and can take some work. Making a little time and putting forth a little effort can make a big difference. I don't mean you need to force yourself to have sex with your SO, but doing something that you know usually puts you in the mood.

missyishere · January 2013

thetheisens:
I had a high sex drive while pregnant and nursing, I bf a year. The only time I had a dip in my sex drive was when I weened, my hormones went crazy and I was very depressed for a couple of weeks. Like PP said, hormones affect everyone differently. I think just like marriage in general, your sex life needs attention and can take some work. Making a little time and putting forth a little effort can make a big difference. I don't mean you need to force yourself to have sex with your SO, but doing something that you know usually puts you in the mood.

Like taking an evening away and going to a porn shop like DH and I did

DH and I have an off and on sex life, but we still try to come back to a good sexual relationship when we can. BFing definitely put a hinder on my intimacy around my chest. To this day (I still nurse once a day), I don't want him fondling them. It just weirds me out, but I'm sure that will change once DD's completely weened.

NerdyMama2 · January 2013

My drive definitely is down now that I'm BFing again.

PayolaCrayola · January 2013

I still dont want it really. Im always tired and poor DH gets it once a week if hes lucky. I know I need to make the effort because he gets so down when I dont want it but ugh....takes me a long time to get into it too and that sucks too!

bigbootyjudi · January 2013

It's been the opposite for me. I didn't want to be touched when I was pregnant and had no desire to DTD whatsoever. We had to wait until 20 weeks anyways because of health related things, and even after 20 weeks, I was like,"Ehhhhh...no."

Now, I EP and I'm all about it. We're DTDing more now than we have in seven years.

Nita2603 · January 2013

I was all for it while pregnant. Even though I was sick the entire time and all.
Now I am EPing and I don't want to even think about it. At all.

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