Mil Monday

karleegirl · January 2013

Watcha got ?

karleegirl · January 2013

Same old story with mine. She didn't come to ds2's bday party for some lame reason. But she sent him a card saying she was going to come and get him this past weekend and they were going to do fun stuff. I'm so glad I didn't read that aloud to him. She didn't call and didn't return dh's text on Friday. I wanted to call her on Saturday but h said no, so...
I try not to say anything in front of h because he feels bad enough.

michelle7482 · January 2013

karleegirl:
Same old story with mine. She didn't come to ds2's bday party for some lame reason. But she sent him a card saying she was going to come and get him this past weekend and they were going to do fun stuff. I'm so glad I didn't read that aloud to him. She didn't call and didn't return dh's text on Friday. I wanted to call her on Saturday but h said no, so...
I try not to say anything in front of h because he feels bad enough.

Wow, that is just horrible. I feel bad for your son, and hubby. At least you shield your son from your MIL the best you can.

Lena122 · January 2013

I've got a good one. She talked to an animal psychic "just for fun" about their pet dog. According the psychic, their dog loves Munchkin because MIL loves Munchkin. Here's the fun part: the dog told the psychic that Munchkin smiles so much because a small blonde haired, freckle faced girl, who is apparently his guardian angel or a ghost, is always around him. He smiles at the angel. THANK YOU FOR CREEPING ME THE EFF OUT MIL!

amber31288 · January 2013

Lena122:
I've got a good one. She talked to an animal psychic "just for fun" about their pet dog. According the psychic, their dog loves Munchkin because MIL loves Munchkin. Here's the fun part: the dog told the psychic that Munchkin smiles so much because a small blonde haired, freckle faced girl, who is apparently his guardian angel or a ghost, is always around him. He smiles at the angel. THANK YOU FOR CREEPING ME THE EFF OUT MIL!

That would terrify me. She told you that? I'd be so mad.. Especially because I'd probably never be able to sleep again!

MrMrsandBaby · January 2013

Mine isn't a MIL, it is my mom!

She is driving all of her kids nuts lately. The woman is hell-bent on selling the crappy house my parents have now to buy a nicer one. Fine, it's about time...but she is making it everyone else's problem. My mom decided that to sell it they needed to update it (something they have talked about for YEARS). So they are ripping down wallpaper, painting, giving the kitchen a facelift, putting down new floors, the whole shebang. But she won't pick a paint color because she wants "people to walk in and say wow." Insert eye roll (that is the same thing she said about my wedding - and that one ended up being more her taste than mine).

Somehow, she still thinks it is ok for Allison to be ther ein themiddle of the disaster that is the living room. Ummm...no? There are bits of wallpaper all over the floor, uncovered electrical outlets (so they can paint), ladders, paintbrushes...you get the idea.

Also, my younger sister and brother still live at home and mom considers them her personal slaves. She leaves a list of things to get done during the day (sister isn't working right now, brother works 2nd shift), bitches at them if every.single.thing. isn't done, but then sits on her ass at night watching TV. WTF? On Sunday, I saw her at church and she actually tried to guilt trip me into coming over to help. Nope, I don't live there and it isn't my responsibility. I may have gone to help if she wasn't such a tyrant about it. She stands there and dictates while my siblings and dad do all the work.

Oh my gosh, I could go on and on with this one. Moral of the story, Allison won't be there for a while. Not until it is done.

Jen0204 · January 2013

My MIL is awesome with the girls. The girls actually spent the night there Saturday night because my FIL leaves for India today and will be gone for 2 months so he wanted to spend a lot of time with them. And, of course, H and I appreciated the opportunity to sleep.

However, she is OBSESSED with weight. I dropped them off Saturday around lunch because H and I had a dentist appointment. I told her that they've been really hungry lately and I think they're going through a growth spurt. She asked what they ate for breakfast and I said they split a banana, a scrambled egg, a packet of oatmeal, and a container of yogurt. She said that she doesn't want me to overfeed them because she doesn't want them to be fat. I said they're little and they're even small for their height because the pants that fit them lengthwise are too loose in the waist and some even fall down. She said that Olivia is walking better because she's lighter and that if Natalia wasn't so heavy she would be walking better too. I said that's not true at all.

H is going to talk to her. He would prefer to wait to hear her say something (not because he doesn't believe me, but because it's better to address it as it happens). She made a lot of comments about my weight early on and he shut it down quickly. His whole childhood she harped on weight and he doesn't want theirs to be like that. I just really hope that he can get through to her because other then this she is truly wonderful with them and they adore her and my FIL but if she doesn't stop we'll have to severely reduce the amount of time they spend with her and not let them spend time with her alone (which would also suck for H and I since that's the only time we get alone together). But as great as she is with them I don't want them to be focused on weight from such a young age and I don't want to set them up for eating disorders. I mean heck, if she's saying they're overweight and they're so tiny I can only imagine how it will be when they catch up and are a normal size.

jk382 · January 2013

I've got one this week. We had LO's birthday party on Saturday. My SIL has a son a little older than my LO. MIL and FIL act like my nephew is the greatest thing in the world. They spent all their time with him, practically ignoring my LO. The pictures my MIl took of the birthday party were mostly of my nephew. Also, for both Christmas and the birthday they barely bought my LO anything, when they got my nephew a ton of things. It isn't what they buy or how much they spend, it's the fact that it isn't equal that bugs me. I don't want LO to grow up feeling like he is less than my nephew...I'd rather him not have a relationship with them. Yuck!!!

n8swife · January 2013

Jen0204:
However, she is OBSESSED with weight. I dropped them off Saturday around lunch because H and I had a dentist appointment. I told her that they've been really hungry lately and I think they're going through a growth spurt. She asked what they ate for breakfast and I said they split a banana, a scrambled egg, a packet of oatmeal, and a container of yogurt. She said that she doesn't want me to overfeed them because she doesn't want them to be fat. I said they're little and they're even small for their height because the pants that fit them lengthwise are too loose in the waist and some even fall down. She said that Olivia is walking better because she's lighter and that if Natalia wasn't so heavy she would be walking better too. I said that's not true at all.

Jen, my SIL has the same problem with her MIL. Her MIL would actually water down the formula was she was watching my niece. My SIL confronted her about it but she still makes comments and my niece is now 6 and very thin. Good luck. I hope your H can get through to her.

2chatter · January 2013

I've got nothing here. We went dinner with MIL and FIL and had a great time, she adores DS and the girls...she rocks. My biggest stress with her is she is game to spend $100 on DS and I wish she would just go and choose some thing(s). When she asks me ... I have no idea and want it to be a GIFT, not me dictating what to buy. It makes me feel bad and .... I would feel she was more switched on if she went shopping and chose something she thinks he would like.

Jen0204 · January 2013

n8swife:
Jen, my SIL has the same problem with her MIL. Her MIL would actually water down the formula was she was watching my niece. My SIL confronted her about it but she still makes comments and my niece is now 6 and very thin. Good luck. I hope your H can get through to her.

Every week she says they should be on 2% milk. On the days that they'll be there without us for a feeding I always check their fridge and make sure they have whole milk. I told her yesterday that the extra fat in the whole milk is necessary for brain development and that they can go to 2% at 2 years old. At this point even if they're still small and we keep them on whole milk when they turn 2 I'll let her use 2% just to shut her up, but until then she needs to listen to us.

And H will get through to her. He went off on her about me - it's the only time I've ever seen him angry. And as much as he and I love the few hours we get alone each week while they hang out there he'll make it clear that either she cuts it out or she won't get them anymore. I'm going to enlist BIL's help too. He lives there and when he hears about this he'll be mad too and as the oldest son his words are worth their weight in gold.

kristin172429 · January 2013

I've got two this week! One for MIL, one for my mom.

MIL: The pop-in! We tell DH's parents over and over and over again, PLEASE CALL before coming over. Apparently, she is under the assumption that if she calls, doesn't get an answer, leaves a generic message of "call me back" that she has met the requirement. Must we really specify that "call first" means make sure you call, we answer, and we agree to you stopping me?? She showed up with GMIL yesterday just as I was trying to get Ben down for a nap. So annoying.

Mom: Apparently, today is the "weight issues" installment of MIL Monday. My mom calls yesterday and is talking to me about how they saw Les Miserables. Then she starts talking about how ex-SIL's sister looks just like a girl in the movie...ya know, if she didn't have all that weight on her. She then goes on to say how ex-SIL's sister would be so beautiful if she lost 50 lbs and she really is just beautiful, but you just can't see it because of the weight. Dear Mom - as your plus-sized daughter who has about 80 lbs to lose, how the F@#K do you think this conversation is making me feel? I never really noticed how much she says and how much crap I must have absorbed into my own body issues growing up. It breaks my heart and makes me angry at the same time and I don't have it in me to have this conversation with her because I'm pretty sure I will break down into tears before I could say anything constructive.

pennyandandy · January 2013

Oh geez. My MIL, her BF and GMIL were here this weekend staying with us. GMIL was probably the worst. Part of it is just that she is getting old so she repeats her self over and over, part of it is that she thinks she is being cute by asking me dumb stuff. She asked me 15 times in an hour car ride if she could give Paul an M&M from the package in her purse. It is no longer funny after one time. By the 5th time I wanted to stab myself in the eye. Then she kept trying to cover Paul with a blanket and it was warm in the car. I finally took it away from her. Yep, I took stuff away from an 84 year old woman like I would a 3-year old.

MIL kept trying to pay for everything. We went to the grocery store and we got in a fight at the register because she swiped her card while I was unloading groceries. The cashier would not cancel the payment. I was pissed. I wish people would just do what I ask them to.

And MIL's BF brought three more stuffed animals out of one of those crane machines. Still not giving them to my child. Ever. They are now in my classroom treasure box.

Amberrrr · January 2013

Jen0204:
My MIL is awesome with the girls.nbsp; The girls actually spent the night there Saturday night because my FIL leaves for India today and will be gone for 2 months so he wanted to spend a lot of time with them.nbsp; And, of course, H and I appreciated the opportunity to sleep.However, she is OBSESSED with weight.nbsp; I dropped them off Saturday around lunch because H and I had a dentist appointment.nbsp; I told her that they've been really hungry lately and I think they're going through a growth spurt.nbsp; She asked what they ate for breakfast and I said they split a banana, a scrambled egg, a packet of oatmeal, and a container of yogurt.nbsp; She said that she doesn't want me to overfeed them because she doesn't want them to be fat.nbsp; I said they're little and they're even small for their height because the pants that fit them lengthwise are too loose in the waist and some even fall down.nbsp; She said that Olivia is walking better because she's lighter and that if Natalia wasn't so heavy she would be walking better too.nbsp; I said that's not true at all. nbsp;H is going to talk to her.nbsp; He would prefer to wait to hear her say something not because he doesn't believe me, but because it's better to address it as it happens.nbsp; She made a lot of comments about my weight early on and he shut it down quickly.nbsp; His whole childhood she harped on weight and he doesn't want theirs to be like that.nbsp; I just really hope that he can get through to her because other then this she is truly wonderful with them and they adore her and my FIL but if she doesn't stop we'll have to severely reduce the amount of time they spend with her and not let them spend time with her alone which would also suck for H and I since that's the only time we get alone together.nbsp; But as great as she is with them I don't want them to be focused on weight from such a young age and I don't want to set them up for eating disorders.nbsp; I mean heck, if she's saying they're overweight and they're so tiny I can only imagine how it will be when they catch up and are a normal size.

Jen, that really sucks. It's crazy how obsessed she is with their weight... They're babies!!! If she can't get over her problem, you're right to not let her be around your LOs that much. Girls have a hard time with their appearance enough thanks to the media and everything. They don't need to hear about it from their grandma..
My mom was obsessed with weight. She wouldn't let me snack if I wanted to eat something. Sometimes she would take food from the house to work with her, as a means of "punishing" me for doing something wrong.
As I became a teenager and moved out of her house to live with my dad, I packed on tons of pounds because I suddenly was allowed to eat when I was hungry. Then to reverse all the weight I gained, I starved myself and became anorexic.
The point is, Hearing someone you're close to talk about "fat people" all the time is extremely toxic. I'm glad you are aware of this... I wish you luck.
And its awesome your H sticks up for you guys.
It sounds so excessive. I can't believe she'd water down their formula to control their weight... thats really sad.

My MIL Monday rant is I wish MIL and FIL would come over more often. They usually see him every weekend but they haven't in a while and I'm worried he's going to be shy with them again. They've been sick and I understand this... But since he's getting bigger and a Heck of a lot more mobile, I'd prefer them to come over here to visit because our home is baby proofed. They have breakable things everywhere, and just so much for him to get into there. But they just haven't in a while and it makes me sad.

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