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Lilywildcat
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passive agression at its finest
Lilywildcat
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in Parenting
I apologize if this is TL;DR, but i can't really vent to anyone IRL because i don't want to perpetuate a war. I have to get it off my chest and writing it out makes me feel better. Yesterday we all went to a show together, me & DH, my sister and BIL, in our van. On our way to drop off my kids and my sister's dog to my mom's, her dog puked in the back seat of my van. They apologized and cleaned it up. No biggie. Traffic on the way downtown was insane, a few times my sister kept making comments like how we should have left earlier, and what routes we should have taken, we should have known that downtown traffic is bad etc. My hubby was driving and just ignored her, but was honestly trying his best.
Fast forward to home time, traffic out of the city is insane again. My sister and BIL are speaking in hushed voices in the back seat. I hear comments from my sister like 'well NO, i am NOT going to cook now, it's WAY too late to make the steaks' and 'well, if it didn't take us so long to get home then, i would have made them'. Then, later that evening, i see she posts a status update on FB saying how 'you know you are a horrible driver when the dog who eats her own shiit, pukes in your car'. It took a lot of self control for me not to say anything because i was not going to perpetuate a FB war of words, but my hubby just HAD to say something. He said 'well if YOU drove, maybe she would be more comfortable" To which she replied 'Oh it doesn't make a difference, she has puked in my car too' (ummm okkk) Then my hubby posts on his FB how he hates when people complain about other people doing things, then turn around and do it themselves. Like for example, when some people hate being around others who smoke, but will accept a drive home with a smoker. I gave him shiit for that because he just did what my sister did. I asked him not to lower himself to that level because it's going to start a FB war, and don't forget that my sister and him have FB friends in common and you know people will comment. I don't want to be in the middle of that so out of respect for me, don't post passive aggressive stuff like that.
I understand that my DH is pissed at her because of all the passive aggression, but also because they didn't chip in for parking, didn't even say thanks for the ride or thanks for the free tickets! Let me add that my sister and DH have never been best friends, but she is an instigator and loves passive aggression. They don't really get along and i have told them both in the past to suck it up and be civil for out of respect for me and my kids because i don't want to be in the middle of a war.
How would you handle this?
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Re: passive agression at its finest
This!
I really don't even get her post? What does this mean?
'you know you are a horrible driver when the dog who eats her own shiit, pukes in your car'.
A regular fb friend, I would ignore.
My sister? She'd get a phone call and a WTF? If you have something to say, say it to my face.
Jesus.
This. Your H shouldn't have to take her disrespect 'out of respect' to you. Wtf. I wouldn't take that from any of my IL's.
Don't let them ride with you.
Hide them on FB