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just a question

Bay9109Bay9109 member
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My fiance and myself have a son together and then he has a five year old son who is with us all the time.  He is my son no matter what blood or papers say i love him like i have always had him.  At the age of 14 months his birth mother walked out and never really looked back.  She has lived within an hour of him since she left and has sent only  a few emails asking about him.  He will be six in less then two weeks.  When we get married i want to file to adopt my step son, and in the state we live in you can file abandonment.  My question is to all of you mothers out there do you believe that a few emails is enough effort to keep me from being able to adopt my SS? Being a mother i cannot imagine living that close and knowning where to find my child and not trying a whole lot harder then that to be apart of their life.  Help!!! I just want to know if i am being crazy here or if i may actually stand a shot at being able to.  My SS could not pick his birth mother out of a line up.  He has absolutely no idea who she is.
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  • HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
    I don't know your location but in the case of my friend the grandparents were able to adopt even with the text messages and emails. Their attorney, and the judge agreed, that a child cannot read or respond to text or email so no attempt to have a relationship with the child existed.

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  • mccall0113mccall0113 member
    wow, no first hand experience, just wanted to wish you luck!
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  • simplaw215simplaw215 member
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    You ned to discuss this with an attorney who specializes in such matters.

    When a friend did this 20 years ago, birthday cards were considered "contact" and it set the process back several years.

     

    Good luck.

     

    This.  Every state has different laws about the requirements for abandonment.  In some states, a few text messages would be enough.

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