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Newbie and intro

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Hello all...

 I am new here.  I'm Erin.

 I have twin 4 year old boys, a 6 year old SD, and a 2 year old SS.

The fun part is that I not only have one baby momma but two.

 SD is from from DH's previous marriage and SS is from a previous relationship.  SS mom pretty much admitted in court that she intentionally got preggers because she thought DH would marry her.

 Needless to say, both of his exes are bat sh!t crazy.

Anyhoo, I need lots of advice.  I am new to this step mom thing and DH and I aren't married yet, July 4th is the big day, however, we do live together so there is two people enforcing rules, two disciplinarians now, and lots more people to please, take care of, and pay attention too.

 We have SD every other week, however, her mom cannot pick her up from daycare so DH picks her up everyday and we have her until about 6:30 every night.

We have SS one week a month.  His mom lives out of state.  DH is taking his mom back to court in the next few months to get more time with him.  She is a bit uncooperative and we have in writing her telling  us that it is not in SS best interest to spend more time with his father.  She is still bitter about DH not wanting to be with her let alone actually marry her.  She was not at all happy to hear about me :)

We have my boys 20 days of the month and every other weekend.  Their dad has a weird work schedule which only allows him to see them 8 days of the month.  His parents keep them one of his weekends because he has work.  I am fine with this because they get to spend time with their grandparents and aunts.

I will be certifiably crazy by the last one graduates kindergarten :)

 I look forward to venting to you ladies and for any advice you throw my way.  

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  • HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
    Welcome!

    BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012

    BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013

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  • lb1212lb1212 member

    Welcome!!

    Wow - two BMs....I'm so sorry for you!

    I suggest lots of wine and venting! Best wishes!

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  • bebe11bebe11 member

    I have two BM's also. It's so fun.... my stepkids are a little older though.  But in the begining BM2 was a fricking nighmare to deal with, I think because she was still bitter about their breakup, a year later.  It has gotten easier, mainly because I just keep my nose out of things related to BM's and the stepkids.  I also have two bio kids that I brought to the marriage. 

    Good luck!

     

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  • kbeamer25kbeamer25

    Aloha Erin!

    Welcome to the club! Thanks for the intro and bio. I can relate to your situation..I have an eight year old daughter and her father and I are in a split-parenting situation as well. It took us almost 4 years to get on an even keel when it came to our different parenting styles- but we finally have reached a positive point. I hope your situation goes the same way eventually.

    I've always been frustrated with certain parents who can't grasp the fact that its about "the child's best interest" not their own. Good luck!!

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