Loss CheckIn

Mrs Nice · January 2013

Welcome to our Thursday checkin!

I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

No. I really feel like I've been taking major steps backwards lately

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

To get back on track. I'm not sure how to do that though

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up?

I crank up one of my favorite songs or albums and immerse myself in it

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

TTCAL and how much I miss Corbin and how our family just seems incomplete without him and how wonderful it would be if he was here with us right now.

Noethola · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
I have been reading a lot of stories of other people's loss. Inevitabley in the moment they make me cry, and I am unsure if they are healing. But, after calming down a bit, I feel more connected with other people who have lost their little loves.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
I am attempting to find a group in town. I would like for DH to connect with other men.

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up? Looking at her pictures, talking to DH, journaling and taking a walk outside.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

TTC. I have my 6 week check-up on Monday. DH and I are both ready to start again. However, I am already obsessing over it, and we are not even there yet.

Bayberry12 · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

I started acupuncture and needed to talk about my history, why I was there and what I hoped to gain from it. I was able to talk about my pregnancies and losses with out completely breaking down.

I had my post D&C check and spent a lot of time talking with my Dr. about all the issues I am having and made a "new plan" for my next pregnancy. She suggests lovenox injections, and that scares me. But, she does approve of and was supportive of acupuncture and herbal supplements. It's one thing I can do to feel somewhat empowered through all this chaos.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

I want to keep eating health and working out. I also want to force myself to get out more. I am *trying* to keep track of my calories and what I eat. I am also trying to put scheduled outings in my calendar to make sure I get out and do whatever it is I need to do instead of just putting it off.

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up?

I'm not sure about this...maybe just curl up on the couch and watch a good movie, or even cleaning, it's a good distraction.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

TTC again. I want to just start again, but I have two wait at least 2 cycles. I haven't even had one yet.

tuscanbride2007 · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

Not necessarily this week, but since I haven't done a check in a while, in the month of December I have 1. looked at and sat next to my 2 month old niece 2. reached out to a friend that lost her baby to SIDS.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

Next goal is to reach out to my SIL. She announced her pregnancy a few weeks after we lost Annabelle and I pretty much avoided her during her pregnancy and since the birth of my niece.

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up?

Music always helps me. Even if it is a sad song that I play over and over, it just helps to get my emotions out.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

Annabelle's angelversary. I am 2+ months out and need to figure out what I want to do. I have some ideas, but haven't planned it out yet.

mrsneau · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? yes. I befriended a woman on facebook who reached out and offered her support, she recently lost a daughter to stillbirth as well.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? no goals really, just trying to survive each day

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up? looking at pics of Grace and talking about her with my hubby

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?really want to get pregnant asap, have a dr appt on Monday

WifeofaComposer · January 2013

I'm still new to this board, but I'm appreciating all of the communication and support here. I will participate more as I feel more open. Thank you for making me feel so welcome here.

OSUWifey09 · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I think I'm finally ready to meet my godson [he's four weeks old now]. I'm going home tomorrow for the long holiday weekend, and we're going to try to meet up. I hope I'm strong enough to do this.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? I want to continue exercising. I've been doing awesome with my fitness goals since the new year started, and I want to keep going. I want to be in the best shape possible before we really start TTC again.

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up? A good cry does the trick. And writing out my feelings in a journal so they don't eat at me.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I'm on BC right now, so we won't be able to try until at least April [or May]. But my cycles are still all over the place after five months, and I'm terrified I won't be able to get pregnant again. I'm trying to not let it consume me and just stick to the BC in the hopes that it will regulate my cycles and get us back on track for TTC this summer.

meli1025 · January 2013

**DS & babies mentioned**

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? Monday night I let myself have a really good cry and looked through Ava's memory box, at her footprints and her pictures. I also wrote a letter to her in my journal. Although the emotions felt like I was going backwards I feel that this is a necessary part of healing and a step in the right direction. I need to let myself have those moments.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? I'm just trying to eat healthier and so far so good. I'm trying to keep my weight where it is or maybe even lose a few lbs.

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up? DS is my saving grace. No matter what is happening he will always make me smile, even through tears. If I'm at work I will log in to the daycare webcam so I can see what he's up to. If I'm home I'll just play with him and talk to him. DH also helps to lift me up.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Ava is on my mind constantly and so is TTCAL. This week I took DS to the doctor and there were babies everywhere, he kept getting really excited saying "look mommy it's a baby!". I wanted to break down in the middle of the doctor's office because I know he would be such a great big brother and would've been so sweet to Ava.

lolee465 · January 2013

Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?

I taught myself (with youtube) how to crochet, and I made Jillian a really beautiful baby blanket. I felt so good about it, but now that it's done I've taken a lot of steps back. I only feel 'ok' when I'm busy so I should probably start a new project soon.

What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?

Nothing except TTC. I'm pretty sure I'm out this month..so FX for next month.

QOTW: When you are having a bad day, is there anything that helps to lift you up?

A hug from DH usually helps.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

How much I miss Jillian.:(

mmarquez209 · January 2013

Im angry most of the time at everyone. I started a journal I can write to my daughter. It helps some. all thats on my mind is I shuld be 27 Weeks pregnant nd planning my baby shower but instead im planning her funeral service for her due date. I stopped talking to all family nd friends excrpt my parents.

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