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Level with me ladies...hubby needs to go out of town.

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DH just called me from work and said his boss offered him the chance to go down our alma mater and do some interviews.  It is a good chance to bond with his boss and would be fun for him to visit the place where we went to school, however, it is not until February 5th and I will be 38 weeks at the time.  He will have to fly and stay overnight.  Our concern is we just moved to  a new town and I have literally no family and no close friends to call if something went wrong.  I know the chances of Baby coming during those few days are slim, but at the same time it is our first, and DH and I took natural birth classes and he is my labor coach so I couldn't imagine doing it alone.  Not to mention that my parents are over 4 hours away so if something went wrong I would literally be alone.  So help me, ladies! I told DH I couldn't make the decision for him, but he is just as torn about it as I am and we don't know what to do...
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Re: Level with me ladies...hubby needs to go out of town.

  • moosegalmoosegal member
    How long of a flight is it? I'd probably tell him to go if he could hop a plane and get back home within a few hours if needed.
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    Definitely won't be any direct flights available.  Our closest airport is very small.  He would have to transfer so probably not a short flight.
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    Definitely won't be any direct flights available.  Our closest airport is very small.  He would have to transfer so probably not a short flight.

    Hmm...I dunno then. I probably wouldn't be as comfortable with that set-up either. It's too bad they don't make this labor prediction thing any easier!

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  • mrsduggermrsdugger

    Me personally...I'd tell him hell no. I know most wives aren't as bossy as me though haha.  Your baby is only born once and that trip isn"t exactly something that would trump you child being born.  That's just me though.

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  • artroyerartroyer member
    Eh... I'd definitely be upset, but the chances of your baby coming then are slim. There are no guarantees though. Personally, if it were me, I'd let DH go, but only IF it were going to benefit him at work. If it's not a benefit to him though, then there's no reason for him to go.

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  • jd614jd614 member
    despite family being 4 hrs away is there anyway you can ask someone to drive up and stay with you the few days he is gone just in case?
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  • Poppy523Poppy523 member

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    despite family being 4 hrs away is there anyway you can ask someone to drive up and stay with you the few days he is gone just in case?

    I don't think so, it is during the week and both my parents work full time still.  However, he just told me it would only be one night.  He would fly out Monday morning and fly back Tuesday evening.

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  • wifeofadamwifeofadam member
    If it was really important to DH's job, I would let him go.  This is all assuming he could get home easily if he needed to.  I probably wouldn't have done it with my first, but now it wouldn't bother me.
        
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  • froggystomperfroggystomper member
    I'm a worst case planner. Are you willing to explain to everyone and their mother, and at some point your child, why dad was out of town when they were born? Yes it is a very slim chance that they will arrive while he's gone but what you guys need to decide is the "benefit" of bonding with his boss worth the risk of missing babies arrival. You've made it pretty clear he can't just hop on a flight back so I'd personally not risk it. But like I said this debate is you guys weighing risks, not me. I really highly doubt his boss would find the, "I'm sorry but I just don't want to risk missing my child's birth" offensively. Guys are weird but I think they understand that :)
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  • newmompeanutnewmompeanut member
    imagejessicalgilmore:

    imagejd614:
    despite family being 4 hrs away is there anyway you can ask someone to drive up and stay with you the few days he is gone just in case?

    I don't think so, it is during the week and both my parents work full time still.  However, he just told me it would only be one night.  He would fly out Monday morning and fly back Tuesday evening.

     

    If it's only one night I'd say go for it!  I don't know, it's only 48 hours basically.  Even if you started labor he would most likely be back in time :)  I don't know, that's just me. 

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  • pamelaam2468pamelaam2468
    I would definitely say no way! My first was born at 39 weeks and my second at 37 weeks. There are no guarantees you will have that baby at 40 weeks!
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  • amywalt1684amywalt1684 member
    imagenewmompeanut:
    imagejessicalgilmore:

    imagejd614:
    despite family being 4 hrs away is there anyway you can ask someone to drive up and stay with you the few days he is gone just in case?

    I don't think so, it is during the week and both my parents work full time still.  However, he just told me it would only be one night.  He would fly out Monday morning and fly back Tuesday evening.

    If it's only one night I'd say go for it!  I don't know, it's only 48 hours basically.  Even if you started labor he would most likely be back in time :)  I don't know, that's just me. 

    I agree with this. My DH travels a lot for his job. He won't travel 2 weeks up to my due date. However, a lot of the time his work is actually 2-3 hours away from an airport. So our rule of thumb is IF the airport is in reasonable distance, he goes. Even if he heads to the airport the moment you go into labor, sometimes it can take several hours to even get a flight out, so that is something else to think of.

    That being said... labor typically takes a LONG time. ;)

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  • twirlyjack73twirlyjack73 member
    I wouldn't go for him flying at this time of year merely b/c of germs.  That alone would kill the deal.
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  • amberrae45amberrae45
    If its important to his career and its only an over night trip i would let him go. My H is leaving for a conference this week and im already almost 5cm dilated and entirely effaced, my doctor is suprised im still pregnant but Dh could take a direct flight back home. I think its a matter of what you are comfortable with.
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  • GeeksWithSqueaksGeeksWithSqueaks member

    I personally would tell him to go, it sounds like its a great opportunity for him at work, or at least might open some doors for later. 

    But then I am Bias Dh is going to have to drive to get to me when I go into labour (it will take him 12 hours) and we both discussed it. And as important as we both felt it would be for him to be there, we felt it was more important for him to finish what he is doing for work/school. Because its one day and there are  going to be a thousand more special ones where LO will remember if he is there are not opposed to this one. *Shrugs* But that is just how we choose to look at it. 

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