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August 2011 Moms
MrsCase1
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...:::JNK:::...
MrsCase1
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Hope this isn't too nosey...
I saw in a diff post you've had two csections. And I know you want to have a minimum of one more baby presumably via c/s.
I was curious if your doctor had anything to say about having more than 3 c/s? My c/s was elective. Prior to it I had wanted, like, 5 kids, but she told me she was only comfy with 3 pregnancies, 4 TOPS and really wasn't a big supporter of 4 surgeries. Obviously I could adopt I was just curious since I don't know many other c/s moms.
I saw in a diff post you've had two csections. And I know you want to have a minimum of one more baby presumably via c/s.
I was curious if your doctor had anything to say about having more than 3 c/s? My c/s was elective. Prior to it I had wanted, like, 5 kids, but she told me she was only comfy with 3 pregnancies, 4 TOPS and really wasn't a big supporter of 4 surgeries. Obviously I could adopt I was just curious since I don't know many other c/s moms.
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Re: ...:::JNK:::...
While VBA2C is an option for me, I'm choosing another c/s for a multitude of reasons. My doc is comfortable performing more c/s because my uterus has healed beautifully, and my scar tissue isn't so thick that she'll have difficulty cutting through it. The way your uterus heals should be a factor considered when your doc is assessing you for c/s. Just making a blanket determination about the number of c/s she will allow is treating by the book, not treating the patient. I cannot tell you how much I DESPISE this!!
While you could adopt, you could also find a new doctor.
Another big factor is allowing enough time before your pregnancies. I mean, I know that women carry babies just fine with only a few months between the two pregnancies, but in all reality, it's not ideal for healing.
I would just talk to your doctor, and maybe even a few more doctors about your family plan and figure out a way to make it a reality. If after discussions your doc still insists the 4 is the maximum, and you want a family of 10 kids, perhaps you do adopt, or hire a surrogate or whatever.
She did agree with you on the waiting issue. She insisted I wait several months between pregnancies. She said even if it looks great on the outside, the inside might still need more time to heal. This was no issue for me seeing as I didn't want back to back babies. My incision was a nightmare so I think I will pick her brain about it when I see her. I didn't take it as easy as I should have and I had another surgery a month later and overdid it then, too.
I don't mean to make her sound like she doesn't provide individual care. In fact, I love and adore her as a physician. She said it was her "general rule" and like I said, my c/s was elective to start with, so she said these things in discussion prior to me making my decision. I don't know if you remember from several months ago but I shared how she made me promise not to be a member of two specific religions because she could absolutely not sign off on 6, 7, 8 c/s, LOL! Her whole schpeel is how she wants every woman's birth to be the birth they want and that fulfills their needs as much as medically possible, so if I wanted to have my own soccer team, she insisted I at least try for a vaginal birth. Back when I was pregnant a lot of women slammed my doctor for allowing me to have a c/s when not medically necessary (which was debatable given my medical history, but I digress.) And I was like, 'It's the opposite. She wants me to have the best birth possible so she is giving me choices, whereas some women feel like they have none.' Since I'm rambling, I will say, my husband comes from a suuuuuuper tiny family (like, 7 people total on both sides, lol) so he only wanted 2 kids, compared to my 4. We compromised on 3 and that will likely be all we can afford so I guess this is all moot. I just love hearing stories from other c/s moms!!
::butting in::
My doctor has said nothing about how many c-sections she will perform. I guess I've never asked either, though. If we decide to have another baby (which is becoming more of a "when" than and "if" for me finally), I will opt for a repeat c-section. Guess I should bring this up with my doctor eventually.
Have either of you thought about getting your tubes tied after your final c-section, assuming you know it is your final c-section going in?
::butting out to scroll down to see if we just had the tubes/c-section discussion. I feel like this was recently discussed.::
OMG to the "when!!" Hooray for Family Tuna!!
After J&K 4.0 I'll be getting a tubal done. Well, during the c/s itself, I am going to have a tubal. Jay and I have already discussed this.
DH and I haven't really talked about it. We still haven't even talked about having another kid, lol. But I think I will bring it up with him when we start having those conversations.
Hooray for more bebes!
I don't want a tubal. My husband is the one who wants fewer kids so he can get a vasectomy.
That's an interesting perspective. DH and I have some discussing to do, lol.
::butts in::
I know nothing about CS / RCS.
OMG TUNA 2.0!!!!
::butts out::
I'm sure by interesting you mean totally weird and/or petty. I know! I am a PITA. Ha! Besides, I don't ever want him to be able to have kids without me! That's my main reason.