What would you do?

Re: What would you do?

• Katierudolph31

  January 2013

  Wow!! I would defiantly have a plan a b and c just to be safe. How far a long are you now? Maybe your OB can give you a growth us so you can see if the lungs are developed at 37 weeks that way your husband can be there and you won't have to worry about DS. I know induction isn't the choice for many, but in your case maybe it's the best route. I'm sure you will figure it out with your husband and everything will work out. Good luck

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• kelly321 member

  January 2013

  That would be really stressful. All you can do is have a couple of plans, but there's no possible way you can plan for every situation. I have inwardly already made peace with the fact that DH may miss the birth of LO2 because of our very difficult situation of finding someone to watch DD at certain times of the day. It almost makes me want to schedule a RCS just so I can be sure DH is there! (I said almost)
  

  
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• mrsdugger

  January 2013

  What does your husband do? This is 110% necessary? Man I'd be throwing a fit, but I guess if he's military or something you don't have much say.

  

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• ammoore13 member

  January 2013

  You mentioned calling the red cross so im assuming military? My husband will be deploying the week before my due date so I've done a lot of research on this. From what I understand (granted I didn't call and talk to anyone, but read a bunch about it) the red cross only contacts your husband after the baby is born. If you call them when you decide you're going to the hospital (which is my plan) they'd be able to tell u if they can go ahead and contact him but they supposedly have to verify it with the Dr so the baby has to be here first. that being said, I wonder if there is someone else in his command that u can call to get the message across ASAP. For example, my husband is navy so i can call our ombudsman and she can call the ship and give him a message. But being by yourself.. I'd make some plans a, b, and c. I'd go to the hospital sooner rather than later, which might not be the ideal thing, but being by yourself, you don't want to wait too long. I have a list of random people to call if I need help or feel like I need a ride to the hospital. Maybe u can find some people willing to help, I'm sure if u ask, people will be more than willing. I don't know many people here so on my list I've got the girl that lives above me... Lol... The lady who owns my dogs best friend.. And one of my old co-workers lol. But I'm sure you will be fine and baby will arrive when dad is home! Try not worry about it too much, just make some plans for in case.

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• krissywave member

  January 2013

  Can you go to the CDC and see if there are any providers that have a slot open for his age.  Than go talk to them and see if they would be able to help you?  Have you tried to talk to any of the other wives and see if they could help you?  Like PP said call the onbudsman (or what ever your branch is called im navy as well not sure other  branches names).  It may not be in your confront zone but alot of military wives have been just where you are. 

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• almostjennifer member

  January 2013

  Could you pay to fly out your mom/sister/cousin/friend/niece/anyone to come stay with you?  I'd be freaking out too.  My brother is in the military overseas and when his wife was 36 weeks pregnant I went and stayed with her for a few weeks because she was terrified no one would be there to watch their other child if she went into labor.

  SAHM to DD1 (7), DS (5) and DD2 (1)

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• SHAYD12 member

  January 2013

  We just moved here so I don't know any other wife's. yes my husband is military and he is going to the field for training, we tried to fight it but there's not much more we can do. I can call them when I get admitted but it can take 4 hours for them to get him back. 

  We have his grandma flying out but she is coming on the 28th the day after he gets home. We didn't know he was leaving till yesterday so if I would of known we could of scheduled it sooner but we didn't.

  My hospital will not induce unless its after 42 weeks.

  I am almost 38 weeks. (Sunday) but I'm starting to get scared because my BHs are getting worst and worst. I'm kinda hoping baby comes this weekend so I don't have to stress.. Then he won't go to the field at all. 

   

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• Ezekgab

  January 2013

  That really sucks, although I have no experience with a husband in military, with my second I had no warning signs of labour!! All of the sudden I was getting super strong contractions one on top of the other. Thanks god my mom was here because I couldn't even get down the stairs and into the car without assistance! My sister and BIL had my DS at the time and our hospital is five min away, but by the time I got there I was 7c dilated and DD came soon after. Not meaning to cause you more stress, but I seriously recommend what the other girls are saying, walk up to a nice looking wife and get to know her, let her know your situation, I'm sure most of them will have sympathy and understanding for you. Good luck with everything I hope your LO just comes while your DH is home, I can't imagine how you feel.
  

  
  
  

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