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Security Risk at Day Care

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Need thoughts on a situation that is not my own...but affects my children. (XP to working moms)

At DS's day care there is what they term "a volatile father who has lost custody".  He has threatened to come to the school and kidnap his son.  The school is on constant lockdown, police pop in every two hours and they are vigilant.

I am nervous about DS being there with this situation.  All the classroom doors remain locked.  It would be easy to shoot the glass doors at the entry to the school and get in, though.  If he decided to come at pickup the door is opening and closing constantly. 

I am nervous and would appreciate your thoughts.  I may be overly nervous because my ex threatened these things, and more, and while nothing came of it, I lived in fear for a lengthy period of time.

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  • karatechrissykaratechrissy member
    If it is something that is bothering you on a constant basis, and you cannot shake it, I would suggest looking around for alternate child care. If you do not feel the doors are safe, and you feel this parent may come and hurt your child, I would not hesitate to gain peace of mind and find another facility. Not sure how easy that is as far as waiting lists and what not, but that would be what I would do.
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  • twister22twister22 member

    imagekaratechrissy:
    If it is something that is bothering you on a constant basis, and you cannot shake it, I would suggest looking around for alternate child care. If you do not feel the doors are safe, and you feel this parent may come and hurt your child, I would not hesitate to gain peace of mind and find another facility. Not sure how easy that is as far as waiting lists and what not, but that would be what I would do.

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  • danac2010danac2010 member

    When I worked at a daycare I had a little girl in my class who had a mom that lost custody and we were on high alert when she was there.  It was a younger child so we were in the classroom that faced the parking lot and we were always to watch out for her car or her.  She was not allowed to pick up the child.  We ran drills for what would happen is she showed up.  It's just as scary for the teacher as it is the parents.  Luckily we never had to worry about the situation because she never showed up. None of our parents knew about the situation and they wouldn't have been informed unless something happened.  Our director/owner felt this was the best and as a teacher I just did my best to keep the kids safe.

    Is this just a concern today?  Every day?  Just curious, do all the parents know or did you just hear something?  If you aren't comfortable I would look for another daycare.  I can tell you that the teachers and directors will do everything they can to protect all the kids and if the police are helping that is even better. 

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  • 2chatter2chatter member

    I think I am most concerned because I had a similar issue twice with DDs when they were at this center (ie my ex was the one saying crazy things, and once showed up drunk).  They never locked all the doors (main entrance) or the classroom doors. I think I need to ask the director why the super high alert.  The police were involved in my situation but never checked the girls/the girls' school.

    It started yesterday, and continued today.  I don't know how long it will continue. 

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    imagetwister22:

    imagekaratechrissy:
    If it is something that is bothering you on a constant basis, and you cannot shake it, I would suggest looking around for alternate child care. If you do not feel the doors are safe, and you feel this parent may come and hurt your child, I would not hesitate to gain peace of mind and find another facility. Not sure how easy that is as far as waiting lists and what not, but that would be what I would do.

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  • highlightshighlights member

    If you can find another center that you feel is more secure, I don't think that anyone could blame you for switching.

    However, I think you have to take into account that this sort of thing could happen at any time at any center. I guess on the bright side, they are doing everything they can to keep the kids safe. I think you also have to remember that everyone is on super high alert right now, with Sandy Hook still fresh in everyone's mind. That may account for the differences in procedure now versus when you had a similiar incident, not that this father is actually more dangerous.

    Good luck though, its a scary situation to be in, no matter what.

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    I think I am most concerned because I had a similar issue twice with DDs when they were at this center ie my ex was the one saying crazy things, and once showed up drunk.nbsp; They never locked all the doors main entrance or the classroom doors. I think I need to ask the director why the super high alert.nbsp; The police were involved in my situation but never checked the girls/the girls' school.It started yesterday, and continued today.nbsp; I don't know how long it will continue.nbsp;


    I would be curious with why the extra precautions this time as well. I would ask the director. It could just be that everyone is just bring extra cautious lately because of what happened in Connecticut.
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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member

    It does sound like it would be stressful to think about that everyday when dropping off your child.  Only you know whether or not it's worth it to move him.

    However, my prevailing thought is that right now, that school is probably the safest school in your community.  Sure, the threat is known, but that's just it - they know who to be looking for, and they have police presence and teachers on high alert. 

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  • lb1212lb1212 member

    I agree that not really knowing why the cops are checking on the d/c every 2 hours is cause for alarm. I would speak with the director and ask for more details. As you know from your own experiences, sometimes these things are empty threats. I think it's a good thing that the d/c is taking this seriously. It sounds like they are doing all they can to keep "their kids" safe - short of expelling the family in question. I do think you deserve answers. Hopefully they are just on "high alert" because of the recent CT. shootings.

    Good luck!

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  • Karma1969Karma1969 member
    The scary thing is that this happens at pretty much every daycare center or school, you just aren't usually privy to the info.

    Follow your instincts.
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  • MarSamWhitneyMarSamWhitney member

    imageKarma1969:
    The scary thing is that this happens at pretty much every daycare center or school, you just aren't usually privy to the info. Follow your instincts.

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    If you are that worried, I would not send her on monday. It will make you crazy. Find another place.



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