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April 2012 Moms
anyones LO still NOT sttn?
ugh!! My LO slept throught the night at 3 month old. Until he got multiple sicknesses and hasnt slept through the night in over 5 months! I start back to school in 2 weeks and he is up 3-4 times a night. Most of the time he just wants to be held. He usually does eat a "snack" in the middle of the night. DH thinks we need to let him CIO but it is SO HARD for me to hear him cry! Im torn. I know I need to let him figure out how to fall back asleep on his own but......HELP me feel better about letting him CIO. or any other suggestions are welcomed
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Re: anyones LO still NOT sttn?
He slept through the night for 2 weeks in August; then we moved.
Last night DS woke up at 12:30, 3 and 5:30. He was up for good at 5:30. We're working on the No Cry Sleep Solution and it's helping, but it's a long process. I think LO is also just hungry and we're trying to get him to eat more during the day and less at night.
Glad to know Im not alone.
I'll have to google the No cry sleep method. My LO eats ALOT during the day so i dont necessairly think its that. I think he just wants to be held. which I love! but at the same time we need (and so does he) to sleep
Micah Leonard
Is he in his own room? Do you have a nightlight? Is there enough/too much noise? Sometimes playing some music can help them feel less alone (my older one listens to some bedtime classical stuff during the night, my younger one still has the white noise going). Does he have an ear infection or sickness or anything?
I'm no expert, of course, just some things that might help. I hope it gets better soon!
We are also still getting up several times a night. I feel your pain!
We started Ferber not quite 2 weeks ago and it has been going well. She has been STTN. It was really hard and still is when she cries especially if its for more than a couple minutes. But DH helps me stay strong and he does a lot of the check ins if needed. When I go in I don't want to leave, I want to pick her up. I found that me staying in there sometimes made it worse when I left. Last night I did go in before the time was up because she seemed real upset. She laid down and turned over, kept looking at me so I left figuring she was going to cry as soon as I left. She didn't! She actually fell asleep and I didn't hear from her until 7:30, 12 hours later.
FWIW, we tried no cry sleep solution, sleep lady shuffle and they just didn't work. I also admit that I didn't stay as consistent as I have been with Ferber.
DS is like this too. We've let him cry sometimes when nothing else will soothe him and "check ins" do nothing. He won't stop crying unless we pick him up and will start screaming as soon as we put him down. That's why we went with "No Cry Sleep Solution." It works in phases. Right now we're working on him not needing to eat to get to sleep.
How often does he get up?
You can try the pick up put down technique. I'm anti CIO and its not the only option.
With ds I have started putting him down when he is not in a dead sleep, he fusses a little and I shush and pat his back. If he cries harder I pick him up until he calms and I try again. The first two nights I was in his room 6 times in two hours. By the third night he did better. Now I pat for less that 20 seconds and rest my hand on his back. It's also common for babys to nurse at night for a year. He sleeps from 830 to 3 am and nurses then sleeps until 730-8. You could try the shush pat for the first wake up. It takes time but it pays off....it's worked for both of my lo's.
I hope you find something that helps.
i hear ya but the Ferber method does not say to pick LO up nor does it say that going into the room to reassure them is supposed to soothe them. In fact, the book says to expect them to be mad the first couple of times. You should do what you are comfortable with. We have been taking the Ferber approach and DD is changing her sleep associations pretty quickly.