How much to give?

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · January 2013

So. My friend's mom's funeral is this weekend.

The family is asking that instead of sending flowers, we make a donation to a foundation they chose. I've never done this before, so my question to you is: how much does one give in those circumstances?

My group of girlfriends is getting together to get my friend a plant (one she can actually keep at home vs just flowers) because she and her mom really shared a pretty amazing green thumb. The plant costs $100 and there's 8 or 9 of us, so it's really only be a little over $10 each, which I feel is VERY little, which is why I also want to make a donation. I just don't know how much to give. I was thinking $50, but I have NO idea if that would be appropriate.

TIA

NotSharknado · January 2013

50 or more. We always do a hundred. But I think 50 is a decent amount too.

amywalt1684 · January 2013

I would probably do 50 as well.

JaysonandKristin · January 2013

shanado:
50 or more. We always do a hundred. But I think 50 is a decent amount too.

This is us, too. $50 is plenty, anything above that is generous as well.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · January 2013

Thanks for the feedback.

I came up with that number because I figure that's about how much I would have spent on flowers. I wouldn't have bought an actual funeral wreath, but would have wanted a nice bouquet, and I feel $50 would have covered it.

JaysonandKristin · January 2013

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha:
Thanks for the feedback.
I came up with that number because I figure that's about how much I would have spent on flowers. I wouldn't have bought an actual funeral wreath, but would have wanted a nice bouquet, and I feel $50 would have covered it.

A family friend's 20 year old daughter died last year, and when I went to purchase flowers for them I was shocked. I decided to not waste my money. I called a local caterer and spent the $70 on 2 nights worth of dinners being delivered instead. Flowers can be such a joke!!

MrsCase1 · January 2013

JaysonandKristin:
Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha:
Thanks for the feedback.
I came up with that number because I figure that's about how much I would have spent on flowers. I wouldn't have bought an actual funeral wreath, but would have wanted a nice bouquet, and I feel $50 would have covered it.
A family friend's 20 year old daughter died last year, and when I went to purchase flowers for them I was shocked.  I decided to not waste my money.  I called a local caterer and spent the $70 on 2 nights worth of dinners being delivered instead.  Flowers can be such a joke!! 

This is why I love you. Flowers are a rip off and meals are so thoughtful.

I think 50 is generous and thoughtful.

countrywed · January 2013

I wouldn't worry about the amount, donate what you are comfortable with. From my grandpa's funeral, I think over 1/2 the donations just said "A donation was made to Non Profit Organization in honor of Grandpa" Even if it was only $10 I think it was the guesture that counted.

melissa0726 · January 2013

I was thinking $50 before I even read other replies, but wasn't sure as I have never done this before either. So it sounds like $50 is appropriate.

amywalt1684 · January 2013

JaysonandKristin:
Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha:
Thanks for the feedback.
I came up with that number because I figure that's about how much I would have spent on flowers. I wouldn't have bought an actual funeral wreath, but would have wanted a nice bouquet, and I feel $50 would have covered it.
A family friend's 20 year old daughter died last year, and when I went to purchase flowers for them I was shocked.  I decided to not waste my money.  I called a local caterer and spent the $70 on 2 nights worth of dinners being delivered instead.  Flowers can be such a joke!! 

So practical, I love it!

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · January 2013

LalaMama81:
countrywed:
I wouldn't worry about the amount, donate what you are comfortable with. From my grandpa's funeral, I think over 1/2 the donations just said "A donation was made to Non Profit Organization in honor of Grandpa" Even if it was only $10 I think it was the guesture that counted.
This, they aren't going to find out how much you donated, so go with what makes you comfortable and what is financially responsible for you. Don't worry about what someone will think, because they really will only care about the thought.

Thanks for the heads up - The idea that donations were actually anonymous hadn't even crossed my mind.

fancefpp · January 2013

shanado:
50 or more. We always do a hundred. But I think 50 is a decent amount too.

I agree with this

countrywed · January 2013

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha:
LalaMama81:

countrywed:
I wouldn't worry about the amount, donate what you are comfortable with. From my grandpa's funeral, I think over 1/2 the donations just said "A donation was made to Non Profit Organization in honor of Grandpa" Even if it was only $10 I think it was the guesture that counted.

This, they aren't going to find out how much you donated, so go with what makes you comfortable and what is financially responsible for you. Don't worry about what someone will think, because they really will only care about the thought.

Thanks for the heads up - The idea that donations were actually anonymous hadn't even crossed my mind.

Not Anonymous, A card from the Non Profit organization that read something like that was in the sympathy card from the people donating. Or the donater wrote in the sympathy card themselves that they made a donation to Blank in Deceased's memory. Make sense?

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · January 2013

countrywed:
Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha:
LalaMama81:

countrywed:
I wouldn't worry about the amount, donate what you are comfortable with. From my grandpa's funeral, I think over 1/2 the donations just said "A donation was made to Non Profit Organization in honor of Grandpa" Even if it was only $10 I think it was the guesture that counted.

This, they aren't going to find out how much you donated, so go with what makes you comfortable and what is financially responsible for you. Don't worry about what someone will think, because they really will only care about the thought.

Thanks for the heads up - The idea that donations were actually anonymous hadn't even crossed my mind.

Not Anonymous, A card from the Non Profit organization that read something like that was in the sympathy card from the people donating. Or the donater wrote in the sympathy card themselves that they made a donation to Blank in Deceased's memory. Make sense?

Oh yeah, I meant the amount. Sorry. It doesn't look like it, but I swear I actually did understand what you meant

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