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Hi Ladies, I'm Tracy!
Hi all,
I'm Tracy. I'm 36, DH is 50. He has 24-year-old daughter from a previous marriage. We are currently expecting our first together, a daughter we're naming Carly Marie, on April 24. I, however, am not pregnant.
I have a condition called Hidradenitis Suppurativa (HS), and it can get much, much worse with pregnancy (and stay that way permanently.) If I can't lift my arms or walk, I can't take of a baby. It's already that way at times, but I have help for those times when my condition flares. I can't risk it being becoming a permanent problem that would prevent me from caring for her. And to top it off, DH had a vasectomy.
So that pretty much left us with adoption, and the cost was a bit prohibitive...until my best friend (who is 36) offered to be our surrogate! I call her "B" on the boards. She is the bio and we used donor sperm. To use my egg, I would have had to take all kinds of meds that would mess with my body and could make the HS worse. To use DH's sperm, we would have had to do TESE, then IVF with ICSI. That would have cost in the tens of thousands, and is of course not guaranteed to work.
So in the end, we went with B as the traditional surrogate and we used donor sperm from a Cryobank. After the second natural cycle IUI at Jones, we got our BFP! We will be completing a standard adoption with home study. B will be "Aunt B" to Carly, and will be as involved in our lives as before (which is to say a LOT. She is more like my sister than my own sister is.) Her husband will be "Uncle J." We've given B's teenage daughter the choice of what kind of relationship she wants to have with Carly.
B is currently 26 weeks, and I have plenty of fears. Will Carly understand/accept the way we brought her into this world? Will she resent us? Will she ever truly understand how much she was wanted, planned, and adored?
I'm really so glad to have this board and all you ladies now! My BMB is awesome and amazing, and they accepted me even though I'm not the one expecting. Still, it's so nice to have this place...this community of women who know about this journey! Look forward to getting to know all of you better!
One of my best friends ("B") offered to be our surrogate, and we're now expecting a baby in April 2013 after two cycles of natural IUI at the Jones Institute. For medical reasons, we are not biologically related to our unborn child. Yes, I guess that makes this a "planned adoption."
Waiting for our Miracle Baby, Carly Marie, Due April 24, 2013!
Waiting for our Miracle Baby, Carly Marie, Due April 24, 2013!
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Re: Hi Ladies, I'm Tracy!
Welcome to the board. Congratulations on your little girl on-the-way. I think many of us have similar fears to the ones you mentioned. We adopted 5 embryos and I know we sure do too.
I'm so glad we all have this board and one another to support each other through such an new and uncharted world. I look forward to getting to know you!
************ Signature/Ticker Warning ************
Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
DH: Severe MFI
12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN
8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
My ovaries are just for decoration
12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts.
2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.
6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!
9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d.
11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522 Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373
6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!
Snowflake baby is a girl!
Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014!
My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake
3 failed IVF with OE and 2 failed frozen DE cycles
Last fresh hail mary DE cycle starting Feb 2013
PAIF/SAIF always welcome
April 2013 DE IVF= BFN
September 2013 DE IVF (Fingers Crossed) = BFFFN! again...
October 2013 FET of our last 2 = Beta Hellzz for 6-7 Weeks. M/C
What a wonderful friend!! Hoping the next 14 weeks go quickly and smoothly for you and your friend!
Ps-love the name Carly!!
DD conceived with no issues, but born at 33 weeks due to PPROM
loss #1-06/2010 loss #2-2/2011 loss #3-5/2011
07/2011 dx with a Balanced Translocation
9/2011-decided on domestic infant adoption 10/2011-signed with an agency and getting ready for homestudy
12-2012-after being with our agency over a year and only shown to EM once we decided to talk with RE about DEIVF. Thru a crazy sequence of events we decided to go for it and we picked a donor MUCH quicker than anticipated
1/13/2013-started lupron with anticipated transfer in mid Feb.
ER 2/15 resulted in 15 eggs/10M/6F with ICSI.
2/18 transferred 1-8cell and 1-9cell embie. Snuggle in little embies.
positive on HPT 6dp3dt. Could this really be IT?!?! Beta 14dp3dt=2440. U/S scheduled for 3/20.